My boyfriend really dominant and wants me to be his slave/submissive. What should I do?

I really love this guy but he have fetish. He love rough sex and bdsm. He wants me to be submissive n beg for his d*ck.
What makes me feel uncomfortable is he always angry if i can't give what he wants. He love anal. Im not into it.
And everytime he gets angry, he said mean things n calling me with bad words like bitch, whores. I felt hurt but i love him so much
Is that normal with his behaviour? I means when i can't give what he want n makes him very stressful.
Now he ignored me. He blocked my whatsapp but in 7 days he unblocked it again. I sent messages to him but he won't answer it till now (its already 2 weeks).
What should i do?
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  • Drop him is what you should do.
    Nice that you feel so much love for him. However, if he is into BDSM, he wants you to be his slave (not sub and there is a difference), and gets mean and angry... You need to think about what you want and don't want. If you stay with him, he will make you his slave. And you will have to deal with his anger, and anal, and everything else he will subject you to. He will not change! So either drop him and get over the 'love' you have for him, or keep going the way you are and deal with him and his BDSM lifestyle. I guarantee it will get more intense.
    Good Luck.

    • Thank you for ur answer, yes im still confused with BDSM lifestyle. He told me he was a dom n wants me to be a sub but it feels he treat me more like a slave. He said he would love to spit on my face also n he imagine to put my face on the floor during sex. How could it turn him on? My love is not enough to him, i will try my best to move on.

    • It turns him on to dominate and humiliate you. Doms - men and women - get off on that. It is not for everyone. Be strong and find a guy who will treat you right. :)

    • Thanks for the MHO> :) I hope you can get out and get on with your Life.

  • Clearly you aren't for each other. The whole sex thing won't change, you'll always not be into it and he'll always get angry about it. That won't change.
    You aren't right for each other, everyone has fetishes but if there's no compromise there's no hope

    • Yeah, it feels we are not compatible on sex even though i love him so much n already gave all my heart. Im just a bit scared. Thank u for ur answer

    • No one should feel scared in a relationship. If he gets angry Every time, he'll get angry all the time. Like I have fetishes but I wouldn't get angry if the girl wasn't into them, I'd respect her opinion and that's it done

    • I ever asked to him if probably he need help from a professional but He refuse n said he was not crazy. He dont like if im asking too many questions too. Like his past or maybe if he has a traumatic story. He won't answer n gets angry Maybe its time for me to go, since he refuse me to help him too.

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  • I think you need a new boyfriend he shouldn't treat you that way

    • Thank you for mho

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  • Good God leave him TODAY. He is abusing you.

  • True Dominants/Master within the BDSM realm have revered control of their emotions, and a deep regard for the protection and wellbeing of those that serve him. Without trust, these relationships will not last, so I would advise you to leave.

  • Your boyfriend isn't dominant. He is an abusive prick and you are too blinded to figure that out.

    There is nothing wrong with a power imbalance in a relationship, but it needs to remain respectful. Think about it like a pilot and it's copilot.

  • Get a new boyfriend


    He is abusing you

  • Run, dont walk away from this dude. Seriously. Run

    • Thank u for ur answer. Do u think he is dangerous?

    • I dont know him. But so called doms who dont respect consent are just rapists in disguise and you should have no tolerance for that.

    • Yes, i tried to learn about bdsm n ussualy a dom should respect his sub. I felt really hurt n now i try my best to forget him. Thank u...

  • If you aren’t into that head for the hills- he will do things you don’t like and will likely hurt you.

  • Sounds like an ass.

  • Leave him, he is not a Dom, a Dom looks out for his subs. This guy just wants what he wants and doesn't care about your needs. It will only get worse if you stay...

  • Tell him to f**k! Then dump and move on

    • Thank u for ur message, yes i try to move on

  • re-read what you just wrote... and imagine its a friend of yours asking you... im reading a lot of displeasure on your part... why subject yourself to this behavior? he sounds unstable and cruel...

  • What? This so bullshit

    • Yeah, my true story

    • Okay but you don't need to be slave anyone 😠

    • Yes, i prefer to move on

  • Its time for you to leave him

  • Never be a sex slave to a male

  • If he’s literally blocking u for not giving him anal he's the asshole XD ditch him

  • You just aren't sexually compatible. Best to just move on to someone else.

  • It's normal for the guy to be sexually dominant and the girl submissive, but they way he treats you when he doesn't get what he wants and forcing you to do sex acts you don't want, like anal, is NOT normal. I know you care abut this guy but I'd suggest dumping him. He sounds like the kind of asshole who will always be a asshole.

    • Thank you, yes i try my best to move on

    • Good luck.

  • Dominate him. Real women are dominant. My girlfriend is dominant.

    • Im dominant enough in real life specially at work n family. But my boyfriend dont like if i dominate him, he wants me to be submissive.