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Lying fuck buddy... bye felicia?

Asked my fuck buddy for a little rendevous last night. He is divorced with 2 kids. He told me he had his kids so he couldnt hang out which I completely understood. However, the next day I see some woman leaving his place which lets me know he lied. We live across the street from each other which I know is a bad mistake. Should I end things with him since he can't act like an adult and always gives me bullshit excuses?
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Let me clarify some issues. When we first started hooking up he made it into an emotional relationship. He used tell me how he wanted to be with me and that he wishes I was his girl and he misses me all the time. He pretty much stalked me and we used to spend hours on the phone together. My whole issue is that a fuck buddy is a 2 way street. Since we were also friends I would expect a little more honesty especially since we are adults. Well I ended things with him anyway. Not worth the drama
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  • Yes, you should probably end things with him. There is nothing wrong with consenting adults agreeing to different relationship models, there is nothing saying single-person committed monogamy is the only way to have satisfaction (and it obviously isn't). But you can't have a relationship, any kind of relationship, if you can't trust the person. And constantly lying to you means you can't trust them. People need to be able to make informed consent about what kind of relationship they are having, and if a partner lies to them about what is happening, they can't make that informed consent.

    Now you are stuck in the position of 'if he is lying about that, what else is he lying about'. And everything he says and does suddenly becomes suspect and has to be run through an internal 'verification' filter. That's an impossible situation to be in for a relationship, even one based on just sex. Now you don't know if you can trust his claims about number of concurrent partners, how safe he is when having sex with other partners, how often he gets tested... all that stuff is now unknown, and unknowable.

    The relationship will just deteriorate from this point, best to just cut it and walk away.

  • What are the expectations of a "fuck buddy?" If you don't have a relationship where you intend to be monogamous, then his statement to you was just one of those social mistruths that people say to ease feelings. Would you have been happier if he had told you that he couldn't meet you because was fucking someone else at the moment? My guess is that he just found telling you that awkward.

    If you have some expectation that he won't be fucking other people or feel some jealousy when he does, then he isn't really your "fuck buddy"

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  • Well he isn't anymore than a fuck buddy. If he was a boyfriend, then obviously... bye Felicia is right. I wouldn't jump to conclusions either because that woman could've have been anyone. It could've been his ex wife or even just a friend who stopped by. If it bothers you, you could just bring it up like "Oh, I didn't know you had a visitor last night, you could've just told me." He will most likely then tell you who it was. Tell him how you feel about the "bullshit excuses" as you mentioned and make things straight.

  • It sounds as if he is being Shady. However if he is a fuckbuddy technicall you can not check him on having a guest or the lying. Now if this is a fuckbuddy that also acts as a boyfriend or a fuckbuddy with an attachment, then yes check him. Consider the sex as well, if its great take that into consideration.

  • If he's lying to you about that, he'll probably lie to you about any diseases he contracts from any of the other women he's also boning. There's nothing wrong with him sleeping with other women if you didn't stress it was a closed fuck buddy situation, but there's major issue in him lying about it.

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  • Bye, Felicia! Haha! I ain't heard that in a hot minuite! As far as droppin' him like he's hot... what do you care about his character for? His title alone suggests he has one purpose in your life.

  • So you're mad because someone who thinks it's ok to be a fuck buddy, fucked someone else and lied about it... what a surprise.

  • This guy sounds more like a friend with benefits because you are expecting truth justice and the American way. A fuck buddy is someone with whom you do not have a relationship. All he has to do is tell you know he is unavailable. No reason need be given. Fuck buddies do not share their personal life with each other. Now with that said, I would dump him for lying

  • Give him the benifit of the doubt. First see what sort of reason he gives and who this woman was that was leaving his house

  • If you were in a real relationship with him I'd say yes you should dump him. But you guys are just fuck buddies. So technically he didn't do anything wrong since you two aren't exclusive. Now he is an ass for lying but it also seem like you want a real relationship.

  • You are only fuck buddies. You have no right to be jealous of some other woman because he is not committed to you.
    You will never end anything, you will just keep going back to him.
    Seriously, why do 75% of the women insist on sleeping with only 25% of the men in this country?

  • Can't act like an adult? I'm sorry but fuck-buddies? maybe he's found something better to do with his life than meaningless sex.

  • Lol wtf he doesn't owe anything to you you don't own him

  • You're acting like he's a boyfriend but you call him a fuck buddy. If he really is just a fuck buddy it shouldn't concern you if he had another woman over or lied about why he was busy. I'd ignore it.

  • Nice, you're tailing him. Love where this is going..

    https://zippy.gfycat.com/MeekPeskyCockroach.gif

  • When will people learn the statement, you reap what you sow.

    If you are not in a committed relationship with someone, and are "fuck" buddies, well it's obvious from that point onward.

  • you're his fuck buddy. why would this bother you

  • He's a fuck buddy. Check yourself before u break urself.

    Fuck buddy's and friends with benefits are sleazy type of relationships that in majority end terribly.

  • Oh no, your fuck buddy is cheating on you =(

  • So he can't have more than one fuck buddy? You're not his girlfriend or wife, therefore he did nothing wrong by lying to you. His personal life isn't your business.

  • Why would you do that?

  • Yes. Bullshit excuses aren't the disease they're a symptom. They won't go away, most likely.

  • Is he you boyfriend or your fuck buddy?

    Because in my opinion you have the two confused.

  • Yeah unless you enjoyed the sex and don't care since it will be some between until you get another fuck buddy

  • You can do whatever you want. It's not like he's your boyfriend, he doesn't owe you any form of explanation.

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