Always try. TBH Part of maturing for me was to -try- to not care obsessively. I still try hard to make her orgasm every time, but aiming for perfect meant it always was not that good. So now I try to balance being obviously into it and passionate with trying to do what she needs to get off while not making it all about her, which she finds less hot (so do I tbh, as I tend towards being dominant).
It's really important to me that she find what we're doing hot and appropriately satisfying. Usually that means orgasms.0 0 0 0That's fair, she is also responsible for her own orgasm too so it shouldn't be ENTIRELY on you. It helps when a woman can tell you what works and what doesn't, issue is, most women don't.
My wife has very, very rarely said anything, and anything she's said pretty much has been the odd mechanical thing, never what arouses her when that matters too. My first serious gf never had an orgasm, never masturbated, couldn't tell me anything, etc. My next partner after her came in under 5 minutes, so apparently my technique had been okay. Most women (I'm sure most men too) assume that everyone likes what they like, so if you aren't doing what they like, you have 'bad' technique. But I know, for example, my wife likes things that apparently many women don't, physically.
Which is a good point. Women can cum differently than others and it all depends on what works for them.
It's tantamount. If she doesn't cum, I haven't done my job as her lover. Now, there are those rare times when she just wants a real quickie and wants the contact and intimacy and in those cases, I make an exception.
I learned long, long ago that if I get a woman everything she needs and most of what she wants in bed, she'll do ANYTHING to reciprocate. Women are born pleasers. I don't exploit that but sexually, find it a wonderful trait.2 0 0 0
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(22)Hervorgasm is as important as my own! At my age and experience help me to either know how or to be able to figure out how to help her reach a deep and satisfying orgasm. And if I'm lucky, time my own orgasm to coincide with hers. It's happened but not often.
But I do like to make sure she has one before I stop messing around with her body.0 0 0 0As important as mine is lol! I know its hard every time especially if one of us is really stressed or tired, but I mean isn't that the point that we both share our bodies and experiences with each other :)
As for the lovers and hookups they most likely don't care about the woman at all so they don't care if she orgasms. I am greatly surprised that a woman would actually marry a man who refuses or can't make her orgasm... Especially when there are so many of us out here who can and will ;)0 0 0 0I've never had sex before but her orgasm would be extremely important to me, her being satisfied would be the reason I'd want to have sex in the first place.
1 1 0 0It's very important to me. I strive to hold back until she reaches that point , so we can loose it together
1 0 0 0Trying to do whatever I can to get the girl off is very important to me. I want to give a girl an orgasm before we even start penetrative sex.
1 0 0 0Good man, good man...
Foreplay is half the fun of sex. Maybe more.
It is my number one priority. Her getting off turns me on more than anything else. I've had sex where she wasn't in the mood and was just pleasing me 'go ahead don't worry about me' and I didn't like it. I prefer a girl that will get off 1-3 times hard before I get off and we finish together on the last one. That's perfect sex to me.
I love to find what buttons work best on her and really focus on them with some well placed dirty talk. I love to describe how hot she gets me, how I love parts of her body, and other intimate sexual thoughts to get her really worked up.0 0 0 0It is my mission to have her achieve orgasm!!! The physical stimulation is very different in what brings a guy to orgasm versus what brings a girl to orgasm. The motions that bring a girl to orgasm are not always initially sensational for a guy so a selfish guy will “do his own thing”. Too bad for him! When a girl orgasms I feel a huge sense of having met her needs and to me that feels amazing.
1 0 0 0I don't mind. It's not like she can't orgasm with some other guy.
0 0 0 0Pretty important. I care that she gets off and a woman's orgasm is intensely exciting, but you can't get your ego wrapped up in it either.
0 0 0 0Meh. I'm sure if I liked a girl enough I'd make sure she came but if it's just a one time hookup then I don't really care.
0 0 0 0I can't really argue with that since, in a one time hookup situation, it isn't something serious and you should kind of expect it's a, for lack of a better term "selfish experience."
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