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  • I don't think so. People have all sorts of interests and fetishes or every type. What exactly appeals to a guy doesn't mean he would be any worse a person or any less suitable as a friend or relationship partner. I've actually come across several people interested in such fetishes as CNC (consensual non-consent) in the BDSM community. This sounds a bit paradoxical, but it generally involves acting as if a person isn't consenting to an activity when, in reality, he or she really is, because the idea is exciting to him or her. It is very important, of course, to keep these things in the realm of fantasy and not to allow them to lead down a slippery slope toward unhealthy behaviors. For example, you wouldn't want to make a sex video with simulated rape scenes. Communication about such things is very important, and it can be useful to have a safeword or some way of effectively expressing information that is based in reality and outside of the scenario being played out.

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  • Well, a "FETISH" is something you can't live without. Which could imply he actually wants to rape people, though not necessarily, he could just need to view fictional rape stuff or fantasize about it. I seriously doubt he wants to rape someone in real life. He probably just has a rape/consensual non-consent fantasy/kink, in which case, people in the comments are greatly overreacting. The funny thing is, that there are SO many women who have this kink, but when a MAN has it, he's suddenly a danger to women. A fantasy is just THAT, a FANTASY. Unless he's actually plotting to rape women for real, I wouldn't worry about it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It could be... but since I hav dealt with n been with many such men who had rape fetish but tbh it was more of bondage than rape...

    N by the way many women also have rape fetish

    • Thanks for the mho honey

  • As in his own or doing to others?
    Two completely different diagnosis.
    Not a doctor, but he needs to see one.

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  • How often would you like to be raped? Is that a red flag if someone does that?

  • Yes I think so

  • Yes, wtf

  • Yes totally

  • Serious red flag I would run the other way

  • Unless his partner has the same fetish.. Yes!

  • My face went white right after I'd read the title.

    • Mine turned angry I don’t like it

  • I don't think so if he's mature and follows the rules when it comes to bdsm stuff then I don't think it's a red flag. If he's not then it's a problem.

  • Green flag for me

  • It is, but a lot of women have a rape fetish as well. So are they better or worse than the guy who does?

    • I think it’s weird to tbh regardless of gender or sex

    • I'm not into rape, so I think it's weird anyway.

    • Exactly

  • If the fetish is shared consensually and liked by both, it is not

  • Yes get out the relationship now!!

  • It’s more common in women

  • It's called a Rape fantasy

    So in case you didn't know, Rape fantasy just like any other fantasy is not real , meaning it's not at all a real rape

    So a man has a fantasy to rape or a woman has one to get raped.. it does NOT mean they are thinking about a real rape.. its a fake scenario or role play

    So again, this kink like any other kink is just a part of sexual preference and does not necessarily influence or determine the character and behavior of the person outside bedroom

    Last but not the least , men with rape fantasy are of course very dominant in bed.. so it's not about red flag but you'll not be sexually compatible with him if you're not submissive at least to a certain level... so if you cannot partake in a rape roleplay and if realizing his rape fantasy is unavoidably important for him then I think you guys should reconsider the relationship

    Thank you

    • I think a fantasy to have it happen to you (which I will admit I have that fantasy) and a fantasy to do it to somebody else are different though, and, I can’t really go out and make it happen to me vs a guy could go out and make it happen to somebody else? It might be OK but I don’t think the male and female versions are exactly equivalent and it is something I would need to understand or know more about if a guy had this fantasy despite my own fantasy. It sounds hypocritical I guess but it makes sense to me?

    • @ShellyB Yes you are right , fantasies of two people can almost never be an exact 100% match.. even if both have the same fantasy it's not necessary that the aspects they like about the fantasy is same

  • It seems to be a somewhat common fetish for both sexes. It's only a red flag if it's offensive to you or he wants to act on it in real life.

  • only if he actually rapes women to satisfy that fetish. not if he asks for consent for it.

  • I'd be wary but it COULD be a harmless kink. Would you ask the same question if it was a woman with a rape fetish?

    • Yes I would

  • It’s extremely weird I think so

  • Not a red flag

  • Absolutely it is.

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