My boyfriend is depressed has low libido?

3 month... no sex
He has depression some health issues smokes weed and taked sleeping pills
He says he has no sex desire
I feel very stupid everytime i try to seduce him
Is it ok to offer him a blowjob?
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  • Honestly if you are having this level of anxiety with a a boyfriend then over sex I would break it off with him. I assure you there are plenty of other guys out there that would be far more emotionally, physically and mentally available to you. The problem with people who suffer from deep rooted depression is that they tend to make the ones that care for them their own emotional care takers and more you allow it the more you promote it.

    What ever his issues are, they are not your fault or your responsibility and if you can not make him happy, then you have a right to go out there and find happiness for yourself.

  • He's going through some shit, can't make him get over it any faster. His mom died, her sentimental items are gone, and he's still fighting his brother over the will, dosent exactly make a guy horny.

    Shit it annoys me when my girlfriend try to be clingy, needy for attention, try to cuddle and be intimate when I'm just trying to do chores, like she'll hang out as I mow, or watch and ask questions as I fix something, like can I just get this done?

    So I can't image what it's like dealing with dead mom and have a girl hovering over me for sex.

    • Im not hovering... im respecrful

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  • He needs to quit weed or replace it with something better. Same thing with sleep pills.

    • What kind of pills? Something natural like reishi mushrooms can be beneficial but not for men with libido issues as herbs like reishi inhibit 5ar enzyme which creates dht. The symptoms you described match low dht hormone.

    • He has no sex drive, but does he get hard easily?

    • Not always Once i was naked sitting on him he sucking on my tits and no... he didn't get hard

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  • I'm not against weed, far from it but excessive use is known to promote psychological issues. He needs to get off the weed and get proper medical help for his health issues. You can offer in a blowjob, but if he has no libido it's very doubtful he would be interested.

  • Is he on anti depressants?

    • Yes Tranxsilium and suboxone

    • So that's why he has no sex drive

    • It kills it?

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  • He needs to get off all the drugs and find out why he is depressed. He is just running away from whatever is going on with him.

    • He is... and also pushing me away Im nog going away. no way this dick will lead himself to the grave i won't let him do it. nope. Its easy for you to twll that"he must" He is sick... his brain is not like ours anymore

    • He started drinking too Is this his escape too?

    • He’s covering the real problem with substances. The longer he uses them, they will become real problems on their own.

  • He needs to kick the weed first and foremost, coz that's just a further catalyst for his depression and low libido.

    • He smokes it everyday Says he can't sleep without it

  • Sounds like he’s self treating something and it’s not working. If he refuses to get help consider moving on to someone who isn’t holding themselves back.

    • He drinks Whiskey... he smokes weed Thats his way of dealing with his problem Add antidepresants and sleep pills and he is 39 y. o...

    • There is a difference between sticking by someone going through a hard time and enabling someone who has no intention of helping themselves. He is so doped up on depressants he will never change until he is forced to.

    • How can i force him?

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  • Find new guy for sex...

  • He's going through a tough time in his life. Being there for him would be the most important thing... Not sex. Sex will return for him. When he wants sex again, I'm sure he will initiate it with you. A partner should stick by through the good and bad. Your choice having an addict as a boyfriend is a different story though.

    • He is not addict He is recovered He got mad at me at screamed that we can break up if i want I know it was a total freak out Im stsying by his side Saying he has my total support and love

    • Does he smoke weed to get high or is it the medicinal kind? Getting high everyday is an addict to me.

    • He smokes it because he says he is very nervous person and can't sleep without smoking it

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  • I would suggest you to do some interesting stuffs like roleplay and kinks

  • Its okay to offer him a blowjob? Are you kidding me? He needs proper medical attention not a blowjob. Either leave him or force him to stop living like that!

  • Popping pills and smoking weed will not get him out of his rut. Dump this loser.

  • I wonder why..

    • ... what

    • I really do not remember "answering" this question! Anyway, he's depressed and that's some hard shit to get through. Personally I've fucked my way inside and out of it, but we're not all the same. Let him work it out or find another dick to ride.

    • I dont want a dick I want him happy

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  • Take his pills away suck him off whilst he smokes weed.

    My boyfriend is depressed has low libido?
  • He needs professional intervention to get better. Weed will not help and it might even do harm now. Depression is a brain chemistry disorder. He needs a psychiatrist.

  • Would you push a piano in front of someone and request a song when they've never played?


    Kinda pointless right?

    • Its a weird metaphor The dude is Sick

  • I’d ask him to stop the hashish, exercise with you, do more hobbies together. Perhaps a vacation.

    If it’s serisously chronic, meds may help him. Coming from personal experience.

    And weed is like alcohol. It’s a de-stimulant which isn't good for depression.

    • Weed relaxes him he says

    • I said that too, when I was an alcoholic.

    • What do you mean?

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  • Yes it is

  • I just find is strange how you’re more concerned about getting what you want than helping a partner who by your own admission is clearly struggling.

    Please don’t offer him a bj. Because that isn’t showing you really care about him.

    • I tell him i support and love him What else i can do Everytime i talk about a doctor visit he explodes with rage threatens break up Its taboo topic

    • Well do you know what he’s depressed about?

    • Family problems and dead parents fight over thier will

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  • Its okay to offer a blowjob, but don’t be surprised if he is not in the mood

  • Advice him to take off smoking weed and taking drugs and he will come back, and try again to seduce him and offer him a blowjob many times!!

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