Is it normal to have less sex in an almost 10 year old marital relationship?

[nayans]

I think am going to a state of sexual deprivation in my married life.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Plan an outing for only both of you, let the nature light the spark between you two.

As older you get, you feel it as plain old same thing and the place would have lost it value.

So to spark new things go out explore world and go to honey moon 2nd 3rd or 4th no idea..
Just chill and enjoy, but with people at home and children and at the age it just might feel embaressing well its not too old bit responsibilities and guiding kids of sexual morality so these factors hold back on some level.

Tall with your husband seduce him, makes things abit spicy in ease his lust for you..

[Cof1412]

Have you guys talked about it? I've been married for over 15 years, and there are times we have more sex than others, but there have been some longer dry spells. Until about the last 5 years, we never talked about sex. Since we've started having conversations about it, we've had sex more often, explored more things, and have been in a pretty good place sexually, so the conversations have helped us a lot.

[nayans]

We have spoken about it, but he isn't very responsive during the talks. He says he has lost his interest in getting physical.

[Cof1412]

I'm sorry to hear that and sorry you are going through this. He needs to recognize that you have needs that need met too. It's easy to say this, but harder to do: you need to make sure you aren't blaming yourself. It doesn't seem like you have done anything to cause this, and your desires are normal. I guess I'd still try to continue to talk to him and let him know how he is making you feel, but try to keep your confidence and sorry again you are experiencing this.

[Meangurl]

So I have been with my husband for 10 years sex after kids is challenging after my last kid I had depression for almost 20 months amd was not even interested in sex. I will also say my husband is 47 amd his sex drive has gone done a little bit as well. We both love sex with both of us being in our mid 40’s it’s challenging amd we both need to communicate with each other that’s the most important. I never want to leave him

[katiesmuff]

Yes it is! By then you have formed a home, family, many times both have jobs and you have less time for just banging whenever you please like it was when you first got together.

[AustinMan]

Talk to him about it.

How to Talk to Your SO About Sex ↗

[AshleyTaylorDanny]

Not for us... been 12 years and we still go at it like we were first dating

[Katie1964]

That's not how our marriage has been.

[Red_Arrow]

Yes, but not a lot less. After the honeymoon phase, things slow down and the regular occurrences of life resume taking their time. Usually both are comfortable with the slow down, but if it is too much for one of them, they should have a talk and share their needs. Caring for your part er’s needs is important.

[lightbulb27]

define the delta in "less".

I would think so. can you rekindle that, Id think so but both need to put in effort.

anything that is routine gets less. Try eating curried lentils every day and see if you want something else after a year.

it is challenge and stimulation and novelty and newness, and mystery that builds suspense. Watch videos from Esther Perel.

good luck to you and your man.

[carys111]

Girl you must agree with me that you need 2 hands to make a clap happen.
Please dont start blaming your husband deep down within neither start feeling guilty from your end.
Try spicing things up.
repetitions are always boring.
Do what youve never done before.
Swallow if you havnt already
playing with your mans perineal area if you havnt already
Trtying some new sex positions
Giving him head in a private party at some rstroom or changing areas in malls or while at a long drive
If you'll be shy things can really worsen from here.
Speakin to you as a friend

[BillHe1]

yes it is normal for thing to slow down

[Shotia9876]

Time to bring spice back.

[winterfox10]

Less sex is normal. No sex is not normal.

[K-I-S-S]

My and my girlfriend have been together for over 10 years now. Sex twice a day if not tired or running around.

Still steamy and hot, still experimenting and trying new things. Although i am the main driving force behind it, she is a bit shy but does enjoy our time and tries her way to be more active, so all good there. Maybe you need to be the active one too.

How is his health, does he also workout a bit?

[Danish87]

Yes it seen that sex frequency decreases with passage of time.
Just talk with your husband about your need. And have a solution for same.

[scott04sa22]

Tell him you want more butt sex.

[GisellethoughtsNOW]

“More”? She’s probably not having any.

[scott04sa22]

Or find something to spice it up.

[Meldrum]

Familiarity breeds contempt, but it also breeds boredom. Liven it up, girl, while you still can! Find out what turns him on and don't gasp if gets serious.

[Juxtapose]

Talk to him, if he cares he will help you get off a loooot.

[Bang5luts]

Less sex, yes, but no sex isn't good for you or your partner. Tall with your spouse. Spice things up a little bit! If you need it and your married, it's your spouse's loving duty to take care if that need.

[laurausa]

Have you tried talking to him about it?

[MackR]

Monogamy has it's good side and bad side.

[bamesjond0069]

I think its normal but most marriages end in divorce so i wouldn't shoot for normal if i was you.

[Surely]

Out of the couples that I know, it is usually the woman that looses interest in sex.
Especially after having their children.. But in your case it seems to be the opposite.
Have either of you gained a lot of weight or had a job change account of Covid?
If neither of you are involved with someone else and you want to make things work out. You two need to communicate with each other.
Tell him that you miss the love that he has shown you and maybe be the aggressor for some loving.
Good Luck!

[Jwags]

Yes, unfortunately. Talk about it, dont guilt trip though