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Sexual Health Ladies do you still love the man who took your virginity?
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I lost my virginity at 12 years old. I'm 28 almost 29 now and still in love with the man who took mine. its taking me two types of therapy to help get over him. I haven't seen him since I've been 12 years old but I remember our memories together. my therapist also told me the reason I haven't been in a healthy relationship yet is because I'm always comparing my boyfriends to the guy who deflowered me. my mom told me no man wants to compete with a guy in my head that I'm stuck on. I think the men I get involved with somehow know I'm not over him. or they know I'm not over someone. Men can you tell when a woman is not over someone? without her stating the obvious?
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22 13No, but I remember him fondly.
This is why I want to marry a virgin. Biology coming back with vengence
what do you mean?
I'm thinking it would be difficult for me to find out that my SO was in love with their first timer after investing myself in them. When you have sex for the first time biologically you become hooked to said person. Big hurdle to climb over.
your right hun. but this is only the issue with me. there's women who just lost their vcard just to lose it. or some women lost it but moved on. I always loved that boy. its different with me
It doesn't happen with every woman, you know? in fact she's the 1st girl I have seen saying this...
that's what I tried to tell him lol
yes... listen you mind if I ask why do you think you're still so hung up on him? Did you love him when you were with him? if you dont want to tell me, it's ok too. Just seems a long time to be hung up on this one guy.
You loved how his dick pop ur cherry in just 12?
Stockholm syndrome?
nope
That's rape. You were 12 years old
not rape. dont get slapped. I consented
I am still a virgin and will stay this way until I meet the man I love
What do you love about him? Just curious..
Probably not
I lost my virginity to a girl I didn't find attractive at all
It was purely convenience
I lost mine when I was 14 and although we aren't in love any more, I'll never forget him! We still keep in touch every now and again :-) we're both married with kids now of our own. All girls - so we're both petrified of them getting up to what we got up to!!! 🙈
It sounds like you have a very strong bond with the boy/man it was that you lost it too. Do you know anything about him now?
no. I haven't seen or spoken to him since I've been 12 years old he was kind of yanked out of my life. I only wish I could talk to him one more time
That's such a shame. Perhaps you wouldn't like the man he has became
maybe or maybe not. but any kind of closure is better than no closure at all ya know?
Yea I totally agree. What age was he when he took your virginity?
he was 17. please dont say anything bad about him I probably wanted sex more than he did
No not at all, mine was 17 too :-) I think girls mature a lot more than boys do anyway. I don't really have any advice to give you on how to get over him. But you're in love with the fantasy of him and the reality would probably be much different. I've always remembered my first time though, more so than any other time I've ever had sex (and that's been a lot now lol!!). Even my first time with other men, I haven't ever remembered the same. I often wonder what things would have been like if we'd stayed together but we're so different. If I met him now in the street, I'd never want to date him, I think I'm too good for him now. But when I was 14 - OMg he was gorgeous and all the girls wanted him, but he wanted me 😍 I felt like a million dollars
lol awwww. you are right though and my therapist just told me the same thing yesterday. she said "what if he's ugly now and is an ugly person and you spent all these years worried about him?" she had a point but I seriously doubt he's ugly. may be an asshole but who knows? I dont know and that is the problem
He'll certainly have aged!!! And maybe not very well!! My guy has lost most of his hair (that's fine), got covered in tattoos and has loads of wrinkles around his eyes from too many nights partying, and too many kids! He has done ok for himself but for the longest while I thought he was just a waster. Have you never tried to find him on social media?
I've tried looking for him but I'm facing two major setbacks. I can't remember his last name and the vision of him in my head is blurry. I suffer from schizoaffective disorder so my memories are blurry. after my therapy is done if I still want to find him I'll try calling the sheriff's department and asking if they still have those records and ask them what his last name was. then I'll search one more time. I'll know him when I see him
Yea if you really want to find him, you'll find a way!
I'm just so scared he's gonna be so mad at me still lol cause j accidentally got both of us in trouble
I'd be careful about how I approach it with him!!
a part of me also says to just leave it alone
I don't think there's any harm in seeking him out but it doesn't mean you have to approach him or contact him.
true
Also remember, he may be married with a family so his wife (or husband!) may not take too kindly to it.
maybe I won't. dont want him getting wrong impression or him thinking I'm stalking him
true. well if he's married I will definitely move on. I dont mess with married men at all. nomatter who they are
Good luck!!
No... i actually, regret it
that sucks. I dont regret the man I lost mine to. he was pretty hot