Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is it unfair of me to ask my new boyfriend for a visual copy of his STI results?
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I had the sti talk with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and after he admitted to having caught one a while back (and treating it with antibiotics), I asked him to get tested. He said he went to the sti clinic last week and because he didn't get a call back, he should be clean. I asked for a copy of his test results because I don't trust his words yet since I've only known him for a month. He seemed upset when I asked and has yet to show them to me. Is it unfair of me to ask for a copy of his test results?
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18 50No it’s perfectly reasonable. You’re putting your life and health on the line, the very least he can do is show you the test results. The fact that he’s refusing tells me one of two things. 1. He tested positive and is trying to hide that from you. 2. He’s being lazy and putting you at risk as a result.
no its not unfair. If he doesn't have anything to hide he show them.
Also you need to be careful with anyone you potentially going to sleep with. People can't be trusted with just words.
I believe if the test is wanted by one or two then both parties should have the test done at the same time and same place and the results read at the same time
No its not unfair just say if you show me yours il show you mine😆😂
Not if you want unprotected sex. Period.
And some better form of birth control, like a IUD, pill, etc.
It's just not a very good and trusting way to start the relationship. I get where you are coming from, but you're saying flat out that you don't trust him, and that really begs the question of why you are talking about having sex with him in the first place. If you feel strongly enough about not trusting him to communicate that you don't; it also begs the question of what you are hiding from him. He shouldn't just assume that he's clear without actually hearing from the clinic though.
I agree. It's obviously important to know whether he's clean, but the fact that she doesn't trust him seems to me to be a bad sign for the future of the relationship. There might be good reason not to trust him, but whether there is or isn't trust is really important in a good relationship and if it's not there that's probably a big problem.
If you don't trust his word, why are you with him?
You better break up lols.
Nope it's completely fair. If he's sad about it, oh well then maybe don't catch shit in the first place. He needs to see it from your pov and shouldn't feel insulted by it. You're right in not putting your trust in someone you barely know.
of course not, but u have to still make him feel like u trust him, sti's are just a very serious topic to u
No you are trying to be safe. There is nothing wrong with that. Why don't you do one to and go together. To give you both peace of mind
Hell no it’s good u asking him for it urself because he could have HIV or any other STD and u need to know he mad cuz he don’t wanna show u I don't know what the big secret is
Not at all, and if he doesn't , youd better be walking...
Its Your, YOUR , Health. Maybe LIFE, at Risk here!
and he's already got one and treating with antibiotics... ummmhmmmm!
Just ask him to show you results. You don't need a copy. I can understand him why he is upset, you don't believe him.
Testing should be standard operating procedures.
The funny thing is that many STD/STI test clinics works that way. you only get notified if something is positive. here I live is it within 2 weeks.
If you want on paper you need to go to your doctor to get it on paper how it is but that way cost instead of the other way that is free.
Also you should do it too at the same time otherwise are you a hippocrit.
Nope, you have every right to know
Not really
Nope its not unfair. Its not true just because he didn't call back doesn't mean he doesn't have an sti. He needs to call them.
not unfair but y'all shud try waitin a little longer