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Sexual Health How do I convince my lesbian daughter to have a preference for men?
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My daughter (19F) had recently came out to me (36F) about her sexuality, and I couldn't be any more disappointed in her than I currently am. She tries her very hardest to dress as a man would. I didn't raise her be this way. I raised her to be a dainty, feminine LADY. She refuses to listen to me when I tell her that she needs to get right with the Lord, and pretends that she doesn't believe in Him any longer. Her lifestyle is leading her down the pathway to Hell. What should I do?
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26 107You just need to accept that that's who she is. It's her life.
YOU DON'T!! It's NOT something you can switch on and off any time you want.
Write her off.
With 19 we are already adult enough to make our own mistakes.
Seeing your age, I would have expected that you know that.
Why do you think it took her so long to come out to you? She knew you'd do this.
That's why my sister is still hiding it from our mom too. And frankly I don't blame those girls.
If I had to choose between lying to my mother about a significant part of myself, or probably ruining my relationship with her altogether because you can't fucking treat her like your child and a lesbian at the same time—she can't change either of those things!
And the more you try to force her to choose between them, the more you push her away from choosing you! She'll always be your child and she'll always be gay. But apparently she's tired of acting like she's straight. Don't make her tired of acting like your daughter, too.
Well said being gay isn't a choice your born that way same as straight love is what counts not gender if god loves everyone how could it be a sin i'm straight but i feel strongly about standing up for LGBTQ people and as my idol F1 driver Sebastian Vettel said homiphobes will go extinct love is love everyone has the right to love who they love
You can't change who she is, and the harder you try to push the matter, the more you will push her away. Your best option is to accept her for who she is, even if you don't agree with it, and be happy for her.
These people say god first, family second... 😑 These are dangerous people, who should never have kids.
If we're being honest, there are a lot of people who shouldn't have kids, but do so anyways. Unfortunately there is nothing we can do about it.
You are totally right. Sucks feeling hopeless and not being able to do anything.
You said you raised her to bed a dainty lady... Is she at least a lipstick lesbian? Sorry, but before you get mad let me ask, what do you think made her this way? 9 times out of 10 women have been sexually assaulted by a family member/friend, someone she knows including a female best friend she grew up with and spent a lot of time with. If it's the latter, maybe she just hasn't had a good dicking down as i hear this complaint very often. If it's the other, it may take time and a lot of love, from who? YOU! You are only gonna push her further away from men if she feels like she doesn't have your support. Maybe it's just a thing as many women are be try-sexual these days. When i started dating bi-sexual girls back in the 90's, all my friends looked down on me and not many girls were comfortable but now every girl i meet has experimented or has wanted to. Find some hot guy to try and seduce her. I don't know?
It does not work like that. She is the way she is supposed to be. If you love her you will make her have the best life she could have.
First love the person hate the sin. You will drive your daughter away if you keep this up. She has to be herself and figure her own way. Relax and trust God, He has a plan and you must accept it.
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There is nothing you can do..
You asking her to have relationships with man is like me asking you to have a relationship with another women..
She is biologically programmed to be like that..
She is like a man trapped in a women's body.. Treat her like a man..
And stop bringing GOD in middle of everything..
Her being lesbian was programmed in her brain.. When she was inside you.. Growing in your womb..
You must be stressed and feeling unsafe during few months of your pregnancy...
Your body said "I am feeling unsafe and scared.. I will program the foetus to be strong and with a masculine personality.".
Even though she is female by biology she will behave and be a man...
It's nobody's fault.. It's nature's way of saying i want less population
You have some soul searching to do, Mom, we love our children no matter what, we accept their choices and be supportive whether we agree or not. She IS of legal age, she can disappear and never see you or speak to you again, are your convictions and puritanical attitude worth that pain?
Nothing. That's right, sign over the title on HER life to HER.
You've done what you can, she's an adult now, time to cut her loose and let her figure her own life out.
Be loving supportive, love her as a daughter. How she gets her sexual jollies is frankly none of your business.
I know it's a hard pill to swallow - I'm lucky my three - a boy and two girls - all turned out normal, they don't even have tattoos!! But you can't stop this, the more you try the harder she'll resist. You can't fix it, she has to make her way.
I'm truly sorry, it's heartbreaking for a parent and I get it. Forgive yourself, move on with your life.
you don't
Pray.
You can't control her.
Don't try to convince her of anything other than the fact (I hope) that you love her deeply regardless of her choices.
You don't have to agree but if your love is unconditional (mom) then you keep loving her.
Always.
There's nothing you can do aside from praying for your daughter. Talking and pressuring her into doing what you want her to do will not change anything, in fact, it will drive further away from you. I know a lot of people who grew up in oppressive christian homes and now they don't want to know anything about God, they just do whatever they want because their parents were completely suffocating and overbearing.
Don't do that or she might get sexual repression and just develop even stronger sexual impulses.
Better to just allow for her natural growth as a person.
she's a lesbian stop acting like am idiot and accept she's born that was and if God loves all his children then he would love her for who she is you should too she's your daughter love is love so stop being a child and accept her also I'm not gay
Dude, she is 19. A grown woman.
Mind your own business and actually try to be supportive.
Cut off with the nonsense.