Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Should I have a threesome with my boyfriend?
Anonymous
I have put a LOT of thought into this. We are in a great relationship, we love each other very much, we both enjoy sex and are both very comfortable with each other. I've fantasized about a threesome for years but I never felt comfortable enough with a boyfriend to tell him my fantasy. I was scared that they'd see me differently and not like a serious girlfriend. Either way fast forward to my current relationship: I finally felt comfortable talking about it with my boyfriend. The first time he heard about it he wasn't judgmental at all but he basically told me that he didn't think it was a good idea because of what it might do to our relationship. The more we talk about it though, the more into the idea we get. I found that I orgasm really hard whenever we're talking about it. I'm not naive though, I know the very real possibility of all that could go wrong too. I have read almost every article on this, on all the reasons not to and the few reasons you may want to. I don't know whether or not I'll be jealous seeing him with someone else or all the other horrific things I can end up feeling. After discussing everything we had decided not to but a few months ago we went on vacation and we were having a great night and it was just a night that felt right to go for it so I told him I was totally up for having a threesome that night if we found a girl we liked. We found someone amazing, we both liked her, great personality, I even worked up the nerve to ask her if she wanted to join us but it didn't end up happening because her sister was there. Even though it didn't happen the experience of flirting with someone together was great and that night we had the most amazing sex just talking about that girl and everything we would have done to her. So now I'm really considering going for it. So I'm asking, do you think I'm dooming my relationship with this? I tried to put it behind me but I honestly think this is something that's not just going to go away until I try it.
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What Girls & Guys Said
12 21If you want your relationship to fail, sure, be my guest!
Yes it sounds like you've thought it through, have an interested girl and are a great couple.
Go for it and enjoy it! You're all so lucky
Oh wow! My experiences here are a lot different than the experiences from other people. I've been with my fiance for 6 years and about 4 years ago, we started having 3 somes. Why? Because we got bored of just having sex with each other. She would only do 1 guy 2 girls as she thought 2 guys 1 girl would be too weird. In fact sometimes we would actively pick up chicks and she made the greatest wingman ever. My fiance is pretty attractive but she would pull girls way more attractive then her. And ocassionally when i was by myself other girls would try to hook up with me and id be like "I have a girlfriend, but would you be down for a 3 way?" and many girls are surprisingly.
Since we are engaged we dont really do 3 somes anymore but earlier on we had 3 somes so much that I fucked just as many girls as I would have if I was single.
with another girl or another man? you know you will get jealous if it is a girl right?
you are a lesbo and the relationship is dead... .
have u ever had threesome?
If you feel strongly that you need this and that you can both handle it without either of you ever catching the jealousy bug (which can and will destroy you both if either one of you catches it!), then go for it.
Not necessarily. My wife and I actually started a relationship with a girl we met for a threesome. She's like a second wife now and lives with us and is having my baby.
#coolstorybro 🙄
@redeyemindtricks thank you, we got our happy ending good luck with yours.
Don't need luck, but thanks.
#sisterwives while personally I don't agree with that, I'm glad you're happy. how does your wife handle the jealousy? Does she feel you're splitting up the love between her and the other girl?
@juniorsrosie no it eases her burden and sometimes they have sex when im at work, but they do fight and get jealous. With homosexual relationships now normal and I don't see why are spirtual marriage should be oppressed and outlawed after all traditional marriage is a social construct..
I don't think they should be in the position where they fight and get jealous like do you ever feel bad that they do that?
like who's idea was it to add a third person to the marriage
I don't believe in marriage to more than one person because of human insecurities and how is someone supposed to give the amount of love to multiple people that one person deserves
@juniorsrosie it was their idea I wasn't sure at the start but it worked out ok. The jealousy and fighting often works in my favour as they are both always keep fit, well dressed, up for sex and it keeps them in check as the dinner is always ready when I come home and house clean.
Yeah it works out for you, but not for them.
A similar excuse was used against homesexuals marrying and having kids. I dont hold your opinions against you just to say your wrong and that society hasn't progressed as far as I wish it would one day.
Actually, I'm not wrong. And neither are you. We both can have our opinions. Personally I don't think it's fair that your actual wife has to fight for your affection.
like you use the jealousy in your favor. how is that healthy
@juniorsrosie It was their choice and both are happy.
You just said they fight and are jealous.
@juniorsrosie of course just like sisters or friends or lover they bitch, moan and get jealous. But one thing thats certain is their devotion to me, each other, our marriage and the kids. I lucked out getting to great women.
@juniorsrosie If this story is true, then I'm the queen of Zimbabwe.
Yeah this isn't true
@juniorsrosie fortunately it is. I feel king of the world when I come home.
oh yeah. sexist
@juniorsrosie In fact, now that I think about it, I think the same anon wrote the same BS story before, except last time it was the wife's sister ahah
@redeyemindtricks how us ut sexist for women to make their own choices or do you only like it when conform to your ideas of a traditional male/female marriage? Come on its 2016 enough with bigotry against those that choose to live different lifestyles.
lol yeah this is fake. thanks for letting me know! I actually felt bad for his wife
I know married couple that couldn't have kids because the wife couldn't safely carry to term. The surrogate is now part of the marriage, so the baby has both mom's. I think it's great.
that's a different situation than this guy is proposing. he wants his cake and to eat it too
that's not giving your heart to two people
@juniorsrosie
A person can give their heart to many people, what bugs you is that you can't understand why two women could choose to live this way, remember its a choice they each made. Homosexuals met tge same kind of ignorance abd opposition because they lived differently than how others thought they should.
Yeah this is kinda different than homosexuality but whatever. I see you're a troll who couldn't even get one woman, let alone two
@juniorsrosie this married couple asked their bisexual girlfriend that they share to carry the baby for them. So yeah, it started out exactly the same. They've all been together as one family unit for 6 years now, in a two bedroom house.
@juniorsrosie I don't get why you have a problem with others living differently to you. @dragonfly6516 aww thats sweet, love know no bounds.
it's different because this started out as a threesome, and they don't NEED this other girlfriend to carry their baby. They chose it. That's how it's different. What's the point of getting married if you're going to fuck around with other girls? God people are idiots nowadays
I also don't agree with this guy's attitude that the girls fighting and being jealous makes things better for him. That's just petty and immature.
Also what was sexist is how you expect them to be perfect housewives and have dinner ready on the stove and to SERVE you. your entire attitude about this is selfish
"@juniorsrosie it was their idea I wasn't sure at the start but it worked out ok. The jealousy and fighting often works in my favour as they are both always keep fit, well dressed, up for sex and it keeps them in check as the dinner is always ready when I come home and house clean." sexist pig
"Keeps them. in check" Yeah fuck you
@juniorsrosie ^^ That's the part that gives it away as obvious bs. Don't feed the troll
@juniorsrosie I was just honest about the jealousy working in my favour, its not like I planned. Am I supposed to feel bad? Your problem is that you can accept their choice to live other than your conservative vision of the world. Many women choose to be housewives would you deny them that right and force them to work and join the military? I dont expect anything more than what they expect of me as a good husband and provider, also its wrong to shame women for taking pride in their health, appearance and sexlife as it is for them putting effort into cooking and cleaning. Why do you seek to shame my wives for being the best they can be each day and choosing to submit to their loving husband?
lol fuck off troll
@juniorsrosie God I hate bigots.
God I hate 35 year old men who spend their time glued to their phone like a teenager instead of working like they should.
@juniorsrosie I hate women who think men aren't the equal of men when in comes to making their own choices
The man in the married couple in their dominant, and the wife didn't that she couldn't have kids on her own. They were already engaged in a 3-way relationship before the idea of kids came up. Also, you apparently haven't heard of "days off". Or maybe that's why your getting so pissed at him. You haven't had time off to get laid and you're jealous. It's not being sexist to want a housewife if you're planning to do all the working and pay all the bills.
Also, considering you both are trolls, that's pathetic you're wasting your life away on at app at the age. Sounds like someone doesn't have a boyfriend or a life
Don't have a life... I'm a ghost tour guide making over $500 weekly. My life is very full and exciting. No my dear, we are double your age, and HAPPY living in ways that you've been taught are wrong, and now that you have the freedom to try it for yourself, you're just being post because you're too scared to try.
@TheTrueLordJ she thinks that I don't have a boyfriend, and that I'M the troll!
it's pathetic when two 30+ year Olds feel the need to prove themselves to an 18 year old
act your age
Not here to prove anything. I'm enjoying the child who keeps screaming that's she's done and calling us trolls, yet keeps coming back for more!
Why aren't you at work right now, if you're so high and mighty? Unless you're using your phone at school. And what's that say about you?
omg just stop be mature and stop responding
"Stop be mature"? Yeah, you're definitely using your phone in class. Get off the phone, and learn grammar.
or maybe you need to go to school and get educated
** "Or maybe you need to go to school, and get educated." I fixed this one for you, but I don't feel right keeping you from class any longer. Bye now!
18+20=38 She needs math lessons too...
@dragonfly6516 well said. The current crop of kids or so entitled these days and dont really recognise the privilege of a college education considering someone else is footing the bill.
Good on you guys for bullying an 18 year old. Good on you children!
So let's get this straight: She comes on here, comments on your opinion, attacks you, and then insults me when I try to defend you, but we're the bullies? #doublestandard
Just to let you know, I reported your comments and I'm hoping to get this ridiculous response taken down.
I said nothing to you that was offensive, or that could not be proved here in plain site, such as your lack of grammar and math skills. You however, did directly insult me in the same comment where you tried to get 33 by adding 18 and 20.
Honey, remember when you said "we are double your age" and I didn't comment on your math skills? Gee, I never knew 18x2= 33!
I didn't comment because I wasn't going to be a bitch and try to find little nit picky things to belittle you with. But you know, I also have morald so guess that's what differentiates us.
*morals
Nice try. prove me right that you just want attention and keep replying. You're the only one complaining to mods when you're just throwing more fuel on the fire.
by the way, 18x2 doesn't equal between 30-35. So stop being a hypocrite and commenting on others math skills when you can't even do simple multiplication.
Oh I like how you don't comment on how much of a hypocrite you are. I cornered your ass. Now that I've proved your idiocy, I'm done.
You also have lack of grammar and math skills, yet difference is you're "double my age" (according to you.) What does it say about you that you're fighting with someone who's young enough to be your child and you have less math and grammar skills than she does?
I bet anything you won't respond now since I've proved how much of a hypocrite you are. Because if you were a mature adult that was my elder you would've stopped responding ages ago.
Actually, I'm at work, and I'm not going to give anymore of the attention that you can't get IRL.
I noticed you still didn't comment on how you can't multiply. Bye then. Hope your job doesn't require morals.
@juniorsrosie please stop trolling on my opinion. Remember if you have problems then they ate your problems, seek help. Also I've reported you for trolling.
I don't care. Find something better to do than argue with someone young enough to be your child.
Also I am pretty sure you're the one with the problems if you think women are subservient to men, as you stated before by having your wives "serve"you.
@juniorsrosie they serve me as I serve them its called marriage. We all take care of each other. You obviously have a problem with women making their own decisions to be a wife, mother and home maker which is quite fascist. Let me remind you that this is my opinion that you are trolling on simply because your butthurt.
Wow. This chick is admitting that she is intentionally attacking you just because she doesn't agree with you. The very definition of both trolling and bullying. Don't worry OP, you're not alone in choosing this lifestyle. I am subservient to my boyfriend, because I CHOOSE to be. I enjoy it, and it makes me feel needed. He wasn't a dom when we first got together nearly 3 years ago, he grew into it. Other women also feel the way I do. Don't let this little girl get to you anymore. An adult wouldn't need to run crying about bullies on the internet, they would simply stop encouraging them. That's how we know for fact that this girl is a troll, a bully, and an immature brat. How many times has she said she was done, and also begged us to stop? Then when we did stop acknowledging her, she started trying to flame. She digs her own grave with this one.
@dragonfly6516 some people have emotional problems and daddy issues I guess and use the Internet as a platform for this.
I highly doubt this is actually an 18 year old girl. A simple search revealed her comments on another post with her very experienced, and detailed preferences for uncircumcised guys. So she either started out having sex young and does indeed have some serious daddy issues, she was mistreated by a sadistic male claiming he was "just dominant", or this is a trolling account.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2167705-do-you-think-it-s-a-good-thing-if-the-guy-is-circumcised-or-rather
Just in case anyone is curious...
Stop stalking me and get a life. You're 33. You should have better things to do than stalk a girl on the internet. I stopped responding hours ago and I'm only responding now to say you've taken it too far. If you don't give it a rest and stop responding I will report you to the mods.
@juniorsrosie that is creepy stalker trolling behaviour its probably a dude too.
Except that you're NOT a "girl", which was my point. You lost your innocence long ago, or you're a dude. OP, with how quickly you switched sides, it looks like juniorsrosie was right about you on a few counts. You clearly are intimidated by intelligent women, as they would be too hard for you to dominate and control. It's not stalking when the information is made public online for anyone to see.
@dragonfly6516 your both as bad as each other. Im out.