Have you ever given your partner a sexual favor as a birthday or Christmas gift?

[OlderAndWiser]

Guys, wouldn't you like to find her under your Christmas tree?

You may feel that giving or agreeing to perform a sexual act as a gift for your partner cheapens your sexual relationship. Or maybe to think that giving a sexual act as a gift is a wonderful expression of love. Maybe there is something that he or she wants you to do and you have refused until now - she wants to watch you masturbate, he wants to cum in your mouth, she wants to blindfold you and tie you to the bed, he wants anal sex - and up until now, you have refused.

After months of sexual intimacy, you are feeling closer, probably have more trust in him or her, and maybe you want to do something that shows how much you want to please your partner. Would you agree to doing some specific sexual act as a gift? Have you done that in the past? If so, do you feel that it was appreciated and made your relationship stronger? Or maybe you have some special feelings for your friend with benefits and you will finally agree to something that has previously been off limits, like unprotected sex (assuming that you are monogamous, know that each other is free of STD's, and some form of birth control is in place.) Is it appropriate to give sex as a gift within a relationship?

[Nadim171]

I haven't and I wouldn't. Christmas is a Christian holiday so...

[Nadim171]

Thanks for mho!

[LegateLanius]

I never had a partner, but I would be willing to do things.

[musicbrain5]

I can't say that I have. Not really our style, I guess!

[Anonymous]

he wanted to mess around with me and my bff

[OlderAndWiser]

And you "messed around" in a threesome? How did that affect your relationship?

[Opinion Owner]

it was kind of fun, I didn't really like it when he did stuff with her tho

[OlderAndWiser]

Did you talk about rules in advance, what was off limits, no seeing her again unless you were present, etc?

[Opinion Owner]

I guess we should have lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Is it something you would do again? Do you think it gets in the way of the relationship being serious?

[Opinion Owner]

we broke up for other reasons. might do it again... but need more rules like you said

[Julie_TS]

Uhhh... YEAH!!!
Hoe, hoe, hoe!!!
#holidayhead

[Aluora]

Unprotected vaginal sex with a friend with benefits.

[SarahsSummer]

Sure, some of those thing listed. I’ve actually given him a book of coupons to redeem for several different sexual things.

[Elliegirl]

Christmas 2017 my husband (then boyfriend) found my under the Christmas tree wearing nothing but a Santa hat. Last Christmas I thought it might be more fun for him if he got to “ unwrap” his present. we had sex, obvs, but it wasn’t necessarily a favor. It was just fun to dress, or undress, festively for him before we did what we both already knew was going to happen.

[NicolaD]

A favour enjoyed by both parties!

[Red_Arrow]

Can I be your Secret Santa? 😂

[NicolaD]

Oh absolutely @Red_Arrow x

[Phanta]

I would think that my B answer would be the most common for men.

[BillieJean1070]

At one time or another C, D, and E.

[OlderAndWiser]

Lucky boyfriend!

[tertater]

I would do this and accept it, but never have been able to.

[Lilly_Fair]

Yes and it was a good night he was happy

[bloodmountain1990]

Never given but I received oral as an early birthday gift.

[douride2]

It happens.

[mellowman]

it is something she liked and it was fun for me too, so win win

[nightout]

where is the option of all above F.

[OlderAndWiser]

This site only allows seven options on a poll. I could have thought of at least fifty permutations of the possibilities!

[Cookie8888]

Nope.

[Senacık]

I have participated in a threesome as a gift

[OlderAndWiser]

Did that have any long term consequences for the relationship?

[Senacık]

ofcourse

[OlderAndWiser]

Did it ruin it? Jealousy? Someone became more interested in the third person?

[Senacık]

Did it ruin it? no Jealousy? no. Someone became more interested in the third person? Yeah. But it's definitely excitement.

[OlderAndWiser]

Would you do it again? If so, would you do it for your own pleasure or to please your partner?

[Senacık]

Yeah. We keep doing it. my husband is happy. I'm happy. We are regularly doing FMF, MFM. Sometimes swinger.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am not trying to criticize you but this is something that I don't really understand. How do you keep feeling that your relationship with your husband is special if both of you are having sex with other people?

[Senacık]

ı love husband :)

[RebeccaSJ]

Yes.

[Travis_Skyles]

No, I am the virgin king and therefore cannot participate in sex.

[stillavirginat42]

I have never been in a sexual relationship

[CuriousMufuxka]

G. Birthday, yes! Holidays, NO!

[JennieF]

Yeah, several of those.