Is a woman cheating considered worse than a man cheating?

[Female_assasin]

Because this is what i have noticed many people think, and their excuse is men cheat for sexual needs, but women do it wholeheartedly, which can actually be bulls, so many women cheat because their partners don't provide them with enough sexual pleasure.

[Lliam]

Not in my opinion. But I consider cheating by anyone to be self-centered, dishonest and dishonorable. I never did it. I always broke up with a girl before starting up with a new one.

[Ripper_E]

Cheating is cheating. It makes no difference who does it. Women and men both have feelings so who is anyone to tell the opposite sex which one is worse.

[Crystal03]

Cheating is cheating.

[OlderAndWiser]

Nothing is as bad as your spouse or partner cheating - whatever gender that is.

[Secret6620]

I think it's 50/50. Just depending on the individuals involved of course. 🤓✌️☮️

[normalice]

I suppose some think its unfair for a guy to go through the trouble of maintaining a relationship for sex, and then she just gives it away to some other guy. If she just wants casual thrills, most guys would be happy to give that to her without also agreeing not to give it to other girls.

[Female_assasin]

Yeah like women don't go through the trouble of maintaining a relationship?

[normalice]

Of course they do. It's just that it's usually women who demand a relationship in the first place.

[Female_assasin]

Yeah and men don't have a heart to love... no wonder why western women are becoming feminazis , it's because of disgusting ideologies like that.

[normalice]

What? No. I'm just saying if sex is a high priority for a woman, she should make sure it's of equal priority for a guy before pursuing a relationship with him. It is a little unfair that most guys don't expect it to be a concern for most women, but that unfairness is double edged.

[Female_assasin]

Yeah but it's totally ok for men to cheat if he is not given enough sexual pleasure

[normalice]

It isn't okay for men to cheat, it's just easier to understand. Like death by fire isn't "better" than death by stroke. It's just easier to see how death happened.

[Female_assasin]

How is it in ANYWAY EASIER? like there is no argument convenient enough to let a man cheat but not a woman, not even more understandable.

[normalice]

I said easier to understand, not easier to justify. There is no justification for either gender cheating.

[Female_assasin]

that is contradicting, If it's easier to understand it's definitely easier to justify obviously, thetly go hand in hand

[Female_assasin]

*they

[normalice]

Understanding and justification often correlate, but they are not synonymous. For example, it's just as easy to understand why someone might kill out of revenge as it is to understand why someone might kill out of spite, but only one of this might be justifiable.

[Female_assasin]

So you are saying it's not understandable why a woman could cheat?

[normalice]

It is less understandable, yes. Because we spend the first ~10 years of our sex lives assuming women want dick as badly as we want to give it to them. And they mostly prove us as wrong as one can be. So, when a woman comes along and shows she actually wants dick more than anyone assumes women do, it appears to throw off the pattern is all. On a larger scale it can still be part of the pattern, but, my main point in all this is that, in general, it's slightly harder for people to understand "the big picture".

[Female_assasin]

That doesn't make any sense , and it's definitely not an excuse for it to be less understandable , i have seen so many men leaving their wives for their secretary , if that is not emotional then tell me what is , and even if he doesn't want to leave his wife for her, her wife definitely will as soon as she finds out, being cheated on for sexual pleasure is DEFINITELY as painful as it being emotional.

[normalice]

As I keep saying, just because something is easier to understand doesn't make it justified (or "excused"). Indeed, in a court of law, they always attempt to prove a motive - they use understanding as a way to confirm guilt, not as a way to exonerate. I don't know much about men who leave for their secretaries. I'm sure there is an emotional argument, but it gives balance to my point rather than contradicting it: I think that if any guy said he cheated on his wife for emotional reasons, it would be just as hard for everyone to understand as a woman saying she cheated on her husband for physical reasons.

[Female_assasin]

That is just stupid, people cheat for various reasons regardless of gender🤦‍♀️

[normalice]

Correct. But people tend to think of multiple events in terms of their average. And the average reason men cheat is because of physical reasons, and the average reason women cheat is because of emotional reasons. There is always going to be variance, but someone would have to dedicate quite a bit of their time to the field if they wanted to remain aware of the full scope of it. And unless they are getting paid for it, no one has that kind of time to dedicate to understanding other people's problems..

[Female_assasin]

Yeah but both are terrible, why would one be more understandable than the other? that is just bulls no offence, maybe it's more understandable for you since you are a man but not to me.

[normalice]

Again, you seem to be confusing understanding with justifying. They are both equally terrible, but when someone does something terrible that also doesn't make sense people tend to perceive it as worse - because we prefer things be predictable.

[CubsterShura]

The only time I found cheating to be kind of justifiable was in cases when underage girls were forced into marriage with men in their 30's and 40's and these girls girls eventually ended up cheating on their husbands with a guy of similar age.

I've seen enough child marriages to know that it is pretty common. And just to clarify, if this happened the other way around, as in minor boys being forced to marry older women and they end up cheating with young girls, I would have the same thought about it. No double standard in this.

But yeah I've also noticed women cheating on men being seen as far worse. Literally a man could bang anyone if he's away but God Forbid the woman gave out a chuckle when talking to her cousin, it's game over. I don't understand this hypocrisy.

[Celtero]

If anything that's saying that men cheat for superficial reasons while women are more justified in it... which is more sexist against men.

[JayFromEngland]

I don't really think so. Cheating is cheating - gender is irrelevant here.

[Passinggas]

Yes, cheating is cheating, but the difference is the man can still be attached to a woman and have his libido get the best of him while the woman must break her emotional bond/connection with man to cheat. When a woman cheats, she is already in the process of leaving.

Worse? That depends on which you are in the relationship.

[Female_assasin]

Not true, women can sexually like a man and emotionally admire another, anyone has the ability to, they just don't let themselves to.

[Passinggas]

With that point of view then you must have a low 2D:4D ratio. However, typically, when they are cheating, a woman has moved her attachment to the next man already.

[Female_assasin]

lets go by your argument... And the man wants to have both of the best worlds... as if it makes it any better than that of a woman's🤦‍♀️

[Passinggas]

I am not stating anything is better or worse, that remains perspective. I am simply stating from experience that when a woman is cheating, she has moved on already, and hides it to buy time. She might still be physically there, but she has left emotionally. When a man cheats, he is probably trying to hide it in hopes of things remaining the same. Typically…there are always exceptions.

[Female_assasin]

And how does that make a woman cheating worse than that of a man's?

[Passinggas]

One's perspective determines that.

[Female_assasin]

perspectives most be at least a little logical

[Passinggas]

Okay, I say from your perspective you want it to be identical. That was and is you going in position on this question.

[Browneye57]

No. They're equally bad.
And it's pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men. ;)

[genericname85]

I would have an argument why a woman cheating is worse. Women have it way easier to find sex so if they wanted sex, they could just have it. Nobody forces them to be in a relationship cause men typically are open for sex without relationships. Men however have a harder time finding sex cause most women want a relationship first.

[Female_assasin]

first of all, this is bulls, we have so many sluts nowadays that are willing to literally sleep with anyone for "women empowerment", secondly, your arguemrnt has nothing to do with chearing anyways, i'm talking about women whose partners don't give them enough sexual pleasure so they are resorting to other men.

[genericname85]

well i don't know if you ever were a man but i never saw any of those "empowered women" willing to have sex without a relationship. i only see those in the media and on instagram, not in the real world. if anything, the empowerment made women commercialize their bodies in more ways, not have sex with men xD so your partner not giving your enough pleasure is a reason to legitimate chating? wow... you know you're free to teach them to please you better or to break up right? xD

[Female_assasin]

I don't know if you were ever a woman but there has never been sluts there is now , they are not going to straight away jump on your dick, u have ro have a something on u ofcourse, just like how u wouldn't fuck an old wrinkly woman, everyone has standards, but women's are getting lower and lower by each passing day, a part of "female empowerment" DOES support sluttery obviously , so this is why so many women are physically more free to just throw it all over, anyhow, my point is not to defend cheating, it's the difference of cheating between genders that doesn't make sense AT ALL , like there is no argument convenient enough to let a man cheat but not a woman.

[Female_assasin]

*never been sluts **LIKE there is now

[genericname85]

well apparently our perceptions of reality diverge :D maybe that's also a question of where you live. don't know. i agree however that cheating is never "justified".

[Female_assasin]

I don't live in the west, but that ideology is worldwide, men are forgiven while women are frowned upon to the point people wish their death.

[genericname85]

i feel exactly the opposite. women feel forgiven cause they call it an affair and even if they're having an affair (which is just a nicer word for cheating) they claim it wasn't their fault cause their man didn't please them. nobody ever forgives a man for anythign in this world.

[Female_assasin]

Bullshit, i dare u visit a country in the middle east or africa or even asia, and lets see the difference between how genders are treated.

[outside_Toronto]

No it isn't

[oncpl]

Both are at equal footing.

[motownplayer2000]

I'm not a woman, so I can't speak for women. I know for me, when I've had thoughts, it's usually because the woman was entitled, clingy, lazy (all around lazy, not just sexual), etc... stuff that didn't show up til after you start a relationship and get comfortable. I never cheated, but for me sex was only a small part of it...

[COMMODOREII]

Cheating is wrong no matter who does it.

[pizzalovershouse]

No the same depending on how many times they've done this in the same relationship

[alance99]

Its equally worse be it a man or woman when it comes to cheating

[ivbnlknfru]

I think when women cheat it's more emotional than about the sex...

[farhaan7]

Dunno I guess both are equally bad

[tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ]

It's the same. But it's worse for a woman who cheats than for a man. When cought ofcourse. Especially if she is just a housewife and doesn't have a clue how to provide for herself.

[Anonymous]

Real answer: uncertain paternity and how it's shaped our instincts/culture.