Short answer: To change pace and / or depth to last longer keeping his organ hard. Most girls – including me likes it because I can feel my husband’s pleasure from pressure and movement of pulling and pushing my head using his hand, it is a mutual pleasure. He does it because there is the psychological connection that gives us more excitement when touching woman’s head or pulling their hair, it creates this bond and makes us horny as hell when pushing woman’s head and our libido goes bananas. When he looks into my eyes pushing my head up, becomes even more erotic as an extra plus with a libido and erection reached to ultra maximum. He wants to be in control, dominant how a man should be; it is all human it is all about the human senses: Seeing, feeling, touching, hearing the noise and gagging is exciting, seeing it going into her mouth / throat is exciting; her hairs smells nice like perfume; he feels her lips sucking without teeth touching is exciting; a nice pretty face, soft skin it is even better.
Speed - slow or fast - is what makes him ejaculate quicker or not - so he can control when he want to ejaculate or he wants to stay longer. He does it just as a sign of affection, almost like he is petting her.
His hand is to change the pace of her bobbing, either making her go faster or slowing her down. He may also want her to take his cock deeper into her mouth. Some women like giving up control during sex and having a man use his hands allow him to take the lead during the blow job. Sometimes he does this not because she wants him to, but because he wants to encourage her to suck his cock the way he likes it. He may also want to control the encounter. Men use a hand in the hair to remove a woman’s mouth from their member, allowing them to see her, lips swollen and eyes glazed, as well as their cock covered in her spit, shining and glistening.
The point is that a hand on the head is not a bad thing, it mean something endearing or erotic. Man is more likely to fall in love with a woman who is literally addicted to giving him the best oral sex of his life and swallow. In my experience, this is actually a small minority of guys, no matter how prevalent it is in porn. For most of the men, it is more to give suggestions about what feels good. Women also do it, for the same reasons. Telling the difference depends on observing what he does with his hand once it is there.
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I love when a man touches and strokes my face and hair. It turns me on. I appreciate his input and love that I have his interest. A couple can bond nicely with this interaction. If both man and woman are ok with how they are being treated is all that matters.
Its a learning experience. The first time I might be a little apprehensive because I don't want him yanking my hair harshly (some pulling is sexy and good ripping my hair out I dont think so!) Nor do I want him shoving me hard and down on him roughly where he's hurting my mouth. So its a matter of trust. I will give a man a warning and redirecting if he is getting out of line. I'll tell him if he's hurting me. If a man was to get out of control and he continues to hurt me then im not only done with giving head im done with him!
For the most part I love being in charge but that doesn't mean I dont want input or that I dont love seeing the man loose control because of what I am doing. Its a turn on. I can c©m giving head... And having him stroke my hair and face and letting me know he's enjoying himself will send me off the edge with him.
Issues of immediate comfort (which are wholly justifiable) aside, I think there are two components to it. The first is dominance, in ways that are simple and clear enough (I've never understood those who think that giving oral is an inherently submissive thing; you're the one controlling it, after all), and the second is increasing the connection you feel. Sure, there's genital to lip/tongue contact, and eye contact is always nice, but it's just adding another dimension.
This obviously applies less if they're pushing you and more if they're gently running their fingers through your hair; that sort of thing.
Personally, I enjoy attention to my glans more than getting my cock deep-throated, so what I do is the opposite: I hold the woman giving me head by her hair and hold her head ‘away’ from my cock, so that if she wants to take my cock deeper into her mouth, she will pull her own hair. Quite a few women enjoyed that a lot,
To add: While I personally prefer to try something gently and either stop or continue based on the feedback I receive from my lover, this does require the ability to read and interpret your lover’s body language. If you don’t speak body language, it’s best to ask verbally for permission before you proceed.
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i don't like the hands on the back of the head usaully when they do that they want you to go deeper... i usaully tell them to get their hands off and not to worry you will cum and i will swallow your cum... at times there may be times i want something a little rough and let them have their way but those times are few... i really don't mind sucking a cock but i don't like being forced to suck it they way they'd like you to
Well since I'm the guy with the hand I have done it before and if I do it that means that you are very good and I will gag you I don't mean to but I will do it by accident just pushing a little bit too far thinking I have a lot more to go so and to be really honest I would rather be doing it to the girl or just making it all about her and making love to her I love blow jobs but at the same time I rather make love and please her that way
Putting the hand there is no problem but no pushing
Couldn’t agree more.
sometimes it's hot, most times i don't mind, but if i don't like it i'll just move his hand away or stop the festivities
Guys see the hand on the head thing in porn videos. I could care less as I just enjoy a great bj or hj anyday.
It is a porn thing but it is a real life thing too. good attitude you have though. be happy you are getting one period.
I agree... just getting a great bj or hj is wonderful and I always try to return the favor!
I like to put my hands there sometimes. But I don't get very many to enjoy. :(
I'm actually a virgin so zero experience but I really would prefer to let the girl have her way and pace without forcing. Wouldn't want my girl to feel uncomfortable when she's trying to enjoy
I'm OK with it
Yes please but nothing rough!
Yes! Gentle, okay. Aggressive, no thank you.
Absolutely
I like it
i like it when its aggressive to the point of choking, that shit is hot
Go for it.
I don’t mind unless they are to rough with it. Then I get pissed.
Well my girlfriend like to put both hands on my head and thrust my face in her pussy when I eat her out but she also likes really deep penetration and likes to see and feel getting rammed hard
The realm of the porn addicts. FAIL
Wish I could say grow up but…
You'll see.
See what? That is so vague.
I don't mind and I kinda like it when he plays with my hair
@jillc15 u like when he pushes ur head down on his dick?
@MarkyMark77 no he really doesn't do that
Just enough pressure to let her know how excited I am but she still has control...
And I know I'm going to get a big sloppy kiss when she's done.
its like really fucking mouth in a sexy way after gaining full control
I am still kinda new to it, so I dont know the answer o. o
can you give me advice though?
would you be comfortable answering questions I've posted, or just dming me?
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