How to tell a guy you want to wait until you’re in a committed relationship with him before having sex?

Guys it would be helpful if you could help me with a response that is sensitive enough as I know this will disappoint him as he was under the impression I would have sex sooner.
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  • If I was your significant other it wouldn't matter i feel if we were in love then I'd be happy to wait How you would tell me " Triff we have only be out with you a couple if times Im not ready to have sex I'd rather wait till we are committed and in love then just throw such a wonderful act on a whim " If i protested or put pressure on then maybe all I cared about was bed notching rather than romance Stand by your believe and break away if he was insistent Your a person Not a sex doll

  • Have your 220 lb brother tell him. heh heh Just let him know what your expectations are. He might not be wanting that and will look elsewhere. Or maybe he's into you and will tell you no problem. I'm guessing that is something you would prefer to hear. Remember it's your body and your life so you set the rules for it and decide what is appropriate.

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  • Just tell him that. Don’t overthink it. You should feel comfortable to say this, if you aren’t then maybe that is a problem.

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  • Honesty and communication. That's the best way.
    Set clear boundaries from the start and say you won't do it until you are stable since you don't want to be doing it so soon and at your own pace. Yes he'll be disappointed but if he's the right guy he'll understand and wait.

  • My criteria is is exclusivity born of a sufficiently strong emotional connection.

  • just be straight and tell him that, if the girl is really special and i love her wouldn't mind waiting, however long it may be, if she is just some girl then why bother? go for another one lol, keep in mind that even if he stays with you he might look for somebody else to get the job done...

  • It is better to discuss it up front instead of leaving the question lingering. Maybe start out with handjobs and fingering and slowly ease into the sex when you both are ready and have discussed birth control first. Have you fooled around with him at all?

    • No that’s exactly what I don’t want to do on the first few dates

  • Just be honest and upfront. Just tell him you are saving yourself for marriage

  • How? Just tell him -- I don't like to have sex early in a relationship. I prefer to wait until. If he's can't wait then he's not the guy for you.

  • Directly like that. Something like "I'm sorry if I've given you the wrong impression, but I want to be honest with you so you know that I don't want to have sex until I'm in a committed relationship." And don't wait, the sooner you tell him this the better.

  • Just be open and honest from the get-go. It's your body, so you set the boundaries. If he's into you he'll wait.

  • just say it exactly. dont beat around the bush. trying to keep from hurting his feelings only results by not actually telling him. no matter how you put it, it will sting. if he leaves over it then good riddance.

  • I have had this very talk with my significant others. I could help you word what to say, but whatever you say you need to keep firm on it and demand that he respect it. Sure, every guy yearns for delicious sex, but holding off shows what he is really sticking around for.

  • Talk to him...

  • I won't wait over 2 years for sex. At the same time I won't have sex in under 3 months. If we're in a committed relationship in that time period we can have sex.

  • Just like that. And just like that, he’ll want a committed relationship.

  • Tell him you want both of you get tested before we have sex.

    • And if he gets tested then what?

    • Depends on the results.

  • Just tell them directly. If they don't respect it they don't deserve you.

  • if he can't wait, he can't commit

  • Just tell him

  • “I don’t like having sex with multiple people or with people who are sleeping with others so I only have sex once we are monogamous”.

    it’s a pretty reasonable position. Be clear you’re not using it as bait or a reward you just don’t like fucking one person who is only fucking you.

  • I always say that I'm waiting until marriage. And ask if they are okay with this.

  • Just tell him that, it’s not until marriage just until you’re exclusive

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