This is called edging. It lets the man experience an orgasm without ejaculating, which leaves him erect, which means that he can brought to another orgasm without ejaculating, which leaves him erect, which... While this sounded good to me in theory, it was not that pleasurable for me in practice.
This is because my pleasure is due to combining my orgasmic state with my super-sensitive post-ejaculation state. The two things combined make me go "wow!" Without ejaculation, I do not enter into that super-sensitive state. As such, the orgasm is really weak and hardly worth the effort to have. Adding more of those weak orgasms to a sex session doesn't add much to the experience. If anything, it detracts from the experience, because I would be anticipating the "wow!" and it just wouldn't be happening, which would leave me frustrated and irritated. One might be tempted to say that when the sex session is over and I've finally gotten that "wow!" that relief would wash over me and all the frustration would disappear, but that's not really true. In truth, it feels exactly like bad sex: disappointment and frustration that ultimately leads to an orgasm that still leaves you feeling disappointed and frustrated.
As for bondage and stuff, not many guys are into it. The whole "being submissive to a dominant partner" thing is more common among women, since men are naturally more dominant (due to testosterone). The idea of a woman dominating me? That kind of puts her in a masculine role and me in a feminine role. That just seems strange to me. I mean, I would probably go along with it for her sake (assuming I trusted her enough), but I wouldn't be into it for my own sake. It just doesn't do anything for me.
Thanks for your answer.. I guess it depends on the guy. I'm still going to try it with my bf and see what he thinks though
Depends on it.
My body can react 2 ways.
1. Its actually ruined. You win :(
2. It feels waaay better then my normal one. I win ;D
Both ways i love a good tease so she should feel free to surprice me any time she wants. I did have my best orgasm ever from it though so for me its more of a russian roulette orgasm :P
Also to answer another part of your question. Depending on how it happens ill eighter get more horney straight away or less like with an actual orgasm. In both cases ill get much more horny again much quicker after. The perfect moment to back off and tease him without giving him anything he wants for a while.
Thanks for your answer.. I love to tease.. some guys like it, some don't. Oh well... :P It's interesting that you had "the best orgasm ever", I thought it was supposed to ruin your orgasms?
As i mentioned for me it can go both ways ^^. The best one ever was kinda unintended. I stopped just slightly to late and the feeling didn't go. Instead it increased to the point of orgasm. As you probably know there is always that short moment where its on max intensity. Mine got stuck there for a couple of seconds. It was extremely torturous because it was way to intense pleasure but maaan did i love it :)
I think it's better to bring him to the edge then stop before he cums then bring him there again and again. I find guys cum so much more if we do this for an hour or so. But I would always be sucking on him with a finger in his ass when I do let him cum. I'm not mean about it 😉
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1. You are in complete control. While he is tied up, and blindfolded you should use him for your sexual pleasure. Use him to give yourself several orgasms before giving him a ruined orgasm.
2. As you use him, brag about each and every orgasm you're about to have and brag about how good it feels.
3. You should have a rule that he has to ask for permission to cum. That way, as you're using him, you can have several orgasms and he is not allowed, yet. When he does ask for permission, stop and tell him, "No, not yet". That will drive him crazy and make the sex hotter.
4. When you tell him, "NO" ask him, "How bad do you want to cum?" That is when you can make suggestions on what he needs to do for your permission. Suggest that he do something naughty, kinky or taboo for you. Perhaps fulfill a naughty fantasy of yours.
5. After you've had several orgasms, then give him a nice slow, teasing, edging kind of handjob. Stroke him softly and slowly. Make him beg, several times for permission to cum.
6. When you finally decide it's time for him to cum, do not stroke him hard or fast. Continue to stroke him softly and slowly. Especially when he finally cums. OR, stop, at the last second, take your hands away, and watch as his cock cums without you touching him. Or, stroke the tip of his cock with just one finger. Either way, his orgasm will be intense and long lasting.
7. This is a great way of making him willing to fulfill any kinky fantasy you may have. Or, this is also a great way of making him submissive for the night and you get to achieve several orgasms.
8. Also, With a ruined orgasm, it means his cock will stay harder for a longer period of time. So take advantage of it. Fuck him hard and fast afterwards, all for your benefit.
9. One more thing, there is more than one way of giving him a ruined orgasm. While fucking him, with you on top, when you give him permission to cum, only allow the tip of his cock to be inside of you. This will drive him insane!
10. Another way, give him a blowjob while he's tied to a chair. When he cums, suck on just the tip. In that position and with just the tip of his cock inside your mouth, this too will drive him insane! LOL
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Defo very annoying ha.. Although if it was a blow job, would be worse again because like you're so close and to then be stopped. Even the thought of that would frustrate me. ha
Yes thats fun.
this is edging and it keeps him in that heightened state of arousal, its very pleasurable and i do this to myself all the time. and sure being tied up and have somebdy do this to me would love that person forever haha
When I get a ruined orgasm, it makes me mad that I was almost there just to have it ruined but it is another way of teasing that I love. I am still really horny afterwards and I get really aggressive, which ends in some great sex! It is a great way to tease and torture your guy if he is all tied up. I thoroughly recommend it!
So, on purpose? There are guys who are into that, believe it or not, and under the right circumstances I think it could be fun. But that's because I think frustration can be fun if the chemistry is right and it's playful instead of mean. But that's just me. My attitude is there's more pleasure in sex than just the orgasm, and there's always another orgasm. But I don't think that's the majority view...
I think I would be pretty annoyed at her. Oy don't like your logic.
No, it sounds like physical pain and blue balls.
You dont get blueballs from them. Infact if you already had them they make them go away just like a real one.
I don't think they get blue balls from it, because the cum still comes out (I think).
I've only had a ruined orgasm once when I was edging myself and it felt super good. Most of the time it will ruin it though. I'm not that into the dynamic but I'm sure some guys would enjoy it.
Why would anyone want this kind of psychodrama?
My wife loves giving me ruined orgasms. She loves the power of it and once she sees that little first but of cum she stops touching it and watches it twitch as my cum oozes out... a successfully ruined orgasms. Of course I thank her for it too!
Sounds like torture. Once I got free I'd probably strap you down to the bed and fuck you up the ass till you couldn't walk for a week. That should be a great cure for my achy balls. Lol
Eww. Rapist Alert.
Whatever. I was just demonstrating what you were doing to the guy. Blue balls is not a great feeling. It was put out there very tongue in cheek and in a joking manner, just to illustrate a point.
Wow!! I'd like to have that!! Gr8 idea!
the hottest girl I met, ruined all orgasms! Really, all :D It was super frustrating, and still, it made me totally addicted to her. If you dont get full statisfaction, you want more and more of her haha
That sounds like heaven to me. :')
If she got me to cum, that's great, but having no physical contact with her, or even myself, would be a lot less satisfying. I'm not into bondage so the whole experience of being incapacitated and then disappointed during climax would turn me off to her. It would make me feel that she enjoys being in control of her partner and likes to reinforce that control by denying the pleasure she has the power to give.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it's just not for me. I'm sure some guys are into it.
Are you a psychologist by any chance? You described my feelings perfectly.
No, not a doctor of any kind. And like I said, I don't see anything wrong with the desire for control in the bedroom, especially since I have it myself. Being that vulnerable isn't a turn-on for me. It's kind of a turn-off actually.
This is the stupidest goddamn thing I've read today besides that post about penis reduction surgery.
What is a ruined orgasm, anyway? I never figured that out.
One of the best things for a sub! I love being teased relentlessly!
Super hot love it
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