Sex talk, I don't know how to feel about him saying that I'm not freaky as I made him think, I'm more vanilla than freaky he said. I know guys like their women freaky and I'm not that.
NOTE: we've never been intimate, all of this is based on texts.
That's just poor sexting style. He's trying to get you into bed and be open to anything in order to "prove" you are not "vanilla"
It's a common playground trick. Like where you tell someone "you're not going to do it! You're too chicken!" As in your child brain you know they either have to now do it, or clap back with something better.
We're not in a hurry to have sex he said and if he's had sex before I would say yeah probably but now that you said it "He's trying to get you into bed and be open to anything in order to "prove" you are not "vanilla", that might be true.
There is nothing wrong with vanilla. I prefer love making and romantic moments of positive euphoric/soothing touch, fingering, and of course PIV while making out as the crowning and final part of intimacy.
Yes and I feel like that's what I'd probably like but somehow there's something wrong with that, how and why I don't know.
Sex is supposed to be something that when you engage, you both should be able to enjoy the contentment and closeness. It should never feel like you are walking on eggshells or like the opposite is seeing you in a negative light. You should be able to let your body and mind relax. It’s essential if you want to climax. The genitalia of both might seem large when you are aroused, but the brain is actually the largest sex organ. If the brain doesn’t let your body release, you won’t no matter the level of stimulation. Ultimately though, sex is to connect both opposites in the ultimate display of love. The aspects of sex people term as “vanilla” nowadays are actually the aspects that are the most loving and healthy. If you feel this is the way you would be satisfied and most fulfilled, make it known. Your needs are important. Love making “vanilla” style is how both men and women are wired to serve and care for each other. There’s a reason it’s referred to as becoming “one flesh.” Which is beautiful 😍 because its anything but bland or boring.
Society seems to shape what sex should be like but society has been wrong often. Just look at how many people nowadays denigrate the opposite gender. Look at how many people are unhappy and angry. So many people turn to more extreme and unloving forms of sex based on porn and pop culture and yet they seem more unfulfilled than ever before. Don't let society shape your sexual needs away from what seems natural and right for you.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!"You're more vanilla than freaky" Why would he think that? Have you discussed it with him? Why are you spending time on him? Is there a plan to meet?
Would I ditch "vanilla?" I'm a bit kinky, it would be frustrating to have a partner who had no interest.
We met once, a public date. Both never been intimate with each other or other people, we haven't been deflowered yet. Am I kinky? I believe myself to be yes!
I was afraid of someone calling me vanilla because I don't like anything vanilla and hoped that when I started having sex, it would be anything but vanilla.
It can be whatever you want it to be, but you have to talk to your partner about it.
Many men are content with an ordinary menu. PIV, mutual oral and hand/fingering. Most of the rest of it is nonsense.
This is lame... wtf
Have actual sex and then see who's vanilla
Stick your finger in his ass and you'll see who's vanilla
Jesus man 😂! Though I won't lie, I've been thinking about the finger part. I feel like the theoretical part of it is him talking big game but what if he sucks in the practical part of it and he doesn't know it cause he's never done it before but we'll see. If we do it, I'll come back and update you about the finger part ⛓️ 😂
Lol your instincts are accurate
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