Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My girlfriend and I are both 22 years old and we've been together for a year and a half. Before I met her I watched a lot of porn daily, for many years. I watched it a few times after we started dating but when she found out she told me she doesn't like the idea of porn. I stopped watching it out of respect to her. She has a low sex drive but she puts in an effort to please me, which I appreciate it. We are only able to have sex about 2-3 times a month due to her low sex drive and our lack of privacy.
I went over a year porn free for her but last week I caved in and watched 1 porn video. She found out because I accidentally left it up.
She cried hysterically and told me it is a form of cheating mentally and that she doesn't feel good enough and can't trust me. She old me the only way she'll consider staying with me is if I seek professional help for a porn addiction. She told her friend about it as well.
I feel bad for what I did, but is she overreacting?
I watched porn and now my relationship is on the line, is she overreacting?
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23 13Leave immediately. I respect you for leaving porn aloe for a year but she has to get over herself if she isn't going to ramp up the sex in the bedroom...
You're both NOT sexually compatible... its that simple...
Boys will be boys your girlfriend needs to lighten up
What kind of girlfriend doesn't watch porn with her boyfriend?
If she's not watching porn with you, she's not the one.
I wouldn't say that's entirely true. I don't personally care if my guy watches porn but watching porn with me would suck because porn (I have no idea why) makes me legitimately laugh my ass off, so I'd ruin the experience for him. Lol. I do agree though that they aren't a good match.
she is manipulating u and has control issues
Watching porn makes some girls feel unattractive and insecure. It could just be a " her " thing. To me.. she's over reacting
And this my friends is a definition of over reacting!
Watching porn is a normal/casual thing and its not an addiction unless you masturbate more then 5 times a day to hardcore porn.
Always remember that you can do whatever you want and that no one can tell you not to watch porn.
Her hysterical reaction shows some kind of inner fear that you two have to discuss if you want to go on with her. Yes, its an overreaction by my opinion.
2-3 months? That's terrible.
I wouldn't call it overreacting if she tried to satisfy you a couple of days a week, yet you chose to watch porn. However, having sex with you 2-3 times a month, she should have expected you to watch porn from time to time. So yes, I call that overreacting.
You have needs too and apparently your needs differ from her needs. If I were you, I'd reconsider the relationship.
2-3 times a month?*
Yes she's overreacting... we all have needs and yours needed to be filled.. break up with her
From her view point no because she is looking at it as betrayal.
I do think you guys should see someone... not for help with a Porn addiction but just to kind of get you too talking more openly. Why didn't you feel like you could talk to her before you turned to porn? You know. But that fact that you just did it with out bringing it up and got caught looks bad... for all she knows you've been doing it all along.
she's over reacting , it's not cheating at all , I'd rather have my boyfriend watch porn then go out and actually cheat on me , we even watch porn together while having sex , it's normal to do its normal to watch