Is it true a man can have pain inserting because my vagina is "too tight"?

I've had 4 ex boyfriend never heard of this. So my new man told me that when we tried having sex couple days ago that it was painful for him to put all the way in and he could only put the tip or little to half way. He said im too tight and that it hurts him. He is kinda big but still is that true for it to hurt?

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  • Not in my experience. I'm stock standard size wise and there is nothing better than warm wet tightness in my view.

    I'm thinking he is trying to go in too fast too early. Are you feeling aroused and wet when he is penetrating? The normal state of a vagina is to be folded up and collapsed. As the girl becomes aroused it unfolds and dilates.

    I actually really enjoy 'working my way in'. The technique is to press my cock into the girl till I feel resistance then wait. With a little time the girls vagina 'gives way' and my cock goes in deeper. The vagina gives way little by little and I really enjoy the tightness at the point of resistance. Eventually the whole of the vagina gives way and I can slip slid away very freely inside her. You do have to establish trust that you aren't going to hurt her but the girls I have done this with have equally enjoyed the snugness of my cock inside them.

    So I am thinking he is going in before your vagina is fully extended and the deeper reaches are still relatively dry. Part of the 'giving way' is the vagina gets wetter as well as dilating.

    Does this gel with your side of the copulation fence? Maybe tell him to hold on tiger. We can be too keen to go in up to the hilt. There is always lube too.

    In any case vaginas tend to adjust to the size of the cock they are dealing with in my experience as well.

    • Yeah I was super wet but I think like what you say he just wanted to go too fast in beginning instead of going slowly little by little. He kept trying to force himself at once and he just stopped and said it hurts him

    • If you were super wet then I think that confirms it. Not good practice to ram it in. I presume he is fairly young. Even though you might be well wet, the vagina still takes some time to dilate and unfold.

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  • “Too tight” just means that you are not aroused enough to be lubricated and not comfortable enough to be relaxed. I don’t think it has anything to do with his size. —but, yes, trying to penetrate when you are not ready is painful for me. I imagine it is more painful for you?

    • I was ready but he kept saying he couldn't put all the way that it was hurting him. I guess like you say maybe not enough wet

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  • Yeah definitely true. I’d try to see if it won’t hurt if there’s more lube.

  • Maybe you weren't totally relaxed and lubricated enough.

    • Thank you for the MHGirl.

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  • more likely he didn't do the foreplay write and have you wet enough so was getting friction on the way in. i have had it before when having a quicky, its rather tight and not easy as what little moistness there was was taken up getting the tip in and none for the shaft to lubricate on

  • I've definitely heard of that happening, but it was always the women who would tell a guy that he's too big for her and it hurts her.

    • Lol right? 😂 this time It was the opposite haha

  • no it should hurt you more. You guys need to use lube.

  • Vag is a muscle, can take almost any size, if you are wet enough or use lube. Drink plenty of water, stay hidrated

  • We’re you lubricated? Try some KY.

  • I'm guessing that if this were actually true, YOU would be having discomfort because he is large. I suppose it is possible, but would suspect some sort of lube issue to be honest.

  • It would be more attributable to a combination of lack of wetness and snugness. If that actually happened, it would not be to the "helmet", per se, but specifically to the pee slot, which can be stretched (and even get a fleck of blood) painfully.

  • We wish. 😆

  • Yes, it can hurt. I have experienced that before. But I realised that there was an angle of going in that helped.

  • It can get uncomfortable if there isn't enough lubrication, yeah.

  • Sounds like a situation where some lube might be needed, and yes I've experienced that a few times.

  • is he bigger than all your other 4 dicks

    • Yes he's a lot bigger and thicker from the other 4 I had in past

  • That is a load of BS. When you're D is hard, its like its bulletproof.

  • I have never had that problem but i have a really huge cock and it gets super hard so not sure if that has anything to do with it lol

  • It’s not painful for the guy.

  • Lmao no

  • If there is proper lubrication, this is very unlikely. I'm on the extreme end of large and I've never been "hurt" unless it was too dry.

  • No. You can't be "too tight"

    • Could it be he made an excuse since he didn't have a condom on?

    • Yeah

  • Yep.

  • I never had pain while penatrating inside. If there is no scar or something like that on head of dick that's not possible. If you are not getting wet enough that's make you hurt not gives pain to a guy. That's weird :S

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