My husband doesn't want me to wear makeup. Whenever I wear MASCARA (nothing more!), he gets angry. Why?

Question

We've been married for three years (M25 and F23) and have two children. I wear makeup (specifically just brown mascara) only because as a mom of two little children I have very little time to take care of myself and I still want to feel pretty. So I apply it to look a little more "presentable", I guess. The same goes for straightening my hair from time to time. On both occasions, he hits me with his pretty comments like "You look like a prostitute" or "take that off, I am ashamed because of you". I have always dressed modestly and I still do. I have tried to discuss it with him, but he always says the same thing: "You vowed you'd obey me when we married. If you won't take your makeup off, you'll go to hell". I love our kids and him, but he's kind of making it very difficult for me. I never suspect him of anything, even when he is late or staying in another town.

Tamera952 · Accepted Answer

Ohh no, no, no, no. Just no. This is beyond a red flag, & something: A. He shouldn’t be concerned with, B. Doesn’t get to dictate or control, C. Reveals some VERY fucked up insecurities & issues about him.

You should tell that motherfucker that OF ALL THINGS, this is what he’s choosing to make an issue out of? You should tell him, I’ll wear whatever the fuck I want, whenever the fuck I want to. You should tell him you’re wearing it for YOU, not him, & HOW DARE he make rude comments about it. Tell him he is a petty fool, & to worry about more important things, & if he doesn’t like it, he can go FUCK OFF.

Poliker · Accepted Answer

From what I got, he is trying to make sure that you do not show the world how beautiful you can be. Makeup can only enhance a woman's beauty. He thinks that if you did wear makeup, then you could meet someone even better than him and leave him. To stop this reality, he has chose to take the immature and demeaning route to make you feel horrible for wanting to improve yourself rather than just strengthening your relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, you definitely got married too young for one and he is very controlling and now that you have kids with him you’re going to have to stick it out a little bit more than someone who hasn’t had kids but I understand you wanting to look good for yourself, but he is Apparently insecure and jealous and doesn’t want other men looking at you

oldguystillhasit · Accepted Answer

Some guys just don't seem to realize that the entire female body contains many erogenous zones and each woman has different "triggers". The only way to find out where the triggers are is to explore her everywhere

CourtneyJane2 · Answer

He's being an insecure manchild who doesn't want other men checking you out and finding you attractive.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Hmmm, Biden asked this too.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Sounds like it’s time to replace your husband.

slatyb · Answer

Sorry. He's a nasty controlling man.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Guess that is his preference.

PeanutbutterAnd · Answer

He might know the answer.

Unit1 · Answer

Congratulations! You have married a control freak. Enjoy "till death do you part". Or you know... find a way out. If you're in the US, you'll be fine.