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How would you react to your friends with benefits getting pregnant?

So I’m in my late 20s. So is my friends with benefits. We always use condoms. I went in for a checkup because I have the birth control in my arm and it’s only good for 3 years. (It’s called Nexplanon). I thought it was close to expiring, which is why I went to the doctor. But it doesn’t expire until July 2023. But during my checkup, they run bloodwork and urine check and tell me I’m pregnant. I’m confused because we used a condom every time AND I’m on birth control!!

I don’t know how if I should even tell the guy? How he’d react. How do I tell him? I’m in a state where abortion is illegal. (Texas). I’m only 4 weeks. I literally found out the day I was supposed to get my period. We’re both financially independent. I just don’t know how to tell him? He has mentioned before that this is a fear of his. Before anyone tries to shame me for this, don’t bother. I did everything to prevent this situation. And it’s not like I can’t afford it. I’ve just never been in this situation. Like as a guy, would you wanna know? I feel like he might think I was lying about being on birth control (even tho I can prove I wasn’t)

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  • That depends on the individual and it really doesn't matter, it's not your job to be concerned with his reaction. He may have a bad reaction, deflect, blame, angry, excited, frustrated, scared, etc.. That's all fodder for a therapist, his minister, etc..

    Read the warning labels... that stuff is not 100% perfect nor safe. There is an error rate and life always wants to find a way. The WHOLE idea of all of this mating activity is to make offspring, not to make you feel good... the feel good is there to provide encouragement and bonding to keep you together which gives the offspring the best chance at life. It's the sole purpose of your body the next 20-40 years is to make and raise offspring.

    So yes, you tell him matter of fact. You communicate how you do that. You are both adults, it's time to grow up and be responsible. It's really that simple.

    This may be hard now because there is a lack of emotional support. This is the WHOLE reason why traditional relationships were favored... it checks a lot of boxes important to providing security and support for the offspring.

    How you two grow up is up to you. I'd suggest it's a sign from the "all mighty" to grow up, be responsible adults and make a wonderful life together and out of this, what may feel like... an unwanted tragedy, is really, a major purpose of life. That's going to take some change and work.

    You aren't the only ones mating... check out my post. Look at the effort this male... a real MALE, not these immitation child boys going around banging chicks and deflecting responsibility to make themselves feel good, builds an inviting home in the hopes of attracting a female and making their dreams come true... a brood of puffer fish! Nature is at work. We've grown a generation of 'boys' and it's making more problems... and the women bought it hook line and sinker...

    What creature makes these elaborate designs and for what reason?

    I wish all of you the best...

Most Helpful Guy

  • I'd be a little shocked but the first question would be what does she want to do and does she want my involvement.

    I'm not one to run away from responsibility but the big question is do we turn from friends with benefits to something else thinking of the child specifically.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Before you get ahead of yourself, think very carefully about whether YOU want to have this baby. With the awful situation in Texas, you can always cross state lines to get abortion services. If you don’t plan to have this baby, I’d probably spare his feelings and refrain from telling him. What good could come of that? Now if you want to have the baby or even think you might want to, then you really need to tell him. He might be shocked or angry at first but he’s responsible for providing support and should have the opportunity to be a co-parent. This is an adult responsibility and should be handled like adults, even if it’s initially uncomfortable to tell him. All birth control has a failure rate. So think about what you really want before making a move. Confide in people you trust if you need to but remember, this is your body and your choice.

    • Thank you. I did tell him. He’s gonna take me to New Mexico to get an abortion.

  • I would straight up be honest and let him know he can choose to be there , or not. I would apologize because obviously you guys didn't mean for this to happen, but it happens. Birth control fails. You both chose to sleep together, obviously he's part responsible. But I would give him the choice to be involved or not.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I would want to know. But I would also take responsibility as a man and be happy to be a father. Children are a blessing. Not a throwaway item for convenience

  • Oh well as there is not anything that I can do about it now except to raise the child. Lesson learned that closed legs are better than bulging pregnant stomach outside of a traditionally designed heterosexual household. When is the wedding?

    • Who said this was a punishment? I always wanted kids. Just not like this. Which is why we used condoms and I was on birth control. This isn’t the 1950s. I’m not marrying him. lol

  • More interested in how you would react?

    you have a choice to make.

  • As a guy I would want to know. You did nothing wrong at all. If both of you do not want the baby consider adoption or going to a neighboring state where abortion is legal.

  • I would feel I got tricked

    • He used a condom. Lol. There was no trickery.

    • I never said their was I responded how I would feel in that moment

  • You have to tell him

  • I have never ejaculated into a girl I would not marry. We would discuss that option.

  • I would want to know and I would want to take care of both you and the kid.

  • I think you should tell him regardless of how he reacts. Ofc he gunna be dramatic if he always wears a condom and you've told him you're on BC. Even still, it's important that he knows.

  • I'd need proof it's mine.

  • I would have an adult conversation with them and discuss the situation and options and then voice my opinion. I would hope they would be engaged in the discussion and help to derive a path forward.

  • Hey, you’re now in the same club as me - the suddenly pregnant club. Before you get panicked, you do have 8 months to prepare and you will be prepared. It’s almost like the 5 stages of grief and you’re in stage 1. Things do change when you start to actually see the little one grow, though. Start preparing. They are a lot of work but they are worth it.

  • She wouldn't she would use her ass and mouth as birth control

  • He should know but I’m surprised how it’s possible if using 2 types of birth control, I wonder if they made a mistake because those are quite reliable and you were using two types

    • My doctor told me “it happens” 🤦🏻‍♀️ I was baffled too since we took extra precautions.

    • The odds are so high of that happening, must be a miracle baby

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