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I make 8K a month and it’s not enough for my boyfriend?

I am a cam model and my boyfriend is my moderator.. I pay him half of my weekly earnings because he says he’s taking his time to do this so he needs what he is worth but that’s all he does is moderate (hardly) and plays video games while “works” I don’t want to masturbate EVERYDAY so I don’t stream everyday but still manage to take home 8k a month or more!!! He says I don’t think he is important and put him on the back burner because after bills he’s only making $500-$1000 a week and I need to be working so he can make money as well.. I feel heart broken because all I do is care for him and think about him… I don’t want him to work with me anymore but he lives with me and I’m scared to tell him to get a job.. I know it sounds stupid but I am
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  • Woah, ... for starters if you're making 8k a month, you should count your lucky stars! That's amazing actually. Good for you!! -- But as far as your boyfriend, I think you need a relationship reset.
    It's difficult when the lines get blurred when you're living with, & working with, & being in a relationship, the same person. I don't think he deserves half of your earnings, because you're clearly doing the bulk of the work. I think maybe 60/40 might be a little more fair -- & if he doesn't like it, get a new moderator. I don't like that he gives you shit (& guilt trips) about what he is or isn't getting either. This doesn't have anything to do with how "important" he is. He should be happy for you.
    You are not responsible for employing him. If it isn't working, you need to speak up & say so. Perhaps you need to redefine some boundaries, & if that means he get another job, so be it.

Most Helpful Girl

  • he's a bum. He is why i don't respect a lot of gamers. If they gamed and worked and exercised, i’d be fine with that. But this dude doesn't even work and has you playing mommy dearest. he's basically an ex of mine. Im shocked you’re still with him. Tell him to put down the controller and pickup something handy. Why are you busting your ass for this bum? And also, you’re selling yourself for him to not even sell shit. You shouldn't be selling yourself in general but do whatever. However, i wouldn't be surprised if he lost respect for you for doing so and maybe thats why he sits back as some type of revenge plot. he's acting like a pimp to a hoe honestly

Most Helpful Guys

  • This is what happens when you become a sex worker. You only attract men who just want either your money, or shallow casual sex, You don't find love.

    If I were in a relationship, and my girlfriend/wife was masturbating in front of other guys, I wouldn't feel loved no matter what she did for me (even if she gave me 100% of the profits, even if she waited on me hand and foot on top of that, even if in every other way she was a doting wife who bent over backwards for me, I'd feel betrayed, I'd tell her keep the money, and I'd just leave the relationship and stop speaking to her, it would just be like cheating to me, and I wouldn't be able to tolerate it enough to stay)

    She could make 100k a day and I would still feel this way, no amount of money is worth that.

    • I started being a sex worker after we met and he made it clear he was perfectly fine with it, the minute he wasn’t I would stop if that was the case. I respect your opinion though!

    • I figured based on your initial post, but the fact that he is fine with it, and the fact that 4k a month while barely doing any work is somehow not enough money to be happy, suggests he's in it for the money, and not you. If I got 4k a month I could live like a king and turn it into 500 mill or even a few billion in a few years easy by funding my projects. Not enough my ass. Not unless he just wants to mooch off you forever and do nothing with his life. Thats not love...

  • I do nude photography. My wife, on occasion, helps me set up the spaces, do hair and makeup, coordinates, handles poses, and will help me edit. She doesn't ask for a dime.

    Your boyfriend ho estoy sounds like a mooch and a spoiled shit. You're making your money while he gets a fairly large allowance from you for effectively doing nothing. It's YOU your audience signs up for.

    I'd be straight and tell him he needs to pull his weight. And if he refuses, he's free to go elsewhere.

    Shit... if my wife was pulling $8k a month I'd be making sure she's as happy as can be. She already makes almost twice what I make in her career.

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  • Where do you live? I'll do his job for free. It doesn't seem like it's hard work.

  • If this is not trolling, you need to get away from him.

    he is simply being your pimp.

    as soon as your monthly amount drops then you will be got rid of.

    you need to actually have an accountant or similar.

    you need to be doing something with your cash.

    you only have so many years at this.

  • This is awful you're supporting him and he's being shitty about it. What happens in five or ten years when you can't or don't want to do that job anymore and he has no useful skills or career? It's bad now and it's only going to get worse. You gotta course correct or end it like today.

    • I’ve had the same thought running through my head “what happens when I’m done?” I remember I brought this up to him in a similar way and you what he said? “Take the money I make and create a business” like wtf it’s an idea but I need security

    • Tell him he needs to start that business now. You're generating the capital what's he bringing? He needs to either get an idea started or work somewhere to learn about a business

  • Wow, boyfriend, pimp, and roommate! Quite a few hats that guy wears. Great choice for a boyfriend... 🙄

  • I do have advice for you but I also have a few questions.. so if I may ask them first and advise after..

    1) How much would it cost yo to pay someone else to do that who you don't know?
    And how would your boyfriend feel if you got someone else to do that live so to speak?

    The reason I ask is because in the job you're doing it is VERY easy to take or be taken for granted by the other. You need each other just as much, so make sure you try your best to make the other happy.

    • Most of my model friends pay $100 a show to their moderators so it would be significantly cheaper.. my boyfriend would be a little upset but he would also just get a job… he’s also petty and acts like a woman sometimes, he would assume I don’t think he’s worth what I’m paying him and that I’m greedy… we’ve had this fight before

    • There is an old saying that you should never work with someone you're dating. The whole familiarity breeds contempt thing. I know if you care for this guy then you have to keep him on side. It really all depends on how much you actually care. and how much you are i love with him because he is ok with what you're doing.

  • I will echo, what most are saying..

    You're being taken advantage of. I use to run a studio with cam girls, any chimp can moderate.

    It's pretty common to not want to work with the person you're with. I def don't. Work is work and I don't mix it with my social life too often.

  • he isn't really a boyfriend as much as an exploitative pimp... get rid of him and keep your hard earned paper all for you

  • Your boyfriend is pimping you out and trying to take advantage of you.

  • You need to dump your boyfriend. An income of 8k isn't all that much, what I mean is you need all 96k per year to get ahead, own your own place and car. You can't afford to be giving him half of what you make for doing next to nothing and him just blowing what you give him.

  • Sounds like your boyfriend is more of a pimp than your moderator. He expects you to support him (more than you currently do) by online camming.

    If you want to cam, fine, that's your choice, but please don't like some guy control you. Take charge of your life.

  • He's ripping you off hon.

  • Drop him. You are not a cash cow.

    • Agreed

  • Dump this guy and go to the police or file a restraining order if you feel threatened (at 8K a month you can afford a lawyer)

  • I agree with other people on this question, your boyfriend is taking advantage of you
    I would say start looking for a new guy who will at least have a job delivering pizza's etc

  • He sounds like a loathsome lazy leech, lout, liar and loser!! And a gold digger!! Lose HIM!! Other than take take charge of a web site, I have no idea what a mod does but, it sounds to me like you're his cash cow. YOU'RE doing ALL the work, making ALL the money and giving half to him!! He wants to be paid more for what he's worth? Sounds to me like he's not worth very much at all!! Just like a pimp! YOU do all the sex work and take all the risks and HE does next to nothing but gets most of the money!!
    If you suddenly decide to stop Jilling-off on camera, what would happen to him? My guess is, he'd get VERY pissed and probably LEAVE YOU!
    "Honey, I saw my gynecologist today and she/he says that I'm playing with my pussy too much and need to take a long break and, if I DO come back to it, I should slow down, maybe twice a week."

  • One month of your salary can pay off my car, he tweakin, he should be getting a job, not feeling off your money, next time put him in the dress

    • Feening*

  • That’s not fair for you, you’re the one who is exposing ur goods. You should definitely take more than him. Don’t let him think that you don’t deserve it. You should take like 6-7k and he takes the rest. Yes throw the whole man away bro. He’s taking advanatagd of you!!!

  • i hate cam modeling. its stupid. GET A REAL JOB

  • This sounds really stupid

  • your boyfriend is just pimping you, fuck that guy

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