How are some guys able to go a year or longer without sex?

I know that men have a higher sex drive than women. For me, one month without sex is already really long. I notice that some guys who are single go years without sex once. How the hell is that possible? I haven't had a relationship in years, neither have a couple of my friends, but we still have casual sex on pretty much a weekly basis. That seems to be the normal thing among most women I know (friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc). With single guys it seems like some fuck a couple times a week, and some don't fuck AT ALL! Don't they go crazy or get depressed? I share a house with 4 guys ever since I started at the uni. Since day one, 3 of these guys had a crush on me, one of them didn't seem to care much, yet he's the one who fucked me on the first night I was there, which lead to quite some pain withe the other three i imagine. Those three are actually really nice guys, especially the one that's still crushing on me after all these years. But they don't speak to me sexually at all and apparently to no other girl either. The other guy is the complete opposite I've never seen him acting nice to any girl, yet he fucks almost on a daily basis. One time a really cute girl of wwf was at our door. He immediately had an argument with her cause he was insulting her with some right winged bullshit and hit on her while she had a boyfriend. Ten minutes later I heard him fucking her in his room like an animal. So that's how different he is than the other 3 guys. But how can these guys go so long without? When the other guy was sick for 6 days, the second he was healed he made me miss an exam cause he had to fuck someone so bad and wouldn't take no for an answer. I've never seen the other three with a girl. And what I've noticed too is that every time I hear him fucking another girl, it makes him sexually more desirable. The others kinda weird me out knowing they never do it. It's quite a turnoff. So is maybe not possible to break this spiral?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Well to start with sex needs at least one other person and therein lies the problem. It is very rare for me to get along with other people so by extension I dont want to fuck them either. While I have just as much sexual desire as any other guy it is honestly not really an issue.

    I think I have gone something like 2-3 years without sex currently and I am in no rush to get some either. I am quite comfortable with things being as they are and the only way this would change is if some girl came and seduced me personally because I will not bother any time soon.

    If this makes me less desirable then so be it. Perhaps because it is so easy to get a girlfriend today I do not feel the pressure to get one in the first place.

  • First off... men and women have the EXACT SAME sex drive... women and men feel the need to procreate... men wanna spread their seed and women want to have "minis" ... it is what it is.
    Now to your story... you live with 3 guys or 4 and you are surprised they are interested in you? You are available AND accessible!!!
    Now to you question... there IS masturbation... you know that right? and it can go on as long as the person wants... so yea its possible for single guys to go for it... but those that can... well.. you know.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I think its amazing when guys dont care about sex so much. It shows that they respect women and tht they aren't desperate. But, sadly not many guys are like that

  • Some people just don't see it as as an absolute necessity. It could be for ethical reasons. It doesn't mean it doesn't troubles them.

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  • its not like we have the choice, we turn to masturbating or use sex toys to full the gap in. plus with all the stupid sluts around who probably have an std/hiv who would want to have sex.

  • Because some of us never get girls and are unwilling to go to a prostitute. I've never been on a date, why don't girls talk to me? I'd love to have sex. Every human deserves to experience it, but society makes that impossible for some of us.

  • lost virginity at 30. first bj 32. secondsex, 38

  • See, this is the kind of thing that makes sex scary to me. Like some sort of point of no return addiction where I get withdrawal symptoms after a month. :/

  • Wow. Imagine never having it. You people must have tiny strong wills.