Is it a turnoff for a girl to be a virgin in college?

I'm 18 and going to uni in a few days, I'm super excited about meeting new people and friends and the course of course. But I've had the same group of friends all my life who all know I'm a virgin, but of course there's no judgement there they just know me. I feel like when I meet my flatmates and we're playing never have I ever and stuff it's going to be really awkward that I'm probably the most inexperienced person there (the other girls I've met that I'll be living with are both in relationships and not virgins). So on the whole friend spectrum I feel like it will make me feel sort of out for it? I've even contemplated whether I should exaggerate about how far I've gone, which is pathetic lol.
I've never had a boyfriend, I've had a few situations where I could've had sex (not including like randomers on a night out) but it's never been right. I recently decided that I finally feel ready, but I've just stopped seeing a guy I liked because our personalities clashed and we're both introverted so he never would've made a move if we were together.
I'm not desperate or in a rush, I just feel like I'm going into the adult world and guys might not be into the whole 'virgin' shit. Like most of my friends are having one night stands, while I'm here taking it slow and hoping for the right person. I don't want to scare someone off.
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  • Girls arnt that bothered if they're petty they may say something about it but then you don't really wanna be friends with girls like that. You may end up being friends with girls who encourage you to have sex or have a ons but they won't actively go on about it. And there's plenty of people out there who truly don't give a damn.

    It'll likely be in conversations like that girl sleeps around every other day. Or I can't wait for my SO to get here so we can have sex it's been too long. But other than that it's about it.

  • I remember back when I was around your age and I was going to study at university, moving to big city I believed I will finally get a boyfriend, go on dates, and stuff like that. Never happened. But you know, 18 year old virgin is not a bad or weird thing. You are still very young, in some countries even underage. Guys won't mind if you are virgin or not, don't worry about that. Sure, probably there are some that would not like it, but it'a a minority.

  • Nope, it's not. Lots of guys tried to be the first though when they find out. I know from experience.

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  • If you haven't had sex you most definitely have inflated expectations of it.

    Sex is like pizza, very popular, but it's not Earth-shattering crazy good experience. Hell - I'd rather have a good pizza than a woman who's bad at sex.

    You simply are a victim of oversexualized society, of its propaganda.

    No, you are NOT missing anything. Except STDs and regret. Yes, with a right person sex is awesome. Without deeper connection, sex is almost the same as masturbation, in fact, slightly even worse than that.

  • Most guys don't care whether a girl is a virgin or not - all they DO care is whether or not she is willing to have sex with HIM. No guy wants a sexless relationship, but not many care either way if she's a virgin, other than they'd want to know so that they're a bit more careful with her first time.

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  • For an 18 year old, virginity is a turn-on. It means she has standards. It also means that she was responsible during her high school years, as opposed to getting pregnant and needing to drop out.

  • That is actually a good thing! I want to wait for marriage so that is awesome!

  • When I started college, I had not had sex yet. Like you I really wanted to meet someone who was at least somewhat special and I didn't want a hookup or one night stand. I was pretty cautious because I didn't want to date a woman and have sex with her only to find that she was doing someone else the next week. I turned down a lot of sex in the process... LOL... The college gals must've thought I was a "stud"... When I met a gal where we developed a relationship first, then I was comfortable with it. I'd say don't worry, because there are more guys starting college who hadn't had sex yet, than you'd imagine. Most just don't want to talk about it so you wouldn't know.

  • Absolutely not. As one myself, someone who is just as inexperienced as I am would be very welcome. Only, I don't exactly have s virgin radar, so I think I'm out of luck.

  • I'm a virgin and I'm proud of that

  • You're doing the right thing.

  • Did you stayed virgin because you wanted that?

    • I stayed a virgin because I kind of expected to be in a relationship by now but I've never been in one, I didn't really want to be a virgin at this point but I did want to wait for the right guy?

    • "... I did want to wait for the right guy" you seems not confident about this since you're now hesitating if it's a turnoff to stay a virgin. I mean if I'm convinced about something and made a decision I won't be really hesitating especially if that thing isn't harmful in any way at all. I don't know if you understand my saying but I tried to explain my best because I'm not that good at English :D

    • It's kind of confusing but I've never really cared about virginity and I honestly think it's stupid, but I was so scared as a teenager about losing it because of the pain that I heard about that I promised myself that it would happen with a boyfriend I trusted (which I thought would be before I was 17). Now I'm going to university it doesn't matter to me as much, I guess.

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  • I have dated virgins who were college students, and even two who had already graduated college.

    They were not virgins by the end of our first or second date.

    So, no it was not a deal killer.

  • You are suppose to go to college for learn. You are paying thousands of dollars for that reason.

    You are not suppose to go to college to be sleeping with people.

  • Nono lol just a flock that didn't get a chance to do it in high school hahah
    The boys would call it 'fresh meat'

    Lol

  • If you really get too honest about it.. yeah they will make butt jokes about you.

  • Is it a turnoff for a girl to be a virgin in college?
    No. But keep your status to yourself and keep your options open.

  • No, it's not a turn off.. Guys gotta worry more about it than girls..

    • Really? Someone told me that guys didn't like taking virginities because it was much more important and painful to girls, I thought it wasn't a worry for guys because girls usually don't realise or have to be told lol.

    • Well, I mean guys gotta worry about bein a virgin goin into college than girls.. Haha.. You don't have much to worry about..

  • Tbh I'd probably just think you're really picky. Not all guys are like this but I wouldn't even bother trying for a girl that's just going to reject me for a more attractive guy anyway.

  • I'm in your same boat. Don't look at the people around you, just be yourself.

  • My question to you is why do you care? You're you. Keep the control in a relationship

  • No way! I think it's smart. Save yourself for a man who loves you.

  • Not a turn off at all, but now that I'm older with a little more experience myself, I think I would prefer non-virgins. At age 18, I would have loved sex with a virgin.

  • Its a turn on rather, but don't get fooled into sex thats how some freshmen get embarrassed badly.

  • No it's not. I'd rather a girl be a virgin at that age.

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