I’m 20 and still a Virgin?

[samatho]

I’m 20, I’m a female and I don’t know when I should have sex. I’ve never been in a serious relationship. I was always super shy and just never really put myself out there. I’ve casually dated a bit and I’ve done oral and things like that, I’ve just never let it get to that point. I was always so fixated on it being the right person which I haven’t found yet. Now I definitely do want sex of course but I just don’t want to give it away to someone random. But I’m worried if it’s something I do have a connection with, I’ll end up hurt. So let’s say I start seeing a guy, after how many dates do you think it’s acceptable for me to have sex with him without me disrespecting myself? So many people think I’m lying when I say I’m a Virgin and I really am not and I wish I wasn’t. I just don’t know what to do. And I’m so ready to get it over with I just don’t want to regret it.

[partydelights]

1) I believe you're not lying. My wife was a virgin when we married at mid 20s. So to me its possible for girl to wait that long.

2) as a guy who waited for the right girl, this is what I think about losing...

Its NOT about the number of dates.

Rather it's about how much you love him AND how much he loves you in return.

So allow time to pass and a persons "true color" will show after some kind of trials (like disagreement, conflict, choices of life) occurs.

3) "I’m so ready to get it over with" - that's thinking with your vagina. And there is no logic there.

Get the ring on your finger, then you're almost ready. Everything else will likely break your heart.

[Anonymous]

Just 20... that's not a problem, you still have lots of time.
I'm a virgin in my late 30s, never had a kiss, never been in a relationship... my situation is much worse than yours.
Just don't end up like me.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO

[Sunflowernsn]

You shouldn’t be ashamed to wait for the right one. If you rush in to lose your virginity you’d definitely regret it if things don’t work out. My girl friends would literally complain saying they should’ve not made that move they should’ve wait but hey everyone’s different. I’d say whenever you and your partner feel confident, you have enough trust and respect for eachother. If you want something serious it’s important to get to really know that person. And don’t feel pressured just because others have lost their virginity’s before you there’s NOTHING wrong with that. Life isn’t a race so you take your time if you have to :)

[MF_Treestar]

I don't think there is ever really a "right person" as long as you find a good person that you can trust and enjoy the moment with.

[samatho]

This is true

[MF_Treestar]

If years from now you can look back and not have any regrets that means you did the right thing.

[luvstoned4him]

Welcome to the club but am 27

[blkgold33]

It seems you doing right thing with waiting and not rushing thing. Just keep going how you been until you are ready

[Celtero]

Don't worry about some arbitrary number of dates... just make sure you actually KNOW the person. Make sure they're a good person too, not just sexy and charismatic.

[iskg679]

It doesn't matter that you are still a virgin. You should do it when you are ready.

[ATuairiscean]

Loads of 20 year old virgins - Wait till it feels right for you

[JosyJosy]

is okay is normal

[Katie_14]

I wish i was a still a virgin, but i didn't wait and i now have twins and am happy

[Eridan]

There's nothing disrespectful about having sex with someone you like. I lost my virginity on the first date with a girl I met on Tinder, I wasn't complaining then and I have no regrets now (except maybe that I should've done it sooner). And she said I was a liar, too.

[jacquesvol]

You should have sex when you find mutual love with a guy. Or when you feel horny enough.

[karim97]

You are 20 .. what is the problem with being virgin in that age?
Don't rush

[DiegoO]

And what if you are "virgin". Virginity actually doesn't exist, is a social construct. Live life, wait until you find a right person and that's it.

[DiegoO]

Wait, you did oral 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😄😄😄😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 (...). You are not a virgin anymore of we stick strictly to what it means, oral sex is SEX. Why do you think condom packages have 3 condoms on the regular? Because of the 3 types of sex: oral, vaginal and anal.

[samatho]

Ummm no sex is when a penis is in your vagina, guess you missed that part of sex ED. My hymen is not broken therefore I am still a Virgin. Maybe that’s what your terms are but to me I am still a Virgin.

[DiegoO]

Sorry, but not for nothing oral sex is called oral SEX, and anal sex, is called anal SEX. They are not part of foreplay and the hymen can brake anytime, with an accident, wile you masturbate, is not something that pop only with vaginal SEX.

[samatho]

It doesn’t matter.

[samatho]

There’s no one universal definition of virginity. When people talk about virginity, a lot of the time they mean never having had vaginal intercourse. sex in which the vagina is penetrated by the penis. I haven’t had that done. It doesn’t matter if my hymen is broke or not which by the way it is, it broke after I received my IUD. But I’ve still never had a penis inside me so I do consider myself a Virgin. Some people may consider oral sex because it’s still a sexual encounter but to me it wasn’t that serious, and there still wasn’t a penis in me.

[samatho]

most people consider sex to only include only penetration ( or intercourse, whatever you say), a girl is still a virgin if she has had oral sex.

[DiegoO]

Yeah, well. For me is hard to understand that concept, been oral and anal sex a direct sexual activity, and nothing near foreplay.

[stormbreaker06]

close your legs and wait for the right guy.

[Gedaria]

Why worry, it you are some women think threy have to loose it as soon as possible. Cherish life if your love comes along you will enjoy the moment even better. My family are all female , sisters and daughters , out of them one is a teacher her first b\f was when she was 25 , whether she lost hers I don't know but life went , one is a lesbian she has only had g\f so still a virgin in the true sence.
So you can see you are not on your own, personally I admire you !!!

[Muhammad1999]

Do it with someone you love , don't rush to lose your virginity

[samatho]

So many people are telling me to just do it with someone and get it over with otherwise I’ll be hurt if it’s with someone I love and they hurt me in the end

[Muhammad1999]

Losing it to someone and get over it makes you look easy

[lofii]

I can help you

[SpecialWael]

I'm 25 and still a virgin ( by choice ) waiting for the right girl.. don't push it and don't overthink about it, just do it when u are 100% ready and with the RIGHT one who really deserves it.. good luck :)

[Akamerov88]

Oral stuff? By some definitions you are not a virgin anymore. It's a loose term with different meanings to different people. Regardless, you shouldn't rush into things or feel pressured. Just do it when it feels right. Also, you are still 20 which is pretty young. Many people don't lose it until several years later. Some people just lie about it.

[Amur8711]

I am 25 and also a virgin, just waiting for someone to be with.

[InvictusManeo]

Too long i can't read all of them. just tell me the theme

[Anonymous]

just wait until you be in a right relationship