Is sexting considered chewting?

Question

So, my husband is currently serving in the military. I've been uncontrollably horny while he was gone. I just couldn't help myself. I created a Tinder, and then met this French-Canadian guy on there. I told him that the most we could do is sext each other, but now he wants to come to the U. S. to see me in person. We've been sexting for about 2 months. He has no idea I'm married. I have no idea what to do. I feel like a cheating whore.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I understand exactly where you're coming from I would like to say it was cheating but I can't because it's like seeing if you were to watch porn and have a conversation with the TV or the person in the porn yo talking out loud it's basically almost the same thing you're not doing anything except for telling the guy what you feel or what you would like to feel you're never going to see each other you were the only person that knew about it so I mean it is and it's not being touched I don't know it's hard to make this call and I kind of also look at it as if it could be saving your marriage because you have that outlet you need that affection you need that thought that feeling I am a sexter I love it and I like it because I like pleasing the girl that I'm with even though it's 5 billion miles away and I don't really know who she is if I get the chance to text but I can feel her notion through it and I love feeling that I love pleasing hey girl by doing this I'm single so that's the other thing I need my outlet 2 this is what I love about the internet is to meet a stranger and do this with and I mean really get into it so they can actually feel it for me I think that is hot but I would like to ask you a couple questions if possible

Trevelyan88 · Accepted Answer

You haven't cheated yet, but you are close to it.
I hope your tinder profile doesn't have any pictures were you can be recognized. Otherwise what will you do when someone sees your profile and tells your husband.
I think what you are doing is wrong especially if you have sent this guy nudes, you should drop him. The sexting can be forgiven as long as that is all you are doing, that you don't have an emotional connection and talks of other things. If he wants to come to the U. S. for you it seems like you have already crossed that line. you should ghost him, and in the future if you can't control yourself make sure:
1. That you can't be identified by your tinder profile, and never share information with those you sext, so they can track you down.
2. Don't do anything with them other than sext, don't allow them to build an emotional connection with you.
3. Have a conversation with your husband about his future career and whether or not you will survive as husband and wife if he continues being away from home.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Nice try troll. I know you are one because A - you can't spell, and B- No one is that big of a slut, and then having to broadcast it on social media to proclaim your cheating on top of it.

modeve · Accepted Answer

Go back to your husband and have sexting with him.

Honesttguy · Answer

Why didn't u just get yourself some dildo and satisfy yourself when u get horny? How much lack of self controll one must have.

willyppah · Answer

This is 💯 cheating. You have a husband you could have tried call him and tell him how you feel and tell him what you’re going to do!
If you really love him you wouldn’t do that and you would figure out other solution. Now it’s getting hard and if he knows no one knows what he could do especially that he is serving and not hanging around.
But from my view as a man you should tell him that and stop connecting with that guy. And apologize to your husband and explain To him how it is for you, I’m sure he will forgive you if you’re honest and sincere with you. And do mot blame yourself or live under pressure, whatever happened has happened and we’re all humans and we do mistakes no matter how much we try to be good.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

There is a good reason why you feel like a cheating whore.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Yes. I'm sure you're aware that's cheating.

MrTuxedo · Answer

I would consider it cheating yeah... So sad to hear that your husband is out there serving his country while you talk to other men while he's gone.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Yep.

ImDusty · Answer

Cheating depends on the consent in the relationship, but until otherwise discussed anything sexual is cheating

Kaneki05 · Answer

There is a simple way to solve that question. If you cannot tell your partner about it's not a good thing in that relationship and in many cases will be cheating.

20yearsolder · Answer

It is but I sure love doing it

Miristheiss · Answer

100%.
If you were my wife I'd divorce you in a heartbeat if I find out what a horrible, lying, betraying, cheater you were.

I hope he finds out and leaves you. Then you'll be free to be as bit of a whore/harlot as you desire to be.

HighValue · Answer

Yes, you are cheating.

Dargil · Answer

I think it is, but it remains only flirting unless there are actual sexual relations. Please don't do that.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Everyone has a different standard for what they consider cheating. I would classify it as that, and I would not be happy about it.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Make it clear you don't wanna see him in person

RealMarek · Answer

Here’s what you can do: Stop. Or ruin your marriage and hurt your child. Your choice.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

PLEASE DON'T CHEWT!! I HIVE UP!!

exitseven · Answer

You should delete your account on Tinder, completely block this guy and hope that he never shows up at your door. You should also feel very ashamed. Your husband is serving in the military and you are sexting another guy.