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Sexual Health Men - Would you wear a chastity device?
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I'm seriously considering making my husband wear one. I'm not talking about a chastity belt, but a discrete chastity device - a small metal cage which covers the head of the penis to prevent masturbation. It's locked on tight, and the key is held by the wife.. I'm not concerned about infidelity - I know my husband would never cheat on me, but he does masturbate without my permission sometimes, and I want to put a stop to that, because masturbation takes away his focus on me.. I want to be the sole source of his sexual pleasure. I have heard women online say that putting their husbands in chastity is the best thing they ever did, and that their husbands are so much more loving, romantic, and attentive.. Men are on their best behavior when they want sex, so I'm just extending that, by denying him release, I can keep him eager to please me all the time.. Apparently, chastity is a great way to "train" a man to be more submissive and obedient which doesn't sound bad, considering I practically wear the pants in our marriage anyways since I make more money than him. The way I see it is if I'm the one making the money and calling the shots, then his penis belongs to me. Mostly, I just find the idea of male chastity extremely sexy and arousing. I've been reading about it for months, and I'm ready to talk to my husband. This is something that I really, really, really want.
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18 161I would absolutely wear a chastity cage and give her the key. Chastity is so erotic for me.
If my girlfriend wanted me to wear a chastity device,,, Would I do it? Yes. In fact I do wear one.
She is the product of a broken marriage. The second of 4 kids, her brother being the youngest. Her dad cheated on her mom for many years till her mom decided she had enough and filed for a divorce. As well her ex boyfriend cheated on her as well. Needless to say she was very hurt.
We started dating about 8 months ago middle of our Jr in high school,,, and this was a concern of her's from the beginning. I assured her that I would never ever cheat on her. It's not something that I agree with and it is just not in my nature at all. Though she still had some concern. And I can definitely understand this for my parents went through the same thing.
So being that I work in the accounting office of a business my grandfather built, it's easy for me to have stuff mailed to me at the office without anyone knowing about it. Not saying anything to anyone,,, being that I have my own checking account with a debit card, I went online to search. And ordered a Holy Trainer chastity device and had it sent to the office.
After I received it,,, before going to pick her up for our date, I put it on. We went to dinner, and during dinner I asked if she still had concern about my fidelity. She hesitated and I immediately asked her if she would feel more assured if I could prove without a doubt that I wouldn't cheat on her. She asked how. I gave her the key. She asked what it was for? I then pulled up a picture of the device on my phone and showed it to her. She wasn't sure what it was. I explained it to her. She was EXTREMELY SURPRISED. And she was in a rush to get out of the restaurant and to privacy so that she could actually see it on me.
She thought it was weird and strange at first. I told her that I wanted to make sure that she understood that I wasn't going to cheat and that I wanted to make sure that she would never have to worry about it.
Her family practices naturism and often sunbathe and swim in the backyard pool in the nude. One late afternoon, they were all swimming. She tried to coax me into getting naked and going swimming. But I was apprehensive because of wearing the chastity. She quietly whispered to me that if I didn't go swimming, that she wasn't going to unlock the chastity for 2 weeks. NOPE! I wasn't going to tolerate that.
So as I started to get undressed, she reminded her mom, that she had assured her that I wouldn't cheat. And reminded her that she had doubts. Her older sister said that all men cheat. 'Susan' just told her that I wouldn't be cheating. She responded "Yeah right." She then looked at me and told me to prove to them that I wasn't going to be cheating.
They were all surprised and shocked a little bit when they saw the chastity once I had taken off all of my clothes. They then started to ask a lot of questions about it.
The main question,,, was who brought up the ideal and why did I do it? I really gained their respect when I answered that it was me who brought it up and that I did it so as to assure her that I wouldn't cheat.
We still have sex, make out and everything. And it has even greatly enhanced our relationship. Plus, with her mother knowing that we won't be having sex unless 'Susan' agrees, she doesn't object to us being in her bedroom with the door closed anymore.
She has even told a few of her close friends about it. At first they teased and joked with me about it. But they have also told me that they really do admire me for doing it. Though I'm sure that the guys in our circle would think that I'm screwed up in the head.
And just about 5 months ago, because of the hassle for when we don't have time to spend with each other for a few days, therefore preventing me from being able to take it off to clean and shave, we talked about the CellMate. We both thought that it would be a great option. So I ordered one. And we both love it.
guys below are getting a little crazy about this. To them, I would only suggest looking at it as a B&D thing. It's true not all guys are into that - I'm certainly not. But I'd be up for faking it if the sex was really good.
Never in a million years. But I'm not an emasculated male.
Where you been? Lol
wait! when did you get back?
Masturbation without your permission? Are you serious?
What about what he wants, just because you want it, doesn't mean he does either.
I personally wouldn't ever agree to that.
You think you're better because you make more money? You're also toxic, lovely.
Wow I think you need to be much more sensitive to those around you, i'm almost surprised you're married.
The world doesn't revolve around you, selfish, ungrateful & controlling pig.
You disgust me. I hope he says no, and I hope you seek help for your problems. I hope he responds negatively to your ridiculous request, or do you consider it an order?
Either you're a troll or a really vile person.
No, and I would feel unfortunate knowing that divorce costs a lot after having spent a lot on a marriage that is essentially nothing but a prison where I am treated as subhuman filth.
how would he pee?
There is a hole in the tip for those things.
@Anpu23 ok, well I must have misread her description
www.steelchastity.com/media/1052/cb6000-2.jpg
is an idea of what they look like
@Anpu23 I can't see where the key actually goes. but realistically, it wouldn't keep in place if he goes soft.
I've worn poo ne. They have a primary ring behind the testicles and a secondary ring in front of them. They are connected through a post on the top that has a hole for a padlock hasp. As for getting it off, the thickness at the base prevents it as it doesn't contract like the rest. Or in other words, to get it off you'd have to cut the balls off.
Thats I've worn one...
You generally have to sit to pee or it goes everywhere.
Most of them have an opening at the tip/end for the pee to come out of. As well as usually having 2 or more holes on the side for venting and airing out. Other than that? Well, to answer your question? That is the one thing that is bothersome about wearing a chastity device. In that I have to pee the same way that you do. And that is by sitting down on the toilet. So no urinal use for me. But with me wearing 1, it gives her total confidence in that I will not cheat on her, being that her ex did that to her. As well as that her dad constantly cheated on her mother.
i just hope you are masochistic guy that acts like a pink here.
1-no iwould rather get castrated before i let something like this happen to me
2- treating your guy like a dog? this is basically what you want and all those bitches says, he is a human you god damn wretched whores
3-you wear the pants because you make more money? don't make me laugh, you wear them because you are together with a pathetic loser that lets you walk all over him, a real man who saw this would dump you on the spot at best case scenario, in worse he would either beat the living daylights out of you, rape you or kill you on the spot.
4- you are a psycho-bitch and you need therapy
Nope.
My girlfriend got me one and i LOVE it. We roll play she is my mommy. And when we use it i'm not allowed to cumm tell mommy tells me and unlocks me. Other things to. But It might take buying one or two to find right one. Just google like how to wear one and sizing and such. They are really fun and i even get turned on my self wearing it.
Er too controlling. You seem obsessed you need to learn to trust him ap
Probably the most sensitive part of the penis is the inch or so just under the head on the underside (the area of the frenulum). So if your device just covers the head he can still stimulate that area.
I would love to be teases denied and locked up. Then teased even more.
You don't know it yet but the divorce papers are on the way.
90% sure you are trolling but if not, you and your posting break new ground in ridiculous.
Well, if he doesn't want to, I'm not going to force him.. Divorcing someone for sharing a sexual fantasy is extremely immature, and I'm confident that he is more intelligent than that. We have very good communication and we're open about our turn-ons and offs..
Absolutely bizarre.
The topic is closed, but I can respond to comments. I just wanted to say that we introduced chastity into our marriage because of my masturbation habit. It has helped immensely. My wife suffers from vaginismus, which makes intercourse very painful. After almost 7 years of infrequent sex, I had developed a very strong masturbation habit. Twice or more per day. My wife didn't know exactly how frequently I was doing it, but she would catch me occasionally and she hated it. She felt betrayed. I was actually the one who bought the device. It wasn't a kink thing for me. I really love my wife and was desperate to stop masturbating for her. I was searching the internet for anything that could help me stop masturbating. I came across a site that advocated chastity devices to stop masturbating. I wanted to try it and bought one. We experimented with making love with it on after a couple of weeks and for the first time in our marriage she loved sex! We wouldn't go back.
My wife and I have been married for 5 years and she does keep me in chastity and it has been great for our marriage!
Yes I definitely would. But only with rules, and with assurance that I can say no whenever I feel uncomfortable
No way. I don't care what anybody says, it can't be good for the guy, especially not long-term use. Besides, I wouldn't let my girlfriend or any women wear the pants in my relationship, whether she earns more than me or not.
The fact that you say that you're considering MAKING your husband wear one also says to me that you don't really care about him, and that you're a manipulative cunt.
If my wife told me to I would, I am a submissive with my wife, I can't elaborate what others do , but, I can tell you how my wife dominates me: I enjoy being totally submissive with my wife. We do not practice slapping or hair pulling and things like that. She either likes to tie me up and bring me to the brink of orgasm and stop at least 6 times sometimes for a couple hours she will tickle me in between and make me beg. I only will orgasm when she lets me. Another game she likes for me to be her sex slave and I have to do any dirty deeds she wants I find these games very intense I also dominate my wife, but I prefer to be submissive