I'm afraid to have sex because of my vagina?

hello, do I want to ask a question to men about something? my boyfriend and I have an extreme skin harmony and I think we will get into a relationship soon, but I have questions on my mind and I suffer from a lack of self-confidence. i am a girl with white-auburn skin, but my vulva is darker than my body, and therefore I am afraid to be with my boyfriend. What do men really think about this, and do you pay so much attention during sexual intercourse? my body, my breasts are fine, but do I care about my vagina too much?
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Superb Opinion

  • Not knowing too much about this topic, I asked my wife. She said, speaking as doctor, that the genital areas will be darker than other skin. There is no "normal" colored vagina/vulva. Simply, the skin in that area is darker. This change in tissue color is caused by a higher amount of melanocytes (pigment that provides color).

    As for my opinion, I couldn't care less if it was black, white, grey, red or any other color. When I would go down on woman, I want it to be fresh, clean and for my taste, shaved. I'm sure your boyfriend is the same!

    Keep it up and have fun!

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well it's hard to say without being able to see for myself. DM me a picture so I can give you a more informed opinion.

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    No though. I can't imagine a guy caring about that. Plus it's actually extremely common to have pussy lips that match the rest of your body. They are almost always darker.

    In fact I would say it's pretty rare to have a pussy the same shade as the rest of your body. So you shouldn't feel self conscious about it.

    Besides, regardless of how a girl might look on the outside, you're all pink on the inside as I always say.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Your vagina will naturally be harder than the rest of you. There’s a lot of friction down there especially when wearing tighter panties. Don’t let it stress you out too much.

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  • Most adult women have a vulva that is darker than the rest if their skin. Dont worry about it at all

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  • For me, it wouldn't be a problem. Everyone's body is unique and having things that make you special aren't bad. I don't even think what you describe seems uncommon. I feel like your boyfriend will love it. Everyone worries about his or her body, but physical appearance isn't the biggest thing when having sex. It's more about the emotional connection. You are amazing just the way you are.

  • The color makes no difference at all. Every person is unique. That goes for girls and guys.

    There was a girl on GAG the other day worrying about the size of her nipples. She thinks they are too big.

    I think girls, in particular, obsess about details - the size of their boobs and areolas, the size and color of their labia, you name it.
    But guys don't care about such details. They generally love female bodies.
    And if your guy is really into you, he'll adore your vulva and lips. Color is not an issue. It's normal and beautiful.

  • I don’t think he will be taking pictures and going all compare and contrast In his vagina scrapbook and notepad. I have seen a whole lot of vagina a lot of them up close and intimately , and yet none of them have stuck in my memory for any particular reason. Smell and taste well that’s a story for a different day when I haven’t just finished 3 extra saucy taco’s and a strawberry milkshake.

  • You can always have sex in the dark but he likely don't mind the vulva being dark so it's okay.

  • Don't worry about that, just give it a try.

  • Forget about it. We don't care.

  • Different parts of the body are often different colors. It's fairly common for a guy to have a penis that is either darker or lighter than the rest of his body. Same thing for woman... the vulva is sometimes lighter, sometimes darker.

    I would be very surprised if a guy turned you down because your vulva is a darker color.

    • Agreed.

  • Many Southeast Asian girls have a pleasantly tan complexion but their Nether Region can be as black as coal. I truly wish you would not fret about this.

  • Relax!!! Variations in color, texture, wetness, size of labia & clitoris, hairiness is all so different!! You're you and he'll love it! Only advice, keep it neat in a style that YOU'RE comfortable with. Have fun you crazy kids!!

  • You're crazy, no guy is going to care about that

  • Don’t worry about what color your vulva and it probably gonna look darker since it gets less light anywhere else on your body and most guys don’t care what color it is. As long you keep your vagina trim and clean you man will be happy and give you pleasure you need.

  • Don't worry about it, as long as he gets to penetrate he won't care about it being a little darker or whatever.

  • color is not as important as it is wet and tight. dont worry!!!

  • no straight dude looks at a girl's pussy and turns it down when she's about to put his dick in it.

    • or any other part of his body

  • no problem if it's not darker than your future.

  • Most guys are happy enough to see a vagina. So I don't think he'll care that much about how it looks beyond being glad to see it on a girl who wants him to like it. So we do care, but not about the look, so much as about the intent behind it.

  • Hard for me to think without seeing some pictures here let me see online real quick what dark vulva looks like... OOF that gave me pictures I didn't want to see (STI stuff).

    I'm not sure I would care that much unless it's like some weird black and white difference. But even then I'd probably just ignore it and be happy I'm with a naked girl I guess I don't know.

  • I think most guys would not even see the difference. Most guys would not even care about the color difference. The female vagina comes in many sizes shape and colors. so have sex and don't worry about it. But if takes exception to the color difference tell him to FUCK OFF

  • You lost me at extreme skin harmony

    • Why man?

    • It's weird, the wording.

  • That is not a problem

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