Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend of a few months has said he wants to experiment with guys.
How do you handle something like this?
How do you handle your boyfriend wanting to experiment with guys?
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I just wanted to thank everyone for the comments and feedback - I didn't realise it would get this response! As of now he is ignoring me as I said we were rushing things a bit... but with trust and open discussions I'm happy to give a go, or if he prefers, he take a break and experiment without me. I'm keeping my fingers crossed...
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Also to add a little more... it did come up early in our relationship in a "it would be hot if you were dominant and told me to go suck a guy" kind of way in that he was doing it for me. It just built and built until we got to the point where he had a profile chatting to guys and was looking to meet to see if he even liked kissing a guy or more.
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Just to update we broke up as he emotionally shut off when I asked to go a bit slower with this. Back in contact but on shaky ground.
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What Girls & Guys Said
103 290Just think of it this way, do you want to have kids with someone who is interested in men? Can you see yourself marrying someone interested in men? These are huge questions you should ask yourself before thinking of bringing children into the world or making someone legally part of your life. For me, that would be a hell no!! Best of luck to you!
Well, you could always just say no. I mean coming from a straight guy with absolutely no experience on that i would say my opinion or advice would be on a sub par level in comparison to someone more involved in that per say.
No straight guy would want to experiment with guys > I think your boyfriend is either bisexual or gay.
That honestly should be a deal breaker if he’s supposed to be with you. If he’s adamant about this then it just might be best to let him go.
Deal Breaker. No handling it for me. I only date Heterosexual Men. No experimenting!!!
By leaving. That is, unless you like the idea of having your heart broken after a confusing and tumultuous relationship and finding out you have one of the many STD's floating around.
~JSmith
You sure he is not just trying to get you to say you want to experiment with women? Lol
If he wants to experiment then let him. In the end, if you and him are a good match then it'll show in the end. Surely experimenting with guys and deciding to become gay is a better way to lose him than having him go for another girl..
... The kinds of questions people put on here...
Tell him no...
Thank you
Well he is bisexual and want to have sex with a guy.
It means that he wants to have sex with both sex WHEN he is in a relation.
If you can't deal with that it means that you're not with the good guy.
You can't imagine that from another way imagine that you want kids and that he don't want.
You can't be with him, otherwise you're going to have regrets.
Well he's either bisexual or gay... either way, he's thoughts aren't very faithful ones! If you want to avoid from getting super hurt you better get outvof there girl!
I've been through this with 2 exes of mines and one was too insecure to deal with the can't take you looking at girls never mi d boys too attitude that stinks as if there's boundaries set then my personal morals on cheering etc witch are "I hate cheating as it broke up my family " wouldn't be compromised and would not experiment behind her back but things were already on the brink when I told her about this for many other reasons but latest girlfriend accepted it and we did not set boundaries about going with guys although she new I had in between relationships and we incorporated anal play into our sex and dam it made our sex amazing running each other some vibrator stuff but also does get you Thinking about taking a d dick again but again fell out over attitudes etc nothing to do with my bi /hi curious side !
So just to let you k ow how I ended up curious :
Girl friend had bought a new vibe and it was very power full so was having some personal time lol and it was there so grabbed it and started raining up ap and down my dick balls was ok tried my taint and wow made me tingle like I've never felt put it on my ass and was even nicer a sensation it really was something special and got my brain ticking and I. ediatly brain started going you must be gay if you like ass stuff for. Years of conditioning so tried gay porn and strap on really wanted to try getting pegged but never had nerve to ask either of my gfs as scared of pushing them away even though I eventually got the nerve to co. e clean about desires and feelings I had been getting ( was co templating suicide before telling my first girlfriend and became very depressed angry and reclused test I g my sexuality with straight and gay porn for months it was such a horrible time so what ever your decision please be nice about it and he might be pulling back out of embarrassment about talking about it as Well
some times feels like they don't believe you and are trying to Cath you out for being gay but the mind is a crazy thing and I have tried dildos love it and the k if like a cock then went out and met guys and not enjoys it well taking d part any way but any questions you have I do t mind answering for you or at least from my perspective Questions for you Have you watched gay porn ? If so you Thu k it's hot guys like lesbian and would love a mff three some and I do t get why girls wouldn't enjoy the same? It shows ally of trust and openness from his part and honesty so how does that make you feel about trusting him not to go behind your back and cheat with a guy? Guys also have fantasies about other women how is this different ?
I would handle it by saying if he wants to experiment, he needs to break up with me first. I just am not interested in a relationship where either one of us fucks someone else
I would take it as a sign he is questioning his sexuality, I kissed a girl once and from that moment on I knew I was 100% straight maybe he is doubting if he attracted to just women or just wants to try something new in the bedroom.
Personally I think he’s truly gay because he’s in a relationship with you a female but still wants a man. you need to leave him if he ever truly does because it’s cheating
Do you feel comfortable with the idea? What are your your contentions? If your reason is that you don't want that, you have every right to say no and to discuss why. If your feeling is, you want sex to be between the 2 of you, tell him. The big issue here is we don't know what needs to be handled here. Do you like it or not? Why? Why does he want it?
If he has that little respect for himself or you, then he's not right for you or anyone. Cheaters are already contaminated. Bisexuality is how HIV goes mainstream.
It really depends on you what sort of relationship do you want? Do you want an open relationship or a monogamous one?
Its dose come down to what your comfortable with! I'm in an semi-open relashionship and it has not hurt our relashionship at all. 10 years in. And if it helps my wife is 100% straight. Dose not have any relashions with no one but me! But she can if she would like. We are just open with each other and we half to give a little to get a lil! And sex has been off the charts! With the confidence from experiences we got! Some can't handle how good it is lol!!
I think it's really healthy to be so relaxed, calm, and non possessive. Open communications are the key.