There is something wrong with people who want sex with someone who isn't into it so no. Generally I will whenever my boyfriend asks, but his tactic is to kiss me and turn me on until I want it as much as him anyway, and then he asks. Usually I will have sex even if I am really tired but there was one time I refused because I was so tired I literally couldn't keep my eyes open and he was like "Yeah if you are so tired you are going to be unconscious then that would make me a rapist, so I'll try again in the morning!" But the bottom line is that being in a committed relationship doesn't entitle you to the other person's body whenever you want. There are a lot of situations where it is less convenient for one person but they are into it anyway like if one person needs to leave for work but compromises on a quickie and they are both enjoying it's cool. But if one person feels they are entitled to sex any time and the other person really doesn't want to at the moment pressuring them is coercion and that's abusive. If you love someone and they say "No I really don't want to right now" you respect that, hell if anyone says no you have to respect that and stop pushing them.
No. I wouldn't have sex with my boyfriend in the middle of the night if I'm sleepy af and don't want to do it just as much as him. I don't see being in a relationship as having an obligation to satisfy his sexual desire 24/7.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2+ years and he's great but we both are able to say no to each other sometimes. That we can't have sex as often as usual, even though the other may want it, because we're busy with other work/school related things.
I prefer to pleasure him on a regularly scheduled and frequent basis, but if he occasionally really needs it bad in the middle of the night, the evening or the middle of the day, I have no problem with that. Just so long as he doesn't start doing that completely randomly all the time. That would bother me. Oh and I do like my sleep, so he'd especially better not do the middle of the night one very often of he knows what's good for him. :)
I want my partner to be kept as satisfied as possible. And most of the time, I can get myself in the mood for sex even if I'm a little tired or whatever. But if I have a legitimate reason for not being in the mood, such as not feeling well or something like that, then I'm not going to have sex just for him- and I'd expect him to be 100% okay with that.
your man must be so lucky:D
@Fit_man I hope he feels that way!
im sure he thinks so! i would do anything for you if i were him lol
I'm a guy and the best case scenario is when I reach for her, she sticks out what I grope and says hurt me,. Bad Daddy. However, a lot of men don't get the connection between fatigue and loss of libido in women. When a woman is tired, she just needs to rest. If she knows I forwent sex so she could sleep, she's much, much more likely to want to play hard to make up for it.
If there is some magic way that he can turn you on through the fog of fatigue, then you might share that with him. I'm very kinky and very anal. My ladies, as a rule sleep on their side with their back go me. If I take my lightly lubed big purple head, open her cheeks, and press it firmly against her anus, she reaches back and helps slide it in and she's ready for whatever I have in mind.
In a monogamous ltr, men have sexual needs that need to be filled to keep a happy and strong relationship.
In a monogamous ltr, women have emotional needs that need to be filled to have a happy and strong relationship.
I dont always want to massage my girl, or listen to issues she is having, or a plethera of other relationship responsibilities I have. But i do them anyways hecause i care about her and want her to be happy.
Same can be applied to sexually fulfilling your partner.
Of course there are limits of this example. A man demanding sex twice a day is less concerned for the relationship then he should be
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I vote yes. However I think it goes both ways. If you're tired or just not feeling like having sex, your man should respect this or at least be sensitive to how you feel about it.
You should always be openminded but have some limits. If you need to sleep or get something done, he should respect that and either have some patience or go to the bathroom.
I wouldn´t say whenever he wants it, but i think you should take care of your man if he really is that great and loving, these guy´s are rare and have to get their rewards for staying that way. But that doesn´t mean you should force yourself do jump into it in the middle of the night or something like that. He will be happy as long as he get´s some love now and then.
Nope. I've been with my guy for four years. I don't push him to have sex when he doesn't want to, so I expect the same respect from him. If someone's just not into it at that moment, then they're not into it, they shouldn't have to just lay back and think of England, y'know? :P
he has more than he ever dream of
I mostly agree but then again, I'm mostly horny 😊
My guy has standing permission to roll me over when I'm sleeping when the urge hits him. If I'm sick, on my period or have other extenuating circumstances, he won't press me, out of respect.
So far I never reject his request, unless if I am super tired! I believe if you aren't in the mood you shouldn't be doing it just because he wants to. The sex won't be amazing!
Good point!
Does the sex have to be amazing for you to do it?
@Jack_S Of course. What's the point of having sex with your partner if you don't enjoy it.
I don't know about "always" - but at the end of the day, if your man loves you, he should respect you as well. If that's the case, then I would try to err on the side of not turning him down when he wants/needs something - as I don't think I'd be in a relationship with a jerk that would sleep rape me. :)
Unless you feel like sex, only an asshole just wants you to spread your legs so he can get off. That is one reason I turned down most of the "quickies" my ex wife offered during our 25 years together. Unless she really wanted it, I rather wait until I could give her an orgasm also. Because no way she is going to orgasm during a quickie or in the middle of the night. she is just going to be leaking cum while she tries to sleep or walk...
I think more options are needed... it's not a 100% yes or no issue. I don't think if she's sick, or is sleep it should be yes. I do think it's a 75% of the time Yes, 25% of the time "not now" kind of answer.
I do think the schedule thing is complete BS, unless you have kids. I think 2-3 times a day isn't asking for too much;-*
I'd put in my time and make it worth her wild;-P
You don't "gave" sex period!
What kind of mind set it that? *Face palm*
*give*
unless I'm sick as fuck, I would say no.
I would be the one begging him for sex on any other day tho XD
I find it very hot when people say they do it more than twice everyday. I would like that too, so yeah, if he feels like it, I'm down for it. Unless I'm sick as fuck of course, or on my period, period sex sounds disgusting as fuck for me. I can still give him a bj if I'm on my period tho lol
wow i want you so bad!:)
If you wouldn't be into it then there is no point
Obviously I'm a huge advocate for pleasing the man I'm with, but if I'm in a deep sleep, I'd appreciate it if it wasn't interrupted. We can have sex when I wake up!
It doesn't matter to me because I'm really sexually active just by myself so I see no problem giving it up in the middle of the night. If he's happy and won't cheat, then I'm happy to do it
I lean more toward yes
I don't think that should be a requirement, just like if she wakes me up, I might not want to either.
The guys who have slept with you must be so lucky if you have this thought process. I am jealous now :(
you can be smart and promise him for a special night later if you are not interested ! it's the only way to skip it :)))))
of course they should
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