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Sexual Health How do I make my boyfriend stop asking for anal?
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he won't stop asking. I mean it isn't like he's hounding me every day but like... his birthdays coming up and when I ask him what he wants he says "anal" when we're having sex he tries to play with my ass, he's even tried to eat my ass and I just want him to stop. How do I get this through to him?
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7 28tell him you have PILES then he'll never ask you for anal
The best way for him to stop is to leave you, which he should do so he can find a less self-centered lover.
Self centered because I'm not interested in something?
No, self-centered because you won't do something for your partner simply because YOU are not interested in it yourself. I can't imagine a relationship in which neither partner ever did anything for the other that they were not interested in themselves. It goes against everything that makes a healthy relationship.
I agree. However in this instance it's potentially dangerous. Him shoving his dick in my ass when I'm not comfortable with it is going to hurt. There's no way for him to relax me when I simply don't want it. There are exceptions to every rule, you know.
Wow, talk about a cop out... The original diagnosis of self-centered was clearly accurate. Is he a selfish lover too? If so, you two deserve each other. If not, he deserves better than you.
I think you're the selfish one here. You would honestly expect your partner to do something she was uncomfortable with and that could potentially hurt her? Just because YOU want to. Selfishness is a two way street dude. It's selfish to expect someone to do something for you, that they have NO INTEREST IN, just because they love you or are in a relationship with you. That's not what love it. That's NOT what a relationship is about.
ESPECIALLY in regards to sex.
Especially in regards to sex? WTF? Why is it that women think sex is different somehow? You get out of a relationship what you put into it. It requires compromise and sacrifice from BOTH partners or neither will be happy or satisfied long term. If you will only do things YOU are interested in, BOTH in the bedroom and outside, your relationship is not going to last. I am not a selfish person. Just the opposite, in fact. There's nothing I wouldn't do for my partner, and thankfully she is the same way because I wouldn't stay in a one sided relationship for long.
I do plenty of things that I don't really want to do. Oral for instance, I hate blow jobs, I hate swallowing but I do it because it satisfies my partner and doesn't harm me in the least. But when I'm AFRAID to do something I should not be expected to do it JUST because my partner wants it. That's manipulative and wrong.
And you didn't even comment on the fact that it could be potentially painful, which tells me all I need to know. You only care about your own sexual gratification. Not hers. That's sad.
sounds like you are sexually incompatible. your relationship will end, since he wants anal and you do not. you need to talk this out before he cheats.
Hit him over the head. That's a stupid fetish
He should stay away from porn.
Tell him that you have three holes and he can have two of them. Tell him if he keeps asking for the third hole, he will get no hole. Remind him that two holes are better than none.
you dont! If you dont give him your ass he will dump you and find someone who is more willing. And rightly so.
Dont listen to this guy
@CingardNeverfrost Why because Im telling the truth?
No, the rightly so part
He will never stop. It's something he genuinely wants, a lot. He's no more likely to magically stop wanting it then you are to magically want it. You are in fact getting what you want now, and you're complaining he can't pretend to be fine with it.
How am I getting what I want
He wants anal. You don't. You're not having anal (at least that's my impression).
Oh yeah. But I really want him to stop asking.
Find a boyfriend who doesn't have gay tendencies