Initiating Foreplay with my man: is lube immediately necessary when starting with a handjob?

I've always heard that it's uncomfortable for men, but at the beginning of foreplay it's not a whole lot of quick friction. Just curious as to what the preferred way to do it is
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  • No lube at all is needed. It's the feeling of something rubbing against the head of the dick that's gonna make us cum. The skin inside your pussy has thousands and thousands of tiny folds of skin in it, it's part of how you can push a baby through there and not rip anything open. The head of a guy's dick is the same as your clit! It's just not QUITE as sensitive because the nerves in it are spread over a much bigger area AND, ESPECIALLY if he's circumcised, they are desensitized by his clothes rubbing against them al the time. When the head of his dick rubs against those folds of skin inside you, that's what's gonna make him cum!
    Now, if you were to take one of your hands and wrap it around the end of his dick so that only the tip of the head was sticking out through the hole made by your thumb and forefinger, then, with an open palm, rub that in a circular motion, you'll make him cum! (Rub the magic lamp and the white Genie will come out!) It might even make him cum harder! Anyway, no lube is needed.

Most Helpful Guy

  • A little slobber aka spit will work.
    Lube is good unless you are doing a hand and blowjob, then you may want to go with something edible/flavored or stick with spit.
    If it ends up just a handjob lube is good, he might not last as long then, unless he/you are into edging, getting really close and stopping and starting, or just enough to keep him there but not enough to let him finish.
    If it turns into a footjob then lots of lube and keep a towel close by, it's hard to go to the bathroom to wash up with you feet covered in lube and cum.

Most Helpful Girls

  • No. I dont tend to even need the lube because before long we are having sex. It's enough to get him hard and ready to go. Unless you are doing anal or going through menopause why bother with lube?

  • Dry can hurt but not all like the feeling of lube so it's just comes down to preference.

    • @raphaelle @curly1986 Dry can hurt, but lube can make too much of a mess, of course, depending on the setting.

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  • Nah. Start things gradually and go with the flow. Sorta like if he's going to finger you, it shouldn't be rushed right?

  • I'm cut and I prefer no lube, both alone or with a woman. If you're gentle, it feels great and lube isn't needed.

  • The skin is loose enough that it should be an issue to begin slowly without lube, and then if you get more involved a bit to lube is good.

  • Spit on it if necessary. I'm sure he won't mind 😉

  • Probably it is unless you are very practiced with him. I masturbate with a dry hand but I know what I'm feeling.

  • I don't like any lube at all at any point personally.

  • Lube is nice but not necessary

  • I think it is. Keep a TSA-approved 3-oz size in your pocket book.

  • Just see where it goes and apply it in the go. You'll be fine.

  • I don't need lube to enjoy a handjob but that's kind of the perk of not being circumcised, if your partner is cut you'll probably want to use some.

  • I never had a girl use lube when giving me handjobs and they were still terrific. So I wouldn't worry about it

  • Not really. Usually the kissing gets it kind of hard, after it the breast sucking comes. Then she goes down there with her mouth so no lube is necessary

  • It's not uncomfortable if his penis is intact.

  • Go with the flow. Do lot of foreplay before going to give him a handjob.

  • I prefer a good long foreplay before the actual act of sex.

  • I don’t like it

  • Ask him

    • You're not wrong in the slightest

  • No. Guys are different tho. I had an acquaintance who had to microwave his lube before masturbating.

  • I would skip the lube at first. He should make enough precum that will help. If you feel you need more, use your own pussy juice as a lube.

  • Lube your hand with your wet pussy, then give him a handjob. He'll be fine!

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