If it was a shift leader or manager or anything like that even if you consented it could be considered rape because he has power over you (being that he is your superior at work) or at least that is the law in Canada if a teacher has sex with a student and they feel taken advantage of even if they are of age the teacher can be charged wit rape because it could be like a threat of giving them bad grades if they don't or withholding pay if they don't. It is very common though to be attracted to both genders so you don't have to feel guilty about that! Whether you are Bisexual or just gay it's perfectly natural and normal and common. The situation you described is a bit sketchy though and the fact that you are feeling a bit taken advantage of is a big red flag and I think you should stay away from this guy and possibly even report him to your work. It's great to explore your sexuality in a setting where you feel safe with someone who you trust and makes you feel secure and the fact that you said you felt vulnerable means that he was completely out of line and he probably knew you felt uncomfortable. The fact that he kept going even though you were uncomfortable is wrong. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I am Bisexual myself but it took me a long time to admit it because my first encounter with a girl was scary and awful. I had a crush on this girl and I decided to flirt with her even though I thought I was 100% straight I was drunk at this party and so was she but she ended up pinning me to the ground and kissing me (which I liked and did turn me on) and asking if I was "a bad girl but then she stuck her hand up my skirt even though I said no and basically molested me while I freaked out and had an asthma attack on the floor. After that when I got with my boyfriend he had to be super gentle and caring so I wouldn't get scared and now I love sex and I feel totally safe and happy doing stuff with him but it took me a long time to get over that fear because of what happened with that girl. I haven't been with a girl since her but I do know I am attracted to them. I think you should call kid's help phone or something (yes 20 is young enough!) or another phone service with counselors to talk this out. Best of luck figuring out your sexuality and remember you don't even have to label your sexuality if you don't want to! I'm sorry you felt so coerced into sex you were not 100% sure about it's a tough thing to go through.
0 0 0 0Wow... I was thinking the SAME thing Could I have been raped?
I think it was more like coercion
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Let me start off by saying damn!!!
Ok he didn't take advantage of you first off. Your 20 years old and went over there on your own knowing full well he most likely would hit and you and try to do something sexual with you. He asked you questions instead of just going for it so he tried letting you be in control. I think you could be the ever popular term bi-curious and if you enjoy it bisexual or gay. I think you should hang out him again and just take things so. You both went full speed way to fast in one night. I also think you have to try to get over your shyness so you can know what you really are.0 0 0 0Your bi bruh. At the least.
Performance anxiety is really common with women, it can be easier to get hard around guys because they know EXACTLY whats going on. Plus with the girl you were probably a lot more tense and he eased you into it.
It's just psychological.1 0 0 0
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Nah bro you're totally strait.
1 0 0 0I think since you got hard for a guy but not a girl, you're gay... not that there's anything wrong with that.
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