How do I bring up cuckolding to my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Serious replies only please! I have a cuckolding fetish (I want my girlfriend to be pleasured sexually by other men) and I don’t know how to go about asking her. I don’t know if she’d be open to it and I’m scared I’ll ruin our relationship if she hates the idea. Any views will be appreciated.

For context - we are both 22 year old university students.

[Anonymous]

I've talked to a lot of husbands that want this, and they ask for my advice. The very first thing I ask them is: "Before I can help you with this, how much damage would I have to undo?"

It sounds to me like you haven't done any damage yet. The very worst thing you can do is talk to her about it, and that's what everyone on this site is telling you to do. You NEVER talk to her about this. And you NEVER EVER use the word "cuckold" in front of your girlfriend. No woman wants a cuckold, so never say that word again.

So those husbands resent me saying that, and they say that they believe in being open and honest. My response to them is: "And how has that worked out for you. "
That stops them in their tracks.

I've helped a lot of guys get on the right path to this, and for me, it wasn't rocket science.

Have you ever heard the saying: "If you want to get rich, look at what poor people are doing, and don't do that."

I just looked at what all these guys were doing and seeing it fail. But they all keep making the same mistakes. I just shake my head. NEVER FUCKING TALK ABOUT IT.

If you want to know how to get started, just ask.

[Asker]

Please can you help me get started

[Opinion Owner]

The mistake that all of these guys are making, is that they expect their girl to go from 0 mph to 100 mph. How dumb is that? Why does it have to be all or nothing? So be smart, and take her to 5 miles per hour. That’s not too much to ask for, and it won’t scare the shit out of her. Find a way to ask her what her fantasies are. She may not reveal any, because she’s too shy. But she will ask you what yours are. You say: “Well, don’t laugh, because in the world of kinks, this is just so tame. But my biggest fantasy is exhibitionism. But not just for me, but for both of us. And I know that you’re going to steal most of the thunder, because you’re going to be drawing most of the attention. But that’s fine with me, because we’re together and it’s still my fantasy.” No woman on the planet will leave it at that. She’s going to have a million questions. She’s going to ask you what you have in mind. And you say: “I’m not really sure, but I kind of like the idea of having guys be envious of me. I know that’s kind of selfish, but it’s just my fantasy.” She will then ask how the guys will be envious of you. You say: “Because of YOU. I want them to want what they can’t have, and be jealous of me for having a trophy girlfriend like you.”

[Opinion Owner]

She will tell you that she’s hardly a trophy. You say: “Oh, really? Are you willing to bet on that?” No woman on the planet could even sleep at night without finding out more about what you’re talking about, or what the bet might be. You say: “I’m going to choose what you wear, and if you don’t have what I require, I’ll take you shopping for it. But it has to be what I want, and you have no say in the matter.”

[Opinion Owner]

Her: What would you want me to wear? You: I haven’t decided yet. Her: Where would I wear it? You: I’ll let you know when I decide. Congratulations……while all the other dumb-fucks are still at zero miles per hour, you just bumped it up to five miles per hour. She’s going to be going insane wondering what you have planned, and what she’ll be wearing, but you just make her wait for 2-3 weeks for you to decide. Phase II will be getting her to 10 mph. lol

[Asker]

Wow, where did you learn this? This sounds like such a good idea

[Asker]

Is there a way we can keep in touch?

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO. We can just communicate on this thread. If you make a new thread, just post the link here. 10 MPH So when you get home from 5 MPH, she's going to be so damn excited that you made this happen, and probably fuck your brains out. Then you tell her that this is just the beginning, and next time it's going to be more intense. She will about die wondering what you have planned. You tell her that next time, you're going to dress her up as a total slut, and you're going to take her to a club, but go in at different times. She will sit at a different table than you, and you will be constantly texting her. She will ask why you want it that way. You tell her that you LOVE when guys look at her, but you think many of them are being too polite when you are next to her. Just tell her that this is an experiment to see if the guys have more courage when she's alone. She will be nervous about this idea, but you just tell her that you'll be just a few feet away, and you will constantly be monitoring the situation. She will reluctantly agree to 10 MPH. And the night when you're about to go out, and she's dressing in the way you asked her to, you then tell her that no panties are allowed. She will fight you on this, but that's just crap. She's testing you to see if you will cave on this. But you won't cave. Women HATE submissive men, so you have to be the dominant Alpha male. No panties!

[Opinion Owner]

The science behind women liking doms, is simple. Hundreds of years has taught us that men are studs, and women are sluts. But a true dom can make women do things that they would never do on their own. Every woman on the planet has an "inner slut" inside of her, and she can't release it on her own. That's your job. If you open the cage door to that demon, she can let go knowing that it's not her fault. It's always YOUR fault. She never released the tigress, you did. It's all on you. If you cave on anything, she will know you're not the real deal. If she refuses to go out without panties, tell her that you and her will just stay home and watch a movie. She will probably fight you like crazy on the pantie thing, but deep down she wants you to win the fight. And you will win the fight, because you will conquer her. She will be so fucking excited that you are forcing her out of her cage. She will be guilt free, because she's the good cop, and you're the bad cop. Trust me on this. I can tell you a story about a guy who experienced this, if you like.

[Asker]

I love this! Yes please do share the story.

[Xoxocutekitty]

If you've been together 3 years and haven't brought it up before, I don't know man in a way I feel sorry for her.

I guess the ultimate question for you is, what if she says no? Is that something you could accept (sonce youve accepted it up until now), or would your relationship become conditional?

If she's understanding, I'm sure she'll take the time to listen and talk about it. It's another thing though, after 3 years, to start drilling loopholes into the fundamental principle of monogamy (assuming that's how you've been).

It's a hit or miss and definitely something you should have brought up earlier in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Just don't. Stop watching porn and start living in the real world.

If she doesn't just dump you for being a weirdo, once she has sex with other guys she'll lose respect for you, and her feelings for you, and then she'll leave.

Most will not tell you this, nor will most realise this about themselves, but for most women feelings are tied to sex. That's why sex is a big deal for many of them, it's why they're more guarded about sex, it's why they're more likely to catch feelings after good sex.

When women orgasm they release the bonding hormone, oxytocin. This other guy gives her more orgasms than you do? More oxytocin with him -> stronger bond with him than with you -> bye bye.

I've had dudes here who thought they were really smart, using big words and big explanations argue with me about this stuff after I warned them not to do it. Their girlfriends gave in after they pestered them to because it's a porn addiction thing for you guys, and every single time they came on here whining that their girlfriend doesn't have sex with them anymore and they didn't know why, then they broke up. Don't be one of those morons.

[Opinion Owner]

Having read your other replies the main problem here is that you're not dominant. That's why she doesn't get off. Becoming more submissive isn't the answer.

[t-8900]

💯 accurate

[Markm3212]

take her to a bar and have a man lined up to come and chat her up, someone good looking that she will be attracted to. let them hit on her and start a conversation. she'll come back and tell you all i would imagine, if not you can mention that "you were talking for a while, what was all that about". let her open up and slowly start the conversation "you enjoyed being hit on, he's attractive" etc, make them leading, so you control the direction and its all positive reinforcement, likes, wants etc. then leave the conversation and let it fester in her head. after a while again its her time to get the drinks or when you get the next round he approaches again. again positive reinforcements, but slowly and when the time is right, hint that you would find it sexy and a turn on if you were to take him home and you could watch, it would be ok. dont over do the point, just once and leave it again. see how that works out?

[Buntyp]

Very carefully, and don't lie about any part of it. If you do take that step, you might not be prepared for where it takes you. You need to be absolutely sure that YOU can deal with everything that comes up for you, and not look to lay cause or blame elsewhere.

[RobT312]

Cool dude. If you have the guts to to it, give it a try!
i personally hate the cuck role, but that’s me. there’s no way of knowing unless u try.

anyways, if were me , I’d have a fun casual conversation with your girlfriend.
if you have great communication about sex, the worst thing that can happen is she says no.

The other option is to do it by way of a threesome... maybe bring up and test the waters of a threesome with her... I dabbled with the cuck thing during a threesome, and It was a turnoff for me. So I couldn’t continue. Threesome was awesome , but only when the 3 of us were active, not the watching role.

[TazWax]

So first I think you should just start a conversation about things you both wanna try sexuality. Tell her it is something you wanna try but only if she is 100% okay with it let her know that no matter what it won't change anything

[Asker]

I think a conversation would be a good idea too. I just want to be honest with her

[TazWax]

I've been on the other side it took sometime. when I let it happen it was the best experience in my life

[Asker]

Oh wow, as in you wanted your partner to be a cuckold?

[TazWax]

No, he wanted to watch me with other guys

[Asker]

I think that’s the same as what I said but that’s really good. I’m glad you had a good experience with it.

[TazWax]

Good luck

[Asker]

Thanks - from the other replies I’m not sure if I’ll go through with it as I think I’m being selfish for wanting to go down this route.

[TazWax]

It's not being selfish

[Bricealan]

She has to be open to it to begin with. Ask her how she would like to be fucked, while you watch and jack-off.

[UniquelyBasic]

Maybe try bringing it up as a joke or expose her to cuck porn and see her reaction to it then go from there.

[Asker]

That’s a possibility, I’ve thought about it but I’m worried I’ll mess it up somehow.

[UniquelyBasic]

How long have you been together and have you done cuckolding before?

[UniquelyBasic]

I would just sit down and have a conversation about it as you won't be truly happy in the relationship sexually if you're holding back any kinks or fetishes you have.

[Passion_Devil]

What do you get out of it? How does that fetish come to be? What turns you on about it? Just help me understand.
I'm reading this and I don't even know what I would say, so lend me your mind. Why would you rather have your girlfriend lay with someone other than yourself?

[Asker]

I enjoy cuckolding because of how submissive it makes me feel knowing other men have the ability to please my girlfriend more then I ever could sexually if that makes sense. I think Its likely that I got this fetish from porn. I’d still want to sleep with my girlfriend if she wanted me to but if not then that’s also okay. I just want her to be sexually satisfied and I don’t think I can do that. I’m working on my oral skills because that’s something that I can improve but that’s about it.

[Passion_Devil]

There are many other ways to have you be submissive when looking at all the bdsm options. What if she told you that you Did satisfy her?

[Asker]

If she told me I satisfied her I wouldn’t really believe her or would think she is just trying to make me feel better about it. Whenever we have sex she never gets off so I feel bad after it because it seems like I’m being really selfish. I try to get her off beforehand but it never works. That’s why I’m working on my oral skills.

[Passion_Devil]

It would hurt to hear that my boyfriend wouldn't believe me... I don't think I would say yes, because it comes from an insecurity. I don't see why I should feed an insecurity. As your girlfriend, I'm here to support, not to break down.

[Asker]

I get that but I don’t see how I satisfy her sexually if she has never got off whilst she has been with me. I think we are good together but it’s just in the bedroom where I am letting her down. It’s true it makes me feel insecure but that’s mostly because I know I’m not enough for her and we have been pretending I am for years. I’m happy to keep trying and forget about cuckolding or try to at least but I’m just trying to think about what the best thing to do is.

[Passion_Devil]

The only situation I could see myself considering it if it turned him on and wasn't because of an insecurity, but a fantasy.

[Asker]

Point taken. Not sure what I’m gonna do but thanks for trying to help. I think it’s just a difficult thing

[Passion_Devil]

And if she says yes, how would you go about finding the right person? A friend? A stranger? Not scared that intimacy might leave her catching feelings for him?

[Passion_Devil]

And sorry I couldn't be of much help. My turn on is seeing him turned on so for me the motivation to consider it would be easy. But if he wants it because he doesn't believe in himself, I wouldn't be okay with it either. He can keep trying to satisfy me, I won't complain!

[Asker]

If she said yes I think I would want to find a partner with her that we both agree on, probably a stranger. I am scared she would catch feelings for the guy she ends up having sex with but I think that’s common for most cuckolds from the reading I’ve done

[Passion_Devil]

To live with that fear of her leaving sounds like torment. But if that fear is smaller than the fear of her leaving because of your insecurity about your own performance, I'd say it's worth at least suggesting it.

[t-8900]

Asker you need counseling and you need to STOP watching porn. Your man card is gonna be revoked by society because sexual deviancy is not a real excuse. You need help, therapy, self respect. Jesus Christ this world is falling into shambles!

[Mickbert]

The way I did it was I started with toys. I had her start naming them. When she’d ask for one of them, she’d ask by name. Then I’d bring up dreams or fantasies that I had around her enjoying “him”. See how she likes it and go from there.

[gabby100]

Talk to her about it...

[Asker]

It’s easier said then done but I get your point

[daster4442]

dont ever do that bruh

[TheBigGuy9]

Talk about being selfish

[boobliker]

first you need to find out if she want to be watched or watching then go on from there

[Liketheview]

watch a porn with it. make sure it is a good onel one where woman feels great about it and she is pleased. helps when you know someone she thinks is hot and gets turned on and you talk dirty to her about it and make her wet soon she will want and need it

[Twalli]

Here's the thing. If she isn't into it, you don't do it. I don't think it will ruin your relationship unless you try to force her to do it even if she doesn't.

[IsoUser]

Seriously just goto nearest Adult Porn Shop cut out a circle inside the wall and watch guys cum inside your wife's vagina post on internet and make millions Lol

[OnyxianGhostsLove]

Nice troll post

[BennyClark]

Firstly you need to be able to ask her what you like.
Second has she at any point discussed if she likes the idea of another guy or additional attention on her. If she is i will be easier.
As one of other comments too which is also can help is not go straight for the cuckold but trying for a thressome or couple swap. That then gives you the option to retreat and then watch her be the center of attention

[Anonymous]

Some guys love having a whore for a girlfriend but I don't.

[Anonymous]

Watch some porn together that includes cuckolding and ask her if she'd enjoy trying it in real life.

[Anonymous]

Please…any self respecting male would not allow other dudes to hook up with her.

[Anonymous]

In a suicide note.