Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health sex question:
I can only orgasm during masturbation, not through sex. I have a very high sex drive for my age, I would say. My boyfriend and I have had sex at least 25 times and I have not orgasmed once. He orgasms everytime. I enjoy the intimacy aspect to our sex life but I’m feelings kinda depressed at the moment. Why can’t I orgasm during sex? We have tried different positions, he has given me head, he has tried fingering me, he has tried rubbing me while in me, etc... I can orgasm mainly during clitoral stimulation. We do mainly missionary, or cowgirl. During sex, I feel like I can get really close to cumming but then I don’t. I don’t want him to think he isn’t pleasuring me because he is. He also lasts a long time, and sex is never painful—at all. What tips can you offer? I’m about ready to book a gynecologist appointment because I am really lost. There might be something wrong with me, or my body.
Is there something wrong with me?
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7 25I would like to castrate or circumcise you
Does he know about this?
Yeah I don’t fake orgasms. We’ve talk about my issue. His motivation to make me orgasm has declined a bit, but he still want to make me cum
Tried masturbation infront of him?
Yeah and I’ve orgasmed that way
Gosh. This is a serious issue
What makes it a serious issue?
I don't know exactly. But, This sounds bit odd
Yeah that’s why I’m on here asking strangers for answers :) thanks
It's difficult to answer this type question, but I will tell you what I've heard from women. Woman are more mental than physical when it comes to orgasms. Of course there are many reasons you might not get there mentally. In your case it sounds like you just haven't learned to do that yet.
Try to stop thinking about orgasm and just enjoy the physical sex. You obviously have the ability to orgasm, so that is not a problem.
Nothing is wrong. This is a common thing
Try doggy position and use a vibrator on your clit while he plows you from behind.
I'm far from an expert but i'm told if you have this problem doggystyle is the best position.
That’s actually quite normal. No gyno appointment needed. If you can have an orgasm period (through masturbation), you can through sex, but will
just take a little practice and doing. You are already doing the best position for a woman to have an orgasm (woman on top). Is he able to be inside you all the way so your clit is making full contact with his pubic bone? (Some guys are so long she either can’t make contact, or good contact without hurting... I don’t have that Problem with women.. haha!). I would be you now have a mental block if you are getting close.. Like, “I think I’m about to finally cum!” And then that blows it. Next time try to not let this creep into your mind and instead immediately think about the hottest and/or dirtiest thing you think about when you masturbate. Whatever gets you off hard and fast at that time. That will at least get you over the initial orgasm WITH someone and it will become more comfortable... You could also stimulate your clit yourself when you start to get close so the exact pressure and pace you use that works everytime alone is being used.
Good luck and don’t give up! I had a girlfriend just like you and we worked through it and I thought it was SO COOL that I was the first guy she was able to have an orgasm with!
Beware though... It becomes addictive.. Haha!
Thank you so much!
Have you tried rubbing your clit while he is in missionary position thrusting
Yeah I have :/
🤔 that must be frustrating, maybe gynecologist can help with that
Yeah I should probably visit one, thanks