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Is watching porn considered Cheating if you are married or in a relationship?

I listened to a a talk show today and this topic popped up? What is your thoughts on this?
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From what the talk show said , it is considered cheating , even if your partner is ok with you watching it or if you watch it together you are cheating on each other , they said it stimulates your mind of wanting more out of the relationship then. What you already have. If you need to watch porn in your relationship then you don’t value your partner so you should reconsider who you are in a relationship with , again this is what I heard on the talk show
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This was a religious talk show my bad on not stating that , On how God / Bible look at Marriages and Relationships
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  • I disagree that it's cheating. Or wrong. Or interferes in the relationship. My hubby watched porn. Not all the time. . It never interfered in our sex life. If anything, might of benefitted it more.
    I never worried that he read imagining them instead of me it was my name be was calling out. Whatever goes on between a couple is between that couple. Society's views or religious people's views have no place in a couple's bedroom or sex life, just the views of the couple. Now video/Skype sexing or sending/ receiving nudes from real people I feel that's different. And before you say porn stars are real, no chance of meeting/ having sex for real. But real people could become a real affair and even if not, there's real interaction that you don't get watching porn.

  • If watching porn is the same as cheating then watching a cooking show is the same as eating, right?
    What did you expect to hear from a religious show? They would've said that oral sex is a sin too... 🙄
    It's not cheating for me. After all if he's horny and I am not there I prefer him watching porn to get off rather than sleeping with other women. As long as he doesn't expect me to act like a porn actress it's fine. I mean porn is often exaggerated... (Like the other guy who asked a question why women don't squirt like they do in porn. - really dude?)
    And if we can watch it together and get some new ideas to add in our sex life I'd consider it an achievement, since most wouldn't even admit to their partner they do.

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  • Not everything you hear is true. The are people who for whatever reason aren't comfortable with sex and sexual material and wish to convince others of the same. There are plenty of happy couples where one or both of them enjoy watching or reading porn. Porn has been part of human culture since we learned to draw in the dirt with a stick and so far civilization hasn't collapsed.

  • I'm late to this, but it was recommended on my feed so, yeah.

    To me it's cheating. You're fantasizing about being with other people when you're in a relationship. It serves to suggest that you're settling for who you're with on one hand (since you apparently feel the porn star is hotter than your SO), and on the other, you simply lack self-control.

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  • I don’t believe it’s cheating; as long as sexual needs are still being fulfilled within the relationship first.
    If someone is always choosing porn over their partner despite them wanting sexual contact while perhaps it’s not cheating it’s certainly not healthy or conducive to a good relationship

  • Dunno what talk show this was, but it's absurd. You aren't having sex with the people in these sex movies and you aren't having relationships with them either. If you are, however, ONLY watching porn and not engaging with your SO and acting OCD with it, then it's a problem.

  • Not in my book unless it starts to interfere negatively in the relationship.

    • I don't see any harm in wanting more out of a relationship. Your partner may well find they too benefit from you new found knowledge.

  • Personally, I'd say no. But ultimately there is an enormous amount of variation in the kinds of relationships people have. Monogamous, polyamorous, open, friends with benefits, exclusive, not-exclusive, swingers etc. So it's hard to apply one specific 'rule' indiscriminately to all relationships. So yeah, as each relationship is different, each relationship's rules & expectations should be set by the people involved and as long as those people are happy & respectful of their partner (s) and other people, good for them.

  • No unless you're a cast member and your partner didn't know.

  • It isn't considered cheating if you both decide in your relationship that it isn't cheating. Other people can't decide what is cheating or not in your OWN relationship. So that talk show is bullshit. Some people have open relationships and have agreed to sleep with other people. Is that cheating? No. Since they both agreed to it.

    So if my partner and I both believe that watching porn isn't cheating, then it isn't. We aren't betraying each other or anything. Porn is like watching a cheap ass movie. Just a bunch of strangers you'll never meet doing each other in front of a camera. Like I don't see the cheating part. They don't even know you either lol and you can't interact with them at all.

    • I agree with what you are saying but they were talking about normal relationships not ones that allow you to screw other people lol

    • Umm, I'm not sure what you mean. I literally just used an example to further explain my opinion about cheating. It wasn't the actual answer to his question. It was just an example.

    • Ooooh you're talking about the talk show. Didn't realize you were the one who posted the question haha. But still, I used the open relationship thing as an example.

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  • If you don't relate to the main character in the film Shame... you are absolutely fine!

    Just try to watch softcore and things she likes as well!
    Sometimes women like things A HELL OF A LOT harder than men...

    It's all relative. Be happy with your partner AND alone!

    Then again, please be glad you have someone in your life! Many don't... ir wish they didn't.

    Peace! ☮️

  • Their argument that it's still cheating is crap, because the same argument can be applied to movies that have nude scenes or simulated sex scenes.

    Is that cheating too?

  • When I date someone I realize that I don't watch porn anymore or as least not as much as compare to when I was single but I don't agree it's cheating.

  • Do you have any idea how many times this question has been asked already this year? You are a Yoda so I would expect you have seen almost every question on here. Couldn't you find something no one has already thought to ask? The only thing I can think of is if they watched it together. I think the rest is mentally cheating at least.

    • Honestly I haven’t seen this question on here and I was also selected for best question from GAG so I guess I didn’t something right lol

  • I think it has nothing to do with cheating, but it's like eating ice cream from a shoe. You can do it, but why, when you have a crystal bowl near you? What I try to say is that you 2 should have fun together.

  • Is staring at a big and creamy chocolate cake considered unhealthy eating?

    • what a great way of putting it

    • @wankiam Indeed! I thought it was common sense but it turns out people don't have common sense. It's really THAT uncommon ;)

  • Depends on if the p*** is replacing your sexual relationship if it is replacing your sexual relationship and not enhancing it then I consider it cheating

  • Each relationship will have different boundaries.

  • I don’t think watching porn is cheating BUT watching live cam girls, especially if you’re interacting with them or even worse one on one in privet, that IS a form of cheating because you’re interacting with another human and then it becomes a habit and many people have actually met their partners like that... if it’s live caM girls/guys that they interact with, it is cheating.

  • How the hell is it cheating if you both agreed to it? That sounds like something some Christian hypocrite pastor would say. lol.

    If you don't have permission from your partner, then it's cheating. If you have permission then it's not cheating. duh.

  • watching together, to learn a few things to enhance bedroom fun is fine.

    it not healthy when one partner goes to porn instead of their partner.

  • Not really. I mean I'd prefer to have them look at me obviously. But I wouldn't think it's cheating, if they asked me, I'd pose for them so they could get some material though 😉
    I think it's fine in the end, it can be hard to be available to your partner and get them off daily, even if that would be ones wish

    • Some people might have anxiety issues when it comes to sex so might just choose to masturbate.

    • @justsimpleguy yeah that's fair, as long as they're open about it with me if we're in a relationship

    • @justsimpleguy Now THAT is a real problem. They're TOO anxious to have regular sex? They need to see someone... toute suite...

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  • Not cheating but it's still not good to do

    • Not cheating is correct but saying its not good to do I disagree. Masturbation might be more pleasurable for some people.

    • @justsimpleguy well that is part of the problem. Part of marriage is for the husband and wife to sexually satisfy one another. A lot of married guys place masturbation and porn over sex with their partners, which is unfair to the wife. Porn can also make a person unsatisfied with their sex lives and/or give them perverted expectations or desires.

    • What about the wives who prefer their sex toys over the real thing?

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  • That talk show sounds like it probably was hosted by a bunch of up tight ass old women whose breast milk probably already dried up. If I’m watching porn with my guy best believe we’re probably gonna be trying some of what we see. Plus guys arn’t stupid. I’m pretty sure a guy won’t expect me to be screaming like an idiot and shooting pussy juice across the room.

    • I like how you think lol you sound just like me lol very cool very shway

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