How are some guys able to go a year or longer without sex?

[Anonymous]

I know that men have a higher sex drive than women. For me, one month without sex is already really long. I notice that some guys who are single go years without sex once. How the hell is that possible? I haven't had a relationship in years, neither have a couple of my friends, but we still have casual sex on pretty much a weekly basis. That seems to be the normal thing among most women I know (friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc). With single guys it seems like some fuck a couple times a week, and some don't fuck AT ALL! Don't they go crazy or get depressed? I share a house with 4 guys ever since I started at the uni. Since day one, 3 of these guys had a crush on me, one of them didn't seem to care much, yet he's the one who fucked me on the first night I was there, which lead to quite some pain withe the other three i imagine. Those three are actually really nice guys, especially the one that's still crushing on me after all these years. But they don't speak to me sexually at all and apparently to no other girl either. The other guy is the complete opposite I've never seen him acting nice to any girl, yet he fucks almost on a daily basis. One time a really cute girl of wwf was at our door. He immediately had an argument with her cause he was insulting her with some right winged bullshit and hit on her while she had a boyfriend. Ten minutes later I heard him fucking her in his room like an animal. So that's how different he is than the other 3 guys. But how can these guys go so long without? When the other guy was sick for 6 days, the second he was healed he made me miss an exam cause he had to fuck someone so bad and wouldn't take no for an answer. I've never seen the other three with a girl. And what I've noticed too is that every time I hear him fucking another girl, it makes him sexually more desirable. The others kinda weird me out knowing they never do it. It's quite a turnoff. So is maybe not possible to break this spiral?

[Soteris]

Well to start with sex needs at least one other person and therein lies the problem. It is very rare for me to get along with other people so by extension I dont want to fuck them either. While I have just as much sexual desire as any other guy it is honestly not really an issue.

I think I have gone something like 2-3 years without sex currently and I am in no rush to get some either. I am quite comfortable with things being as they are and the only way this would change is if some girl came and seduced me personally because I will not bother any time soon.

If this makes me less desirable then so be it. Perhaps because it is so easy to get a girlfriend today I do not feel the pressure to get one in the first place.

[Tdieseler]

First off... men and women have the EXACT SAME sex drive... women and men feel the need to procreate... men wanna spread their seed and women want to have "minis" ... it is what it is.
Now to your story... you live with 3 guys or 4 and you are surprised they are interested in you? You are available AND accessible!!!
Now to you question... there IS masturbation... you know that right? and it can go on as long as the person wants... so yea its possible for single guys to go for it... but those that can... well.. you know.

[Anonymous]

I think its amazing when guys dont care about sex so much. It shows that they respect women and tht they aren't desperate. But, sadly not many guys are like that

[MaelaK]

Some people just don't see it as as an absolute necessity. It could be for ethical reasons. It doesn't mean it doesn't troubles them.

[ParamountArmada]

its not like we have the choice, we turn to masturbating or use sex toys to full the gap in. plus with all the stupid sluts around who probably have an std/hiv who would want to have sex.

[steveguitar]

Because some of us never get girls and are unwilling to go to a prostitute. I've never been on a date, why don't girls talk to me? I'd love to have sex. Every human deserves to experience it, but society makes that impossible for some of us.

[Ricky1966]

lost virginity at 30. first bj 32. secondsex, 38

[Doffydood]

See, this is the kind of thing that makes sex scary to me. Like some sort of point of no return addiction where I get withdrawal symptoms after a month. :/

[Nagahime]

Wow. Imagine never having it. You people must have tiny strong wills.

[ANDYB88]

I found it just horrible when I was single in my mid 20s and didn’t get laid for about a year - I was utterly depressed and hard or semi hard at inappropriate times every single day during that time. It was just awful. I don’t take sex for granted now. I really can’t over emphasize how much he’ll I found it to be

[ThatBritishLad]

Hobbies.

[yucel_eden]

if I'm busy I can go a lifetime without it. This year at university I didn't have sex to the indescribable workload.

Right now I'm free, and if I go a week without sex then it's been a bad week.

[yucel_eden]

Because of the*

[Rudon30]

I haven't have sex for 31yrs. But I masturbate to compensate for my sex life

[anonman32]

nice trolling.

[JamesDylan1990]

Masterbation I guess

My girlfriend and I don't have full blown sex but she jerks me off so it works

[masterkamasutra]

for me one week is more than enough!

[YOussefElAdl]

one word.

masterbation

[Username3568]

Focusing on who the fuck knows

[RequieMs]

I have been virgin for 22 years :(

[Felipe_82]

Why do I feel like this question is wtitten by a man instead of a woman?

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I need to get fucked often.

[Anonymous]

Well congratulations, you had sex with the asshole guy and not the nicer guys. This is exactly the behavior that makes nice guys so angry and some of them eventually turn into murderers or rapists out of frustration because most girls don't want nice guys, they only get with the assholes.

This is what sometimes makes me sympathize with serial killers.

[Avasimmons]

You need to get help!

[Opinion Owner]

@Avasimmons No, the people that are good to assholes and messed up to nice guys need the help.

[Opinion Owner]

They are too tormented. That is why if I was ever a juror for one, I would most likely never vote for the death penalty for a serial killer.

[Avasimmons]

Wtf you're sick in the head. So, because women don't find you attractive , you're gonna go on and rape them? Sick!

[Avasimmons]

Why are you defending serial killers omg goodbye

[Opinion Owner]

@Avasimmons That's not what I said at all. And if I was attracted to someone and liked them, I wouldn't want to harm them. I just don't really blame some people that are frustrated their whole lives.

[Avasimmons]

No one is entitled to anyone! If someone doesn't like you then you should move the fuck on with your life and find someone else.

[Opinion Owner]

@Avasimmons Well, if you watch documentaries of serial killers like I've seen on TV, usually there is nobody else and they are shunned by society before they ever even thought of doing anything wrong at all. Not all, but many of them, being shunned by society led to them becoming what they are.

[Avasimmons]

So just because "society" shuns you then it gives you the right to murder/rape people? Oh hell noo! I can't believe you think it's right to harm others just because they don't like you. That's insane!

[Opinion Owner]

@Avasimmons Those same people being nice and helpful for years and nobody caring about them and expect them to still be nice to everyone is insane too. I'm not one, but after watching different documentaries of their lives, I feel sorry for them.

[Avasimmons]

I don't feel sorry for them. Most serial killers and rapists harm people that are innocent and haven't even done anything to them.

[Anonymous]

If by the end of that school term one of those 3 don't alpha up from the pain and frustration that must've come from hearing and knowing that guy 4 got to hook up with you. I'd be surprised lol.

I was crush for years guy once! Till my best friend got the girl (of my dreams) without trying at all... I learned fast. I had to. Or I would've suffered lol.( let's just say they both hate me now 😎).

[Anonymous]

Well I'd you don't have someone to do it with then you can't do it can you. I'm like those guys and haven't had sex in a nice few years. I also have issues with trust and imanticy with women due to being treated badly by an ex. It doesn't really bother me, you just learn to accept it. Also it is a lot harder for us guys to get laid over you girls. But I also feel like there are women who go awhile without sex too.

[Anonymous]

yes and yes, you answered your own question. Without something from outside not.
Learning how to control your sex drive at best since rape isn't a good option and knowing you will never get a girl or hoping she would ask him.

[Anonymous]

Simple they simply can't get it.

[Anonymous]

I've gone 35 years without having sex. It's quite easy when you are below average down there, and you know that women are going to reject you. You just get used to not having sex.

[Opinion Owner]

I can tell from your story that Mr. Alpha guy has a huge penis.

[Opinion Owner]

Nice downvote asker... haha. You are a woman, you can get sex as easy as opening your legs.

[Anonymous]

Trust me if most men who go years without sex had the option to not go years without sex they won't.

[Anonymous]

they just masturbate

[Anonymous]

Yeah the other ones are shy and just masturbate a lot and hope they can get a girl someday but the other guy dosent need to since he is an alpha male and knows how to get what he wants