Have you ever lost interest in the type of people you used to like before?

Question

At the age of 22, my 23 year old boyfriend was the OLDEST man I’ve ever been very attracted to.

I always liked them 1-2 year younger than me and my boyfriend was always jealous when I was around men my age or younger.

After break up with him, I dated a few young men and figured out, while they are cute and interesting, I just already had probably one of the most mature counterpart of them and he still ended up disappointing me, so I totally lost interest in younger men, men my age and have been attracted to men 10 + year older than me, which is very unusual for me, because at 16 I liked boys 14-17, at 18, I was attracted to 16-20, at 22, I was attracted to 18-23 and I was just always more attracted to the younger ones than older ones.

It’s been like a surprise for me to be choosing older men over younger ones, which I’d choose in the blink of an eye, in the past.

I feel like my ex totally changed my preferences on men.

And while I was very happy with him, and loved being his girlfriend, he still failed me, which I blame to his youth and I guess, that’s why I have been attracted to older men these days.

P. S I am still sexually attracted to younger men 18-25. But since I am not acting on my sexual attractions and want a relationship based on emotional connection, I’ve been avoiding men 18-30 these days. I am only friends with them.

Have you ever lost interest in the type of people you used to like before?

Flatmanlewis · Accepted Answer

At one point I thought 20-something girls were just as great as it could get. Somewhere in my late 20s I dated a girl who was 34 and she absolutely was amazing. I developed a true appreciation for a woman who had more than just a lean figure and bubbly personality. The intelligence, confidence, maturity, stability, and overall worth of a woman in her 30s just blew me away. From having a career, to a house, to things to talk about besides her friends and their drama or what she dreamed about doing someday we’re all captivating.

Yes. Our tastes and appreciation got various aspects of them change over time.

Beau2024 · Accepted Answer

You are growing up honey and I think you said it best, with time changing, so do your interests and what you value. You want a man not a boy to be in a relationship with. My wife is 10 years younger than me and it’s amazing I needed someone more youthful but old soul and she needed a man to be in a real relationship with. Sounds like the right track. My 2 cents though work on yourself first, do not get into a relationship in an effort to help complete yourself. Relationships are only as healthy as the individuals that make up that relationship.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

personality wise and looks wise my tastes haven't changed thattt much except my age preference. i'm not attracted to people under 19 anymore, and i'm not super attracted to 19-20yos anymore too. used to also like older guys a bit more when i was about 18 (like early 30 somethings) but now not into that as much either. prefer guys very very close to my age like 22-24yos (i'm 23)

Paulalove98 · Accepted Answer

Yeah when I was younger like 19-20 I used to think I wanted older men and tried to feel attracted to them and see if it was there but I knew deep down I was lying to myself, fast forward 5 years later I met my man at 24 and we’ve been together almost 1 year he’s 19 and I’m 25 now. I realized older men will never be for me ever.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I like people, not their types, so it's never happened

Apple1996 · Answer

I've never had a type so no that's never been a issue for me

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... not at all for friends, and girlfriends... I've always liked the same smart, interesting and funny people...

sawno · Answer

Yes because of my last relationship, she made everyone else look basic by comparison.

David94358 · Answer

It's common for your tastes to change over time

laly520 · Answer

no I've always had a certain type

exitseven · Answer

No, I was sort of looking for a change after I had a few short relationships. I dated somebody who was completely different from anyone else I ever dated. It was a lot of fun for a while but I knew it was not going anywhere.

bingbongbangbung · Answer

I used to go through a phase of liking redheads, but it's pretty much over now

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, that has never happened.

MsBrie · Answer

Nope my friends cover a lot of types and gawd do I love them all.

Unit1 · Answer

No, not at all. I still love nice girls and hate gold diggers.

Jersey2 · Answer

No, but I have gained an interest in types I didn’t used to such as tall women and also smaller breasted women. I am married though to a shorty with big boobs so its a bit late now. I still enjoy my original type though, short, big top, blue eyes and blonde.