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Sexual Health My boyfriend only compliments my looks when I have on make up or sex is involved?
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I only wear make up occasionally during the year but when I do is when my boyfriend actually compliments my looks saying I look good, great, beatiful, really pretty, etc. Other than those few occasions he only says those things right before or after sex. It makes me feel kind of bad sometimes. Especially when I wear make up he's even said "I love how you look but I like how you look natually too." Then he never compliments me when I'm just natural (unless of course for the sex factor.) Should this upset me like it does or is it not a big deal?
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What Girls & Guys Said
12 25That's sad actually. Some guys compliment after sex to thank the person (it's a natural impulse). You should pay more attention to his behavior, this could be nothing but it could mean he's stepping away from you.
I guess He just likes you when you make up lol
No way, he is just not that versed in how to say things. It's tough sometimes to please you women with compliments.
I Always Compliment My Wife, I Tell Her How Beautiful She Is, I Tell Her She Has Natural Beauty, And Does Not Need Makeup.
She Doesn't Wear Much Makeup.
She Loves My Compliments.
So In My Opinion Your Boyfriend Is In The Wrong.
NORMAL GUY talk = the best complements they can manage
remember the genesis for most talk romantic comes from the little head behind his zipper
My boyfriend only complimented me ONCE and I suppose that was an accident.
Perhaps I'm the fool in being with him, but just saying there may be lots of reasons why your boyfriend doesn't say it more often.
Oh wait, I was down voted for some reason... Probably for giving my own personal experience opinion?
I think you should take it as a compliment and don't read too much into it
I think he just appreciates the effort you put into your appearance. It's rare for you to wear makeup so he notices it when you do. It's rare for me not to wear makeup lol so whenever I didn't have it on my ex boyfriend always complimented me on my natural beauty. I think he does it subconsciously. :)
Meh, most guys don't really think about it too much. Me and one of my friends were laughing today. He'd squealed when he saw his girlfriend without make-up. He didn't really mean it. He did it just for kicks. (because he knew it bothered her more like) I think maybe your guy just appreciates it when you take the extra time to look nice. He's with you regaurdless of how you look. So chillax.
The reason is probably that those are the only times that he notices your effort that you put into being beautiful.
Do you live with him?
No we don't live together
Then that pretty much explains it
How?
Basically if you were around each other more you would still get these compliments. Also, realize that he might not be trying to hint at anything since guys don't generally but hidden meaning behind stuff. I would personally ask if he would like it if you wore makeup more often, and by default assume he didn't mean anything by his comments. This is always the safest way with guys as generally there isn't much hinting and we will answer direct questions truthfully.
Problem is, when we do answer it, it's usually offensive to the girl, it's a lose lose situation
If we say you should, you think we think you're ugly and we say you shouldn't, you think that we're just saying it to spare your feelings