How Do You Feel About DDLG Relationships?

[Anonymous]

DDlg stands for Daddy Dom/little girl. DDlg or DD/lg is a dynamic in which one half of the relationship is the caregiver/dominant and the other is the childlike/submissive. It is considered a sub-branch of BDSM, agreed upon by consenting adults. The dominant role is called the Caregiver, while the submissive is called the Little. Opposite gender roles can also occupy the caregiver or Little persona. (BDSM origin.)

here are many misconceptions involving this branch of BDSM. It is not a relationship between an actual father and daughter/mother and son or any act involving a minor, incest, or pedophilia. A caregiver is a parental figure or an influence on the Little. While the caregiver may be the dominant one, relationships of this dynamic require more love, support, care, and guidance.

Everyone’s dynamic will be different in some way. Some relationships are sexual, while others might not be; some dynamics involve ageplay, while others do not. While it may or may not involve sex, it can involve play with things such as stuffed animals, bed-time stories, coloring, and other childlike activities (ageplay) along with BDSM aspects such as limits, punishments, spankings, etc. There are many different preferences in a DDlg dynamic, which is why communication between the parties involved becomes so important.

[onkizomba]

After learning more about DDLG I was shocked to understand that we’ve been naturally playing a part of DDLG in our relationships, without knowing the term!

You might discover the same…

In good relationships, it just happens.

Few examples:

there are times when Nastja comes to me while I am reading… She purrs like a kitten, gives me wet kisses and rolls by my side
I am working on my laptop… I hear suddenly a persistent noise coming from bathroom, Mauuuu….. Mauuuu…. I smile and go to bathroom… She looks at me and says, BURITO!!! I take the towel and she jumps in it and I dry her up :) Then we cuddle and its over
Sometimes I just call her Baby Girl…or ask why she didn’t wash dishes in a strict voice (so she knows I’m fooling around). She says - something silly… I put her over the knee and spank her a bit as punishment :)
It’s a fun play…!

Now, when I know more about DDLG I incorporate more plays… she dresses up sometimes super cute, sometimes sexy… and overall we just act out more from these two roles.

[Danny_dan92]

I like it a lot, the girl I’m currently talking too is also dominant so we take turns being submissive. Honestly in my opinion that shit’s the best cause it keeps things interesting

[Danny_dan92]

Thanks sweetheart

[Asker]

Anytime, haha. Enjoyed your comment.

[Danny_dan92]

Or is there more to it?

[Asker]

For some maybe but it's mainly just a dominant or submissive dynamic with a childlike tone to it. That's all really.

[Danny_dan92]

Hell yeah, I can dig that

[Anonymous]

I really love it and I am definitely a little at heart. My boyfriend and I both enjoy it in bed. We tried doing it out of the bedroom too. I loved it but unfortunately he wasn't as into it. Today's the first day we aren't doing it in 2 weeks and I'm struggling. I miss it already.

[Opinion Owner]

Also I'm sure you know but be prepared for a lot of mean comments. I made a question about ddlg a few weeks ago and got a lot of insults

[Asker]

I'm ready for the comments, I just sort of like to hear what others think about it. It's really blown up lately for so many to hate it so I was interested in the common views. I have a lot of people in my life who are into the lifestyle. I'm sorry you aren't able to express yourself who you'd like to. Perhaps you could talk to your boyfriend about compromise if you miss it that much?

[Opinion Owner]

I know he'd be willing to. He doesn't dislike it he's just neutral about it. It just makes me feel weird to know I like it so much more than him. Even though I know it shouldn't be I acknowledge it is really taboo so I feel embarrassed about it... if that makes sense

[Asker]

It's fine, I understand what you mean. I've seen a lot of girls who are into it feel the same way. Especially when you're with someone who's not as into it as you are. Sometimes deep talks about it with who you're with can really help. Sometimes telling them what makes you like it so much can bring them to adapt it more and get into it. It depends though.

[Opinion Owner]

we tried talking about it last night I just don't think he has a caregiver personality is all. I'll just have to get over it

[Asker]

I understand, I'm sorry to hear that. :(

[MigzyCaPWN]

More power to you and your boyfriend for being able to handle someone thing outside of most people real of "normal/healthy" 👍👍👍👍

[Socal99]

DM me

[MlleCake]

I think they are sometimes a way for young women to escape the reality of becoming mature adults who know how to mind themselves. I have seen it happen many times.

Other times they are just a fun, naughty role play.

Not for me though.

[soomin_kim]

It makes me think the guy is most likely a pedophile and the girl has daddy issues

[Asker]

Honestly, some deny it's like that but in some cases I think it is and it's mainly denial. Others perhaps I think it may just be a fun thing.

[jkat33]

As someone in a ddlg relationship and part of the community, I have seen some for whom they use it as a form of therapy for Daddy issues. Luckily, the specific group that I spend time with does NOT share this view, and actually shares the view with me that that is extremely unhealthy. My parents are both still married, my Dad was as amazing of a dad as he could be growing up. I'm still very close with both of my parents, and other than the fact that my dad irritates me sometimes (I mean, he's a DAD. lol) I love him and wouldn't say I have "Daddy issues." ALSO, when we're talking about what constitutes a healthy Caregiver/little dynamic, we littles (both male and female) are, in our adult lives, very strong independent people. But being strong and independent wears us out more than the average person and we enjoy a dynamic where we can let go and have a partner who feels the need to be in charge and take care of someone else.

[jkat33]

It's about communication, respect, and being extremely open and honest with each other about your needs, and having those needs align. It's simply about compatibility. We don't want to force those not interested in it to try it. And those of us with our heads screwed on straight also: strictly do NOT allow those under 18 into our groups, are NOT pedophiles, and do NOT involve the vanilla world in our dynamic (i. e. we don't go out in public and flaunt our dynamic. The public can't consent, so we leave it at home.)

[Drooogie4]

Its weird. But whatever works as long as everyone is of age

[Asker]

Agreed, underaged girls trying to become apart of it is a big issue in that community actually. That's what worries me the most. Adults doings as they please doesn't really bother me much.

[Hidden_P]

Not my thing but each to their own

[DarkWasTaken]

I've witnessed it more than I'd like to admit, guess people around me just went through a phase or some shit like that, it was a really sad thing to look at.

[Nico63]

It’s something I would love to do in and out of the bedroom. X

[mystery4896]

518 391 0073 daddy

[fightonfighter]

i love it so much

[EvieRoosoo]

Lmao this is wild.

[NightFlirt]

I'm perfectly fine with it although for me it's DMlg but yes I enjoy taking care of a little

[PlsWork]

Sounds very interesting. Maybe it'll be my thing when I grow up. Right now I can't even take care if myself properly.

[TheRedLemon]

People who like bdsm, this shit, public executions, gore, etc all have some kind of problem in their brain, that's what i think. It's been discovered a long time ago that gay people are born gay because of chemicals in their brain at birth and there is no way to fix it. This is the same thing. All of these things should be treated like minor brain malfunctions.

[TadCurious]

To each their own. That wouldn't be something I'd be interested in. I don't want my girlfriend/SO to act in an infantilized manner. And I definitely don't want to be called "daddy." That's just creepy to me.

[Cuintan]

I into women my own age or older.

[vodkabunneh]

I'm a Daddy - ddlg. So i think very highly of it and thinks that it is the best kind of relationship one can have. A feeling of being loved, being cared, being not alone, being helped overcoming things that u never could - that a little gets from a Daddy can never be felt in any other sort of relationship. As for a Daddy-the amount of trust, love, always having their back he gets from a little is a feeling he can't possibly get. A DDLG is the best form of relationship out there and healthy, even in a sexual way.

However, a relationship is a relationship and it has it's ups and downs. Who am i to judge. I respect every but since I'm into DDLG since 6 years so i think very highly of it.

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion, it's normally a little harder to find the males already genuinely in the community. I appreciate your comment and insights. I think highly of it as well.

[vodkabunneh]

Well the first step to find a genuine one is to build up a communication and trust level first. Looking for it online doesn't makes sense, not that i mind it but ur mostly gonna get horny bastards. But Don't give up - as I said a relationship is a relationship so even if the guy ur dating is doesn't know a thing about it and u decide to open up and he seems to be trusted upon. I think it can work out, nobody is born with a brochure of bdsm along their side lol 😂

[Asker]

Oh lol, I'm not looking for one in that way. I mean people in the community who can speak for themselves on the topic at hand and provide clarity for those who aren't in those types of relationships. Searching has never really been my style regardless, It was just nice to have you comment since you are actually in DDLG. You can tell people from the outside looking in how it is for you.

[vodkabunneh]

Well i certainly do not plan to motivate anyone who's not into it. But sure who are can message me if they feel anything is troubling them or well need any clarity of course. Also, i mean as u already know most of bdsm peeps stay like a hidden entity to the outside world. You can still see so many people on instagram, that are into it and can help one out. I'm sure in real it is rather hard to go on about it since u can't just go out and scream like hey I've got ddlg issues can anyone help me out.

[Asker]

Very true, fair point. It isn't always that easy but reaching out just enough should help those who have questions.

[vodkabunneh]

So there you go - help at hand if u can consider it that way 😂. Bdsm is one thing where u can't always get help in hand but if u have friends in the community, sure, they'll be there for u.

[vodkabunneh]

Even there are ddlg groups in kik messenger or fetlife (online bdsm community). Where if researched a good group to hangout u can find many people from the same side. I don't use any of them anymore tho.

[Socal99]

Hot very hot 🔥

[dublin_sexyeyes0]

I've been into bdsm for many years and my favourite play is DD/LG. Lived with a girl i met at 18 for years ago and she loved DD/LG so we lived this way for the four years. Id love to meet more LGs.

[TheShyPrep]

So fucking weird, it's pretty creepy too

[DontTouchMe]

I love ddlg! I'm looking for a daddy tho

[mystery4896]

518 391 0073 daddy

[LeeKenz]

I’m in one

[LeeKenz]

Used to be in one

[Volvagia]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rAbP5REW_Fc

[suckmytitties]

Personally I like it some things I’m not okay with but having a caregiver and being submissive is something I’m fond of

[carl-smith]

The idea of prison comes to mind for some reason... I know it's all roleplay but just seems soooooo wrong

[animequeenf]

Love it😍 even tho I'm underage, i can't wait till my birthday because then...😏😏😏

[6942Dom]

Why wait?

[catnado]

hey if it works, it works. let people enjoy things.