I seen in my bf phone he has been looking at half naked females...I dont know how to approach the situation I need some advice.?

[Anonymous]

Im not ok with this and if I was to do the same he wouldn't be either. It was a stripper website...he was looking at the females picture,,, I've caught this type of behavior and addressed it before...I told him of thats what he wants to do then ill do the same he insisted its not and he would respect me, he used to watch p*rn I think he won't never respect me and will keep looking at naked and half naked females...we have a family and im starting to feel like he doesn't find me attractive bc I am pregnant

[jolee1]

Don't worry about this AT ALL :). Completely harmless. You can start worrying if he is looking at pictures of girls he knows. If they are from p*rn sites that is fine. he is not cheating just looking.
A lot of guys do this to reduce stress.
You are also pregnant and remember your emotions and hormones are heightened compared to when your not pregnant. My mum is a midwife and constantly talks about funny things she see's women do or think when they are pregnant. If you continue to feel anxious over this chalk it up to your preg. hormones.
He is also going through a change from man to father, this is something that ties him to his past, let him look you may see this change when the baby is born.

i hope i have helped.

[Asker]

May b you are right...but I did end up finding more...this time it was more then just pictures (check update )...im hurt and I knew it was something more every1 thought I was just tryna start an argument while he is contacting women for sex...found out in his deleted folder in his email

[THChowder]

Leave him.

From what you've mentioned, he has done this in the past. Will he change ever?

I don't believe in ultimatums, I don't know if you would want to have him pick you or the other. Then again, it may not change anything.

I would NOT be okay with my boyfriend looking at stuff like that. Pregnant or not.

[princesswitch]

I agreee so much. Dump him.

[dragonfly6516]

Looking is normal and healthy. Trying to cheat is not, and if he won't let you look too, then he doesn't respect you.

[islands7]

Looking is normal and can actually help a relationship going through pregnancy or other trials, in that it stimulates the guy into lust or love and love usually prevails in the end.

Contacting other gals is walking the divorce line. You pregnant = he's holding all the cards until you call a lawyer for paid advice. The lawyer might later want to speak with him, to clear his brain and set him straight.

HOW DID YOU MEET THIS GUY?

[Asker]

Through work

[AustinMan]

Leave it alone. It's doing no harm. He's not comparing you to those women. Men love to see beautiful women but that says nothing about our fidelity or love. We're genetically programmed to be highly visual, particularly when it comes to sex, so let him look and let the sleeping dog lie.

[THChowder]

How can you say that? "genetically programmed" Such a copout, man.

[AustinMan]

No. It's a scientific fact. It goes all the way back to the earliest Homo Sapiens. Sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear.

[princesswitch]

It is a cop out. It's a false "fact" that men leech on to to excuse their behavior.

[Sarah_cheeky_tease]

Not a big deal. Lot of my friends bf end up at strippers every so often not a big deal unless he knows them

[UlsterScot]

You had no business snooping. Are you checking to see if he is masturbating too? You created a problem where there may have been none. Did you mention you were married? Ah. Shacking and having an illegitimate child are OK but looking at half naked women isnt? Moral ambiguity.

[Asker]

You should speak on the situation at hand before involving my child without knowing facts sir...then again u are no1

[Kshppatel]

He is fapping lol. Let him fap in peace srs.

[Anonymous]

It sounds to me that being pregnant is playing a big part of this question. Men's eyes are always going to wander. Nothing you can do about that, what if you go to the beach tell him to stare at the sand. The way I see it it's better his eyes wander than his dick. Get over your self esteem issues, that's where the problem lies in this guy's eyes.