Should I wait (to have sex) for MARRIAGE? ?
I am struggling lately with my choice of whether to have sex or not.
I am 20 and still a virgin. Never had a first kiss until a year ago so i am very inexperienced with flirting, dating etc. All of my friends , literally all of them lost their virginity when they were like 15-16, even my younger cousins did it, and i am here waiting because no one is making any moves on me. Ok you might think "you must be ugly then".. I'm not the most gorgeous girl on the planet but people consider me good looking so I might believe them.. now you must think "maybe you are too shy and that can be unattractive for most guys" no.. it's not even that.. I'm a Sagittarius and I'm the most outgoing person ever.. I like to be in the centre of attention and I like making people laugh.. so why? Why do I consider myself as a loser somehow? All of my friends are like "right, this year is your year.. you HAVE to lose your virginity. Trust me sex is amazing and waiting more and more is not worth it"... I don't know if I want to believe that.
I sure hope sex is amazing but at the same time I know that if I wait for marriage, the guy who is then going to be my husband will LOVE me for sure, because if a guy waits months or even years in order to have sex with a girl he must really LOVE and RESPECT her.. and that is what I want.. I want the assurance of someone loving and wanting me like that. At the same time tho therestmy sexual frustration: it's not like I want to give it to anyone and everyone but I am starting to feel like I am missing out.. I feel like am still a child and I don't spread sexiness and femininity.. but if I had sex I would completely change my image and maybe I would be more confident with myself. If I like a guy mostly for sexual chemistry and tension... should I go for it? How can I convince him? I am afraid that if I go and have sex with any guy, I will lose the thing that makes me special and different from all the other girls, and I won't find love anymore.
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