Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it really rape if your in a relationship?
Anonymous
Ok so I'm 21 and my fiancee is 30 and we have been together for 7 Years... I love having sex with him but sometimes I just don't want to or I don't feel good or its that time of the month.. But he doesn't care for a while I fought back but its pointless. We've already spoken about it and he says that its nothing because when your in a relationship you belong to each other. What can I do to get some space? Like I said I love having sex with him but at the times were I'm not feeling it I really do find myself fighting and that more tiring then anything. Any advice
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20 29I'm done having sympathy for girls like you who ask things like this. This is common sense. Come on.
It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship or not. If A doesn't want to have sex, and B forces himself or herself on A, it's rape.
as a couple, you shouldve deprive each other.
calling it rape when you're not gonna be emotionally fucked for life when its more like out of fatigue and incovenience, i think rape is way to harsh
talk to him
shouldn't
Yep that's definitely rape
He must be mistaking your relationship with him as marriage. Clearly, you are just engaged. I guess dis-engage?
Yes, yes, it's still rape.
All unwanted and forced sex are considered rape.
According to old law it wasn't rape if you were married. But according to the new laws it's considered rape and it's up to you to press charges or not. If you don't want to press charges then the only other answer that would put a stop to it is to go your own way and let him go his.
Most rapes occur from a person who is very close to you.
If it is forced sex (different from consenting forced) it is rape
There's a word for that, it's called rape.
This is rape, non consensual sex is Rape.
I think you should talk with him until he understands the situation and that you need some space and it's about what you both want not only him.. I know how you feel but not about the sex.. sometimes I don't want to do anything or something particular even I'm used to doing it.
Jst say u got the shits...
He IS raping you. Even if you would be married. It's like saying that it's okay to abuse somone just because you are together. You should go to the cops and break it off. He do NOT deserve you.
Neither partner belongs to one another in a physical sense, he does not own you and therefore you control what happens to your body, if he does not respect that then it is very, very wrong.
They can't have rape in a relationship for me. When he want it I give him sex. I 'll do anything to make him happy.
I don't understand how he can be rape in a relationship
Yes, it still is. You need to talk to someone legally about this. You said no, now feel like you have to give up and just take it? That is wrong for thing, but also unhealthy for you mentally. Seek help, please to aid you in this situation.
I assume Muslim?
This is still rape. You should get out, but if my first assumption is correct. Then getting out is not as easy so I wouldn't know what to suggest.
What is rape varies greatly from one person to another. For example if you tried to surprise him by waking him up with sex for his birthday, there are a lot of people that would argue about if that was rape or not. Then there is the legal definition of rape. Under the law, what he did does count as rape. If you don't feel like you are being raped, then maybe it just doesn't count as rape to you even though I suspect most people would count it as rape. It really depends on how you feel about it as to what you should do.
If you don't want to have sex and you have made that clear and he forces you to have sex anyways it is rape no matter what type of relationship you have with the person