Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Background info:
My friend and I have always had a flirtatious history and we’re both single. I am in love with him, but not in a serious way. I eventually want to meet a new guy to marry.
About the idea of waiting for future boyfriend:
A part of me wants to have my first sexual experience with someone I’m in a serious relationship with who I’m deeply in love with. I want his penis be the 1st one I experience. I think that would be really romantic.
Also, I’m afraid I might find it psychologically disturbing to have memories of being sexual with someone else other than him.
About the idea giving friend a blowjob:
But on the other hand, for so long I’ve had an intense desire to be sexual with my best guy friend. I do badly want to see his penis, and I so badly want to touch his penis and see how he personally responds to different ways of touching him. Almost all the time I have intense sexual thoughts of him.
Final Thoughts:
Even though a part of me thinks I should wait for a future boyfriend, I have so desperately for so long wanted to give him a blowjob, I’m wondering if this waiting for a future boyfriend thing is really worth it. I thought maybe I should let myself have some fun because I so badly want to do this.
I’m torn between giving my best guy friend a blow job vs waiting for a future boyfriend. I’ve never had sexual relations with anyone before?
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Updates:
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I’d really appreciate your thoughts on my conflicting desires.
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Do you have any ideas as to what would be best to do in this situation?
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What Girls & Guys Said
4 40Why can't he be your boyfriend?
IKR? That's what I said.
@Jamie05rhs i mean she is only going to put him on if she doesn't really care about him and ruin the friendship.
You mean lead him on?
@Jamie05rhs yeah. Because he gets the bj then he might want more or the next step in their sexcapades is sex itself. Then she starts using him whenever but never really want to be with him and what happens then?
suck his dick! suck his dick! suck his dick!
lol sorry in all seriousnes tho i would just give ur guy friend a bj. most likely ur future boyfriend will have had a bj before. just wondering have u told ur guy friend about this?
and why a bj and not sex or something else? just curious bc usually bjs are mostly guys enjoyment
You should probably do it. I mean I get thr future boyfriend thing, but you won't have a chance to experience your friend's penis if you wait. You clearly want to expierence it.
Turn your best guy friend into your boyfriend and then see what happens.
If you two are together all of the time, no other decent guy will approach you.
Practice is always good to have. Have some fun, not everything has to be a relationship.
Don’t over-think it... go for it. You’re already attracted to him and the feeling is probably mutual so just keep it casual and fun. Honestly I think you’re better off carrying some experience into a future relationship.
In the time you used to think of all of that, you could've given him 2 BJ.
My kinda girl!
How old are you?
I think that you will think about the first penis when you are with your husband. So better be that sincere to yourself and stay without sex at all or accept that blowjob is also sex.
Dont do until married
Honestly, I say wait until marriage. People actually do still do that!
Have you ever heard of anyone regretting waiting?
wait.
You have to decide that. It's your will.
I would not wait something special or whatever but I am not religious
Well having a dick the first time csn be bad experience. Giving bliw job he might want more. Its your choice dear
Go for it. Most men have other women. Before serious relationships. dint hold back so much.
You're like me you think to much. Just do what feels right.
If you want means don't think too much
If you think too much means you don't do anything
Don't overthink things. Go for it and suck that D
You should do it and do it frequently so that you become good at it.