I'm regularly having casual sex with my son's friend. It's great for me/his friend, but I sometimes feel guilty. Should I stop?
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I've been having casual sex with my son's good friend for the past month and a half (he and my son are both 23 and I'm 45 by the way). On a completely selfish level this is a pretty great thing for us. Neither of us wants a committed relationship (at least right now), we both still want to enjoy sex, and we get along pretty well. Moreover, he's got this chiseled muscular body and is pretty incredible in bed (better than anything I've experienced in an extremely long time). We both know it's never going anywhere beyond non-committed sex hookups so we can just enjoy sex without having to worry about anything else along with it. Additionally, the fact the arrangement is so taboo/'wrong'/can only be known between us makes the sex that much better. Additionally, it's pretty great for my self esteem. I recently got divorced. There was a lot of reasons for this, but my ex husband basically 'threw me away' after he got bored of me/lost any attraction towards me. It made me feel old and undesirable/unattractive. Maybe that's dumb, but it did take a strong hit to my self esteem/confidence. However, having this incredibly sexy much younger guy lusting after me so intensely and absolutely craves to have sex with me over and over and over again (when he could be doing the same thing with any number of hot young girls his age) has given me a huge confidence boost.
With that being said I often do feel pretty guilty about this. I know it would really, really, really bother my son if he ever found out. I never want to do that to him. I've thought many times of stopping (even though I'm really loving it). However, keeping it a secret from him is pretty easy. Moreover, the relationship isn't ever going to go beyond casual sex. Consequently, I think we could do this potentially for a long while without him ever knowing or being affected by it. Still, I often feel guilty. Should I stop or is it OK to keep this going?
Honestly it's okay as long your son or anyone else find out and you keep it between you and him. There is nothing wrong with casual sex and if it's helping with your confidence and self esteem i don't see why stop. Also it's a good thing that you both know it's not going anywhere and just to have fun and you have that right to have some fun after your divorce.
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mantelkXper 4
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You are a failure of a mother. You have already messed up. I think you should see a psychiatrist and beg forgiveness. I'd disown you and never see you again for the rest of my life.
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CrankorYoda
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At this point it wouldn't matter if you stopped or not. The possibile reaction with be the same if your son found out. Just consider how the sons friend will react if you decide to stop it instead of him.
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Zenit93Xper 5
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Mom of the year right here. Your son will surely look up to as a role model figure you when his friends are talking about what your pussy looks like. Sarcasm aside, you sound like a woman with no self restraint or control. Emotional maturity of a child. Work through your emotions like an adult before you act. Maybe you feel validated by a younger guy because your husband essentially threw you away. Is this a sustainable or healthy way to feel better? Maybe you ought to go to therapy and establish roots in regard to building your self worth and value. Children act on how they feel with no thought. Adults work through their emotions. There's literally nothing more whorish and perverted than fucking your childs friend. Think about your son instead of your hormones. He's likely to resent you and likely to be ashamed. If getting some dick from someone half your age is worth your relationship with your son, then have at it.
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Ironmunkee
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Thank God for this comment. All the other comments of middle aged losers getting turned on by this woman's vile behavior was rotting my brain. If she does it because it makes her feel confident and pretty, wait until he dumps her for someone his age.
roy_ricky09Yoda
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This is all your fault. You shouldn't have become weak and fall into it. You yourself knew it was wrong from the beginning, but you didn't control your emotions. Where is the dignity. How would your son feel if he gets to know about it. Your son will bare double loss. Are suggesting that if you are vulnerable, then anyone can take advantage of you? You should stop it and get back up and take control of your life.
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roy_ricky09
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I didn't want to say it here, Message me if you wanna talk about it.
roy_ricky09
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You there?
LiketheviewXper 4
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you go girl. you keep with it and do what makes you feel good. boys will be fine. im certain.. enjoy your life and your ex is a loser and your winning by not being the victim. so yes be careful to not get caught and ride sally ride.
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TwalliMaster
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Stopping will make you stop feeling guilty, but you'll miss out in great sex with him. Neither choice is right or wrong.
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SurelyGuru
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I would imagine that you are past the accidental baby making stage. Make a joke about it with your son and see how it turns out. Maybe he is doing his friend’s mother and you don’t know about it!!!
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PudsmuckerYoda
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You cougar. You may want to walk away from your son's friend. What's more important a few moments of pleasure or for Love or confidence from your son. There are other young studs out there.
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HanrejYoda
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So long as you're consenting adults and you're both fine with the arrangment I say you should continue.
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Intothevoid666Xper 5
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Jesus Christ wtf
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GhostluckXper 5
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If it weren't for the fact that your son's feelings are at stake here, I would say go for whatever. You need to be aware of this though, it's only a matter of time before your son finds out. It's inevitable. So the real question is, how is he going to find out? Your honesty, or him finding out on his own. It may be time for a talk and find out how he feels about it before continuing. You are for sure in a rock and a hard place here. There are no easy answers and there are no easy solutions.
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Nahid1707Guru
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Yes stop because you shouldn’t, would you agree?
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OddBeMeMaster
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Your relationship with your son will probably, is probably, fckd.
This isn't the first time youve acted this way and I’m sure your son already knows on some level.
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JerreMaster
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Keep on fucking him, don’t worry about your son. You will enjoy cumming a lot more thinking about his cock rather than you son.
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Luckycharms12Guru
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One way to fall out with your son
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Asker
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But that's only if he finds out. It's not hard to do this without him knowing. And if he never knows he'll never be hurt. However, if the small chance happens that he does find out he'd feel atrocious and humiliated. However, that's probably not even a 3% like hood, and I'm loving this/it's super great for me and his friend. But if it did it would be terrible. Again, this is why I'm constantly going back and forth about this
Luckycharms12
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Not worth the risk for both of you. Chances are him and his friend going to fight and not talking to you.
Zolly99999Yoda
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If you are both happy and enjoying it then keep having fun.. a very similar thing happened to me a few years ago. My ex girlfriend did the exact same thing to me.. it is such a horrible life changing feeling.. then a very hot 18 year old came on to me and we had a sexual fling for a few months. It was life altering.
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AFretiredTXnXper 6
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Don't rock the boat>
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XLBBC4WhiteXper 3
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First off that story brought me back and although it wasn't a buddy's mom (I can think back to a few friend's Moms I wanted) my first older woman was 44 when I was 22. To answer your question, I'd consider finding other young studs. Someday, this will come out and it could damage your Son beyond ways you could even think of.
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WaldoeGuru
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You guys are not hurting anyone, just be sure the doors are locked, curtains closed and that there is an escape plan, in case you hear him coming... have FUN... Sex feels Good and improves Mood, Complexion, Sleep... I am sure you can make up some other benefits... good luck
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14 71Honestly it's okay as long your son or anyone else find out and you keep it between you and him. There is nothing wrong with casual sex and if it's helping with your confidence and self esteem i don't see why stop. Also it's a good thing that you both know it's not going anywhere and just to have fun and you have that right to have some fun after your divorce.
You are a failure of a mother. You have already messed up. I think you should see a psychiatrist and beg forgiveness. I'd disown you and never see you again for the rest of my life.
At this point it wouldn't matter if you stopped or not. The possibile reaction with be the same if your son found out. Just consider how the sons friend will react if you decide to stop it instead of him.
Mom of the year right here. Your son will surely look up to as a role model figure you when his friends are talking about what your pussy looks like. Sarcasm aside, you sound like a woman with no self restraint or control. Emotional maturity of a child. Work through your emotions like an adult before you act. Maybe you feel validated by a younger guy because your husband essentially threw you away. Is this a sustainable or healthy way to feel better? Maybe you ought to go to therapy and establish roots in regard to building your self worth and value. Children act on how they feel with no thought. Adults work through their emotions. There's literally nothing more whorish and perverted than fucking your childs friend. Think about your son instead of your hormones. He's likely to resent you and likely to be ashamed. If getting some dick from someone half your age is worth your relationship with your son, then have at it.
Thank God for this comment. All the other comments of middle aged losers getting turned on by this woman's vile behavior was rotting my brain. If she does it because it makes her feel confident and pretty, wait until he dumps her for someone his age.
This is all your fault. You shouldn't have become weak and fall into it. You yourself knew it was wrong from the beginning, but you didn't control your emotions. Where is the dignity. How would your son feel if he gets to know about it. Your son will bare double loss.
Are suggesting that if you are vulnerable, then anyone can take advantage of you? You should stop it and get back up and take control of your life.
I didn't want to say it here, Message me if you wanna talk about it.
You there?
you go girl. you keep with it and do what makes you feel good. boys will be fine. im certain.. enjoy your life and your ex is a loser and your winning by not being the victim. so yes be careful to not get caught and ride sally ride.
Stopping will make you stop feeling guilty, but you'll miss out in great sex with him. Neither choice is right or wrong.
I would imagine that you are past the accidental baby making stage. Make a joke about it with your son and see how it turns out.
Maybe he is doing his friend’s mother and you don’t know about it!!!
You cougar. You may want to walk away from your son's friend. What's more important a few moments of pleasure or for Love or confidence from your son.
There are other young studs out there.
So long as you're consenting adults and you're both fine with the arrangment I say you should continue.
Jesus Christ wtf
If it weren't for the fact that your son's feelings are at stake here, I would say go for whatever. You need to be aware of this though, it's only a matter of time before your son finds out. It's inevitable. So the real question is, how is he going to find out? Your honesty, or him finding out on his own. It may be time for a talk and find out how he feels about it before continuing. You are for sure in a rock and a hard place here. There are no easy answers and there are no easy solutions.
Yes stop because you shouldn’t, would you agree?
Your relationship with your son will probably, is probably, fckd.
This isn't the first time youve acted this way and I’m sure your son already knows on some level.
Keep on fucking him, don’t worry about your son. You will enjoy cumming a lot more thinking about his cock rather than you son.
One way to fall out with your son
But that's only if he finds out. It's not hard to do this without him knowing. And if he never knows he'll never be hurt. However, if the small chance happens that he does find out he'd feel atrocious and humiliated. However, that's probably not even a 3% like hood, and I'm loving this/it's super great for me and his friend. But if it did it would be terrible. Again, this is why I'm constantly going back and forth about this
Not worth the risk for both of you. Chances are him and his friend going to fight and not talking to you.
If you are both happy and enjoying it then keep having fun.. a very similar thing happened to me a few years ago. My ex girlfriend did the exact same thing to me.. it is such a horrible life changing feeling.. then a very hot 18 year old came on to me and we had a sexual fling for a few months. It was life altering.
Don't rock the boat>
First off that story brought me back and although it wasn't a buddy's mom (I can think back to a few friend's Moms I wanted) my first older woman was 44 when I was 22. To answer your question, I'd consider finding other young studs. Someday, this will come out and it could damage your Son beyond ways you could even think of.
You guys are not hurting anyone, just be sure the doors are locked, curtains closed and that there is an escape plan, in case you hear him coming... have FUN... Sex feels Good and improves Mood, Complexion, Sleep... I am sure you can make up some other benefits... good luck