Is it important for women to obtain consent from men?

[Anonymous]

When consent is discussed, the focus is primarily on men asking for consent when it comes to their female partners, as in, "is it okay if I kiss you," or "do you want to have sex?"

For guys, do you want to be asked for consent before these things happen from a first time female partner or do you not care?

For girls, do you ask for consent from a male partner before you do these things for the first time with a new partner or have you never asked or thought to ask?

[Anonymous]

My first thought was no, because I've probably already thought it and waiting for her to "come around" lol, but then I got thinking of the last woman I was dating. I liked her, but didn't feel anything romantically when I was with her. I gave it a few dates to see if that would change, but it didn't, as much as I liked her otherwise. We held hands and cuddled on the couch, but that was as far as it ever went physically (I think we had 1 kiss and it was uncomfortable for me). I remember thinking to myself that I was so glad she wasn't the aggressive type (which would've normally been a turn on), because I didn't want to do anything with her. So in that particular situation, yes. So yes I think most of the time, guys don't care as much as women do, but I still think it's important.

[Asker]

Do you think part of that is that odds are if some weirdo did make a move and you weren't comfortable with that at all, you could probably in reality fend her off vs maybe a woman in the reverse?

[Opinion Owner]

I probably wouldn't have though, even though I didn't want it, that was my fear lol.