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Sexual Health How can I get my boyfriend to trust me when it comes to sex?
Pearlblue08 Xper 5
My new boyfriend has rejected me twice when I tried to initiate sex. He said his ex girlfriend almost ruined his life and career when she accused him of rape and now he has a difficult time trusting anyone. I completely understand that but I still want to share the moment with him very much and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to pressure him but he said i have to start things off but when I do I still get rejected. I've never experienced this in all my years of dating. i have a difficult time initiating intimacy and I really feel the rejection when it happens. He is the best man that’s ever come into my life so I will not leave him.
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6 40What about when you two break up. You'll get jealous and scorned, and you'll claim he abused and raped you. It's pretty much a norm. Women are very good liars, because they're born that way and because society values them over men.
Just tell him you hate the metoo movement and all that false aquisitions and that you hate feminism. Now i am going to say something that sounds unbelievebly stupid so present it as a joke and give it to him. Make up a contract of consent, a where you declare you have sex with him out of free will with date and signature. If he has that reinsurance he can have sex with you without worrying about a repeating past. This sounds crazy but in the manosphere this is a much discussed topic. This way you get what you want for sure and you show him you understand his worries
Put your needs on the backburner and let him crave you. Do things that couldn’t be construed as him doing anything wrong. The situation with men and women and the state is messed up, iv only had sex once in my life but iv been accused of rape twice so stomach that. Getting intimate with a woman is on the very bottom of my to do list, I wanna live to see another day
We all know what the piece of shit authorities do to rape victims, both in the interrogation room and later in court. But do you have any idea what they do to rape suspects? Guilty until proven innocent. His feminazi waste of space ex could really have destroyed his life, that's not an exaggeration. That's what that hate cult does.
Noe ofc that isn't your fault and you've done nothing wrong, you simply want to be intimate with your loved one, that's more than okay! You know what I'd do? Record a video. Start by saying your full name, parents' name, social security number etc., "being of sound mind and of my own volition" etc. State that you are about to have *consentual* sex. Sounds crazy, but it might help your boyfriend allow himself to trust you, or even understand that he's being a bit ridiculous...
How long did he date his ex? How long have you been dating? Everyone says similar things at the start, but most relationships don't last. Statistically it's more likely that you will break up and you will find a new guy that you will say the same thing about when you relationship with them is in its early stages
Since you have strong feelings for him. Be patient with him.
Stay close but don't push him.
He is probably feeling the same way that women feel when they are raped.
Yeah some shit can make you feel bad
He needs some counselling from a therapist. He sounds traumatised.
He is not going to get better by himself. You're not a therapist. No matter how nice you are to him you can't fix him. If he refuses you might have to consider walking away.
I was married to someone who had been raped prior to our relationship. I tried to help her but she just got worse. She refused counselling when she really needed it. In the end she wouldn't even let me hug her.
Tell him how you feel about been rejected and tell him to let you know when he feels ready, you shouldn't have to initiate everything.
He’s lying. Men don’t care how sex starts. He may be gay and has to psych himself up first. That’s why he wants to control it.
Give it time sometimes trust will they come with time and familiarity
Dam I want sex with you
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Be patient and stop forcing sex upon him? Would you want a man forcing himself upon a women, if she had traumatic experiences with men? He's a smart man. Women can be very deceptive mainly for financial gains. I would have a hard time trusting any women too
I mean it sound like she is gentle he's just being a sad sack. But that's cool I'm am in the same boat as him. We just need time. She not forcing cause he asked her to initiate it. He just not ready.
Do trust on each other
Well do ur best to increase the excitement. Buy approdisiacs for him. .
He has issues not your problem.
Yeah I would say tell him how you feel and how he rejecting you makes you feel. Ask him what you could do to make things work out.
A large part of this is just going to take time. Trust takes time to build. Having said that however, he has to also meet you half way (ie, this can't ALL be on you). You can't make him trust you (time will prove that), but he also has to realize/accept that you are NOT her either and this is a new relationship and he can't bring that baggage into this relationship. I don't know the details of what his ex did, but maybe he needs some counselling or help with this? But you have to work together. Yes this will take time, but he also has to take some risk and put himself out there again. Talk to him again, tell him this and let him know how you feel about him. It's not going to happen overnight, but if he's fighting it also (ie scared), then it's not going to help at all.
I bet he had to hit on you first
Time, and patience.