How do I bring up cuckolding to my girlfriend?
For context - we are both 22 year old university students.
I've talked to a lot of husbands that want this, and they ask for my advice. The very first thing I ask them is: "Before I can help you with this, how much damage would I have to undo?"
It sounds to me like you haven't done any damage yet. The very worst thing you can do is talk to her about it, and that's what everyone on this site is telling you to do. You NEVER talk to her about this. And you NEVER EVER use the word "cuckold" in front of your girlfriend. No woman wants a cuckold, so never say that word again.
So those husbands resent me saying that, and they say that they believe in being open and honest. My response to them is: "And how has that worked out for you. "
That stops them in their tracks.
I've helped a lot of guys get on the right path to this, and for me, it wasn't rocket science.
Have you ever heard the saying: "If you want to get rich, look at what poor people are doing, and don't do that."
I just looked at what all these guys were doing and seeing it fail. But they all keep making the same mistakes. I just shake my head. NEVER FUCKING TALK ABOUT IT.
If you want to know how to get started, just ask.
Please can you help me get started
The mistake that all of these guys are making, is that they expect their girl to go from 0 mph to 100 mph. How dumb is that? Why does it have to be all or nothing? So be smart, and take her to 5 miles per hour. That’s not too much to ask for, and it won’t scare the shit out of her. Find a way to ask her what her fantasies are. She may not reveal any, because she’s too shy. But she will ask you what yours are. You say: “Well, don’t laugh, because in the world of kinks, this is just so tame. But my biggest fantasy is exhibitionism. But not just for me, but for both of us. And I know that you’re going to steal most of the thunder, because you’re going to be drawing most of the attention. But that’s fine with me, because we’re together and it’s still my fantasy.” No woman on the planet will leave it at that. She’s going to have a million questions. She’s going to ask you what you have in mind. And you say: “I’m not really sure, but I kind of like the idea of having guys be envious of me. I know that’s kind of selfish, but it’s just my fantasy.” She will then ask how the guys will be envious of you. You say: “Because of YOU. I want them to want what they can’t have, and be jealous of me for having a trophy girlfriend like you.”
She will tell you that she’s hardly a trophy. You say: “Oh, really? Are you willing to bet on that?” No woman on the planet could even sleep at night without finding out more about what you’re talking about, or what the bet might be. You say: “I’m going to choose what you wear, and if you don’t have what I require, I’ll take you shopping for it. But it has to be what I want, and you have no say in the matter.”
If you've been together 3 years and haven't brought it up before, I don't know man in a way I feel sorry for her.
I guess the ultimate question for you is, what if she says no? Is that something you could accept (sonce youve accepted it up until now), or would your relationship become conditional?
If she's understanding, I'm sure she'll take the time to listen and talk about it. It's another thing though, after 3 years, to start drilling loopholes into the fundamental principle of monogamy (assuming that's how you've been).
It's a hit or miss and definitely something you should have brought up earlier in the relationship.
Just don't. Stop watching porn and start living in the real world.
If she doesn't just dump you for being a weirdo, once she has sex with other guys she'll lose respect for you, and her feelings for you, and then she'll leave.
Most will not tell you this, nor will most realise this about themselves, but for most women feelings are tied to sex. That's why sex is a big deal for many of them, it's why they're more guarded about sex, it's why they're more likely to catch feelings after good sex.
When women orgasm they release the bonding hormone, oxytocin. This other guy gives her more orgasms than you do? More oxytocin with him -> stronger bond with him than with you -> bye bye.
I've had dudes here who thought they were really smart, using big words and big explanations argue with me about this stuff after I warned them not to do it. Their girlfriends gave in after they pestered them to because it's a porn addiction thing for you guys, and every single time they came on here whining that their girlfriend doesn't have sex with them anymore and they didn't know why, then they broke up. Don't be one of those morons.
Having read your other replies the main problem here is that you're not dominant. That's why she doesn't get off. Becoming more submissive isn't the answer.
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take her to a bar and have a man lined up to come and chat her up, someone good looking that she will be attracted to. let them hit on her and start a conversation. she'll come back and tell you all i would imagine, if not you can mention that "you were talking for a while, what was all that about". let her open up and slowly start the conversation "you enjoyed being hit on, he's attractive" etc, make them leading, so you control the direction and its all positive reinforcement, likes, wants etc. then leave the conversation and let it fester in her head. after a while again its her time to get the drinks or when you get the next round he approaches again. again positive reinforcements, but slowly and when the time is right, hint that you would find it sexy and a turn on if you were to take him home and you could watch, it would be ok. dont over do the point, just once and leave it again. see how that works out?
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Cool dude. If you have the guts to to it, give it a try!
i personally hate the cuck role, but that’s me. there’s no way of knowing unless u try.
anyways, if were me , I’d have a fun casual conversation with your girlfriend.
if you have great communication about sex, the worst thing that can happen is she says no.
The other option is to do it by way of a threesome... maybe bring up and test the waters of a threesome with her... I dabbled with the cuck thing during a threesome, and It was a turnoff for me. So I couldn’t continue. Threesome was awesome , but only when the 3 of us were active, not the watching role.
So first I think you should just start a conversation about things you both wanna try sexuality. Tell her it is something you wanna try but only if she is 100% okay with it let her know that no matter what it won't change anything
I think a conversation would be a good idea too. I just want to be honest with her
I've been on the other side it took sometime. when I let it happen it was the best experience in my life
Oh wow, as in you wanted your partner to be a cuckold?
She has to be open to it to begin with. Ask her how she would like to be fucked, while you watch and jack-off.
Maybe try bringing it up as a joke or expose her to cuck porn and see her reaction to it then go from there.
That’s a possibility, I’ve thought about it but I’m worried I’ll mess it up somehow.
How long have you been together and have you done cuckolding before?
I would just sit down and have a conversation about it as you won't be truly happy in the relationship sexually if you're holding back any kinks or fetishes you have.
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