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Help I don't think this is normal?

Sometimes whenever my insecurities start hitting I have this strong desire to hurt my genitals. Mostly because I feel this weird hatred towards me and my body because I feel ugly and unfuckable and I feel like I deserve to punish myself and I don't mean it in a sexy way. What I mean by hurt myself down there is I feel the urge to shove something in dry just to punish myself because of how disgusted I am from myself. This cannot be normal right? Had anyone ever felt anything similar to this? I know that the urge for self harm in stressful situations is common but still.
Should I seek help from a therapist?
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  • Any form of self harming behaviour is abnormal.

    Around 25 years ago I suffered major depression. Ultimately I attempted suicide a number of times, but there was what therapists call a "pattern of escalation" prior to the attempts beginning. I used cutting as my method, but I know people who have burned themselves, used chemicals or developed eating disorders in response to extreme depression.

    Find a good therapist who can specifically work with body-dysmorphic issues.

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  • yes seek therapy immediately you must unravel this before you encounter a sickSociopathic person who will take a vantage sociopathic person who will take advantage and destroy your trauma for their own sexual gain get a good therapist as soon as you can and at any cost because it worth it to unravel this and don’t feel any resentment towards yourself for this action and understand we all have Traumas and yours is as normal as the next but can be dangerous for you in the future.

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  • Vaginismus is psychosomatic outside of menopause. You just need to exercise so you'll have a cute butt and lots of extra energy and guys will flock to you, especially if you wave to them. When you have a good man who'll lick you down you'll have no problem relaxing and smiling. 🦒🍆🇺🇸🎲

  • It isn’t healthy. Don’t hesitate to seek help from a professional. Treat yourself like you would treat someone you care about.

  • Seek help, it's not normal to hurt yourself under any circumstances.

  • Yes, definitely. Simply abnormal emotional responses. They'll help you wade through it all.

  • you definitely need proffesional help

  • Nope doesn't sound normal at all. You definitely need a therapist. I bet many males would be willing to make your unfuckable vagina hurt by fucking it. Talk to someone though cause I have never heard that one before

  • I kinda know what you mean and I definitely recommend seeing a therapist and getting some help

    • Agreed

  • It's not normal but don't do those things. Don't try to hurt yourself. Maybe you can just practice with sex toys instead.

    • That's usually what I mean to use to hurt myself. Either fingers or a toy. I have vaginismus and I tend to attempt to force things inside out of spite because I hate the fact that I have vaginismus. There's more reasons why I feel this hatred but this is mostly what I mean. I'd never actually go out of my way to use something dangerous.

    • Don't hate yourself, love yourself. Try to listen to music you like and don't think negative thoughts so you can be happy instead of upset.

  • You need professional help.

  • You should definitely seek therapy

  • Have you checked if you had your gender changed as a child?
    Speak to a doctor about that

  • Seek out a mental health counselor. You have a medical issue that requires professional assistance.

  • Definitely seek help

  • I have similar feelings myself. Its not too crazy but I really hope you can get over it and love yourself!

    • I hurt my penis too

  • Right , no should be doing such a thing must normal girls masturbate until they actually get someone. No one should hurt themselves especially down there. Message me if you want to vent or ask me any questions

  • Please seek for help. I realy hope one day you learn to Love yourself

  • yes this is not normal. If it gets worse, go to the doctor. Harming the genitals is a bad thing.

  • I think you need psychological help

  • This is from the UK's National Health Service website:
    Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), or body dysmorphia, is a mental health condition where a person spends a lot of time worrying about flaws in their appearance. These flaws are often unnoticeable to others. People of any age can have BDD, but it's most common in teenagers and young adults. It affects both men and women.
    This MIGHT pertain to you, but I think you should ask your family doctor for a psych referral to have it properly investigated and treated. A therapist might be useful but this could be out of his/her scope of expertise. All the best to you and be kind to yourself.

  • I believe a therapist is the way to go. Start by speaking with your doctor.

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