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What are your opinions on staying a virgin until marriage?
ruthy115 Xper 3
I was just wondering what everyone thought about keeping your virginity until marriage. Also, if you're a Christian, is it OK to do other sexual things e. g. Fingering etc.
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76 138If that's what you wanna do, go for it
I couldn't have done it, but if a couple is OK with it, who am I to object? You really need both partners to be fully on board with it, though, so that one or both don't cheat out of frustration.
Studies show that the more men a woman sleeps with, the more likely that her marriage will end in divorce. Virgins til marriage are the least likely to divorce and the most likely to report being happily married. Whether you're Christian or not then it still makes sense if you want a successful marriage.
Most people see it as backwards and out-dated, and seem to think that it's better o sleep around while you're young or at least date multiple people before settling down. It's no coincidence that with a rise in this mentality comes a rise in divorce rates, single parenthood, and all the problems that this causes for all involved, especially the children.
As for other sexual stuff like fingering, of course that's just the same. The point is to save your sexual side for someone you love and want to marry. Letting someone you're not gonna stay with finger bang you before you suck his dick is still being sexual. It isn't just about PIV sex, and anyone who thinks otherwise is just an idiot.
People who wait till their married are more likely to stay married longer because they feel like they are obligated to do so.
@BoyIfYouDont666 ... and they're more likely to report being happy in their marriage, whereas those with more partners are more likely to be dissatisfied. Perhaps those who wait just take marriage a lot more seriously too. You say they feel like should stay married like it's a bad thing, you're supposed to be very careful about who you marry and stay with them for life, not until you things get a bit hard.
Your right. You should be very careful about who you marry. But most people who wait till their married usually dont wait longer than a year. And i dont really call that choosing carefully.
@BoyIfYouDont666 Them why do you think that statistically they divorce leads and report higher marriage satisfaction? The evidence doesn't seem to support what you're saying.
Because they are religious and stay married for religious reason?
I want to give it a way in a more stable, long lasting, committed to the death relationship.
I think it's a great idea, less disease and less broken homes with kids combined with people working out their differences and problems within their marriage.
i guess it's your choice. but doing it for a reason other than for yourself is stupid. dont stay a virgin because of your parents or friends or supposed religion. i mean, dont have sex when you're hella young but dont refrain if you want to do it.
For me That ship has sailed. And while I think everyone should take their time and choose the right partner for their first time, I don’t think waiting till marriage is the best thing for a relationship. Its one piece of determining compatibility with your mate. And all the compatibility tests you can do BEFORE deciding on marriage with someone, will only aid in the success of that marriage.
What if you guys don't work well together and then your stuck witj them.
I don't see it as practical but do you.
Strongly support it.
It's useful way to lower the risk of getting fucked and dumped.
If it works for you then great i'm not going to tell someone its pointless if for them it is important.
I just don't see the point of it for me, if you get married and aren't sexually compatible is that okay for the two people? as it is a possibility so i do personally think its a bad ideal practically but if it means something to them then they should go through with that.
I honestly think sex is a natural human behavior and while it is your free choice to wait until marriage I just have a hunch that when you finally do get married and have sex you will realize that you've wasted the last few years when you could have been having sex and enjoying it. However I understand that your faith and that's important to you however I used to be a Christian and at the time I believed virgin until marriage but anything else was fair game. Just my two cents.
If we act as animals, we become animals and marrige os harder to obtain.
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Please take this as a joke that it is, but I hope you guys act like animals when you get married. It will make your marriage better and help ensure that you guys stay happy. :-)
Haha losing yourself in bed is a whole different thing
You follow my meaning exactly, my friend. :-)
Ideally I would like to, but I'm not getting any younger lol... and it's going to be very tough to find a girl that is willing to wait and put up with that, on the flip side.
We're living in much different times...
You do whatever you feel comfortable with.
I personally don't see a reason in waiting.
It really does not matter these days so up to each girl.
As a Christian, no it's not okay. Fingering is still sex, whether actual intercourse is involved or not. No oral, no hand jobs, no anything. Sex is sex, and it's meant for marriage.
My opinion on abstinence before marriage is absolutely favorable. Sex is quite the tool and quite the double-edged sword, and it should stay in the marriage bond
I think it's fine. But if you're gonna do the other things you mentioned you might as well spread those legs.
Yeah, at that point who can hold back without killing the whole mood
Never got it. What if you're sexually incompatible with each other? You won't know until after marriage.
I don't think I'll stay virgin until marriage tbh, I don't wanna wait for a piece of paper to get my sexual freedom. But, I do put value into it, so I do wanna have very strong feelings for the person I have sex with.
The same!