This is going to get a lot of hate, I'm sure. Frankly I don't care about who judges me for this as I have to make life choices that won't negatively affect me emotionally. I dont jump in bed with people like that. So yeah it matters to me but to each their own. None of these options. It has nothing to do with "worthiness" for me. It has to do with having a different moral compass. We dont see eye to eye on it so we won't be compatible. Science shows (and i will link the studies) that the more partners you have the less likely you are to stay faithful.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4085758/Experts-reveal-sexual-partners-ve-determine-likely-DIVORCE.htmlhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dollars-and-sex/201308/too-many-lovers-too-little-lovehttps://psiloveyou.xyz/what-happens-to-your-brain-after-having-too-much-casual-sex-41a206c7f303 https://bryanasands.wordpress.com/2013/06/23/sex-and-glue-the-emotional-bond-of-a-physical-act/
And for me it's just kind of disgusting but hey people see things through a different lens. For instance there are people who have no qualms about having sex with prostitutes despite them having had sex with others a hour or two before. For me that would feel and seem very unsanitary. Maybe there's a bit of germaphobia involved, I honestly have no idea. You can say "But they are STD free" and yeah that's enough for some people but for me it's like locking lips with someone who had someone else in their mouth or giving oral to someone else who was inside. It almost feels somewhat homosexual in nature tbh. My religious background is also going to play a huge role so again, not likely to work out between us. I'm not a hypocrite and i practice what I preach. My body count is low despite the numerous offers for sex and relationships that I felt weren't a good fit for my lifestyle and outlook.
To each their own but you’re snarky derision of people you have a different lifestyle with is a bit appalling. But you do you sir…
@still-alive I'm not poking fun of people. As I said you do you. I explained why it repulses me. No one can help the way they feel about certain things and the science shows the horrible outcomes for long term relationships for a lot of people who make these decisions. I'm honestly tired of the language used against me for not wanting a girl with a high body count. You haven't seen the interactions so I suppose you would just see my comment and think one way. But I've had people shame tf out of me over it and act like I HAVE to change my dating preferences. Again this isn't about "worthiness" so I'm not looking down on people. Simply saying for me it feels and seems unsanitary and nasty. But if it's not for others more power to them because that just means they get lots of options for whatever it is they are looking for.
@still-alive also want to add that if you aren't looking for long term it matters less. But has the numbers show even if everything else is fine and dandy your chances for a lasting marriage go down drastically as opposed to people with few or no body counts. So for me, that's very important as I dont believe in divorce either for most things. Although infidelity is certainly one of them
I really don’t care.
it’s their past, as is how they got to a high body count.
things like the following I really don’t care about and have answered questions on these today.
Ethnicity of previous partners.
jobs they had (such as dancer, stripper etc)
sexuality
numbers of partners
type of sex
And a bunch of other stuff.
are they a nice person, do I get on with them, are we compatible… rest does not matter.
I wouldn't ask for a specific number but i’d ask if theyve been with more than a handful. The ideal number is that they’ve been with 3 and under. But if its less than 5, i still feel okay. I just dont like if someone is easy is just throws themselves in one night stands and stuff. I need someone who has self respect and at least new the person a good while or was in a longterm relationship with them. If they’re sleeping with more than one person a year, that honestly disgusts me too so i wouldn't even ask for gaps and details. One of my exes later in life had been with 6. It bothered me but i reminded myself i could be lucky #7. Lmao yea that still didn't make me happy. I never slept with him though. The two dudes i slept with, one was a virgin and the other had one girl before me but he was the one who took my virginity. He also was the one who cheated on me with several girls while we were dating. Part of his reasoning was that he wouldn't cheat if he could “at least see if it could fit.” But then he continued to cheat anyways because i wouldn't give him head. I was disgusted knowing he slept with others and yet I stayed with him anyways. I was only 15/16 but once i got out of that toxic relationship, i felt dirty (although he used condoms with them but went raw with me). I was lucky to make it out STD and disease free but vowed to never let another guy do me any kind of way. So yea, if he's been with more than a handful, i dont want him. I dont care if he's clean or not. Its just a mentally dirty feeling for me. I pretty much agree with @t-8900
everyone has the right to pick and choose who they will have relationships with and their standards. It's not fair to act like everyone has to have the same standard and live with others CONTINUED mistakes. If we have a different moral compass then we aren't going to mesh, even if I got passed the body count aspect. I believe that any sex outside of a long term committed relationship is dirty and wrong. Everyone is free to see it how they like and to each their. But I would feel foul sleeping with a girl who's been around the block as well as extremely embarrassed, especially if I bumped into one or lots of their exes on the street. Its okay for a celeb to only date a celeb or a muslim to only date a muslim, but somehow its not okay for a person with certain standards on sex to date someone with the same standards. And ofc you get more shade thrown at you if you're a man with dating standards while women can have all the standards they want. People talk about how a guy is "not entitled to a girl" and thats TRUE but is it not also true in the reverse order?
“ I need someone who has self respect” Why can’t someone be promiscuous and still have self respect? See its this stuff that irks me a bit. You can have your lifestyle and thats fine but them you add this little tinge of condescension towards others. Its a bit appalling…
@t-8900 lmao this shit made me laugh 🤣 But you’re right and yes men have the right to be picky too. Just because a lot will fuck a stripper or prostitute doesn't mean you have to as well. My friend guys used to take their girls with them to the strip club and one asked if inwanted to join. #1 what can a naked girl do for me if i ain't gay? Lmao. #2 stripclubs just wreak STDs. I wouldn't even touch a doorknob 🤣 And omg the way you said “continued” mistakes. Lmao the shaaaaade. Boy lemme find my sunglasses 💀 I even felt like i made a continued mistake everytime i took back my cheating boyfriend at 15. But i can also use the excuse of being young, dumb and naive. That shit didn't fly with any other dude because it only took one huge fuckup of a boyfriend for me to learn that i deserved better. And you doo too. So dont settle for these hoes and dont let these other hoes guilt trip you. Everyone can follow the path they see fit for them. But i just know i’ll be walking down a narrow one that a lot dont agree with. And as you said, i’d only sex a Christian as well. I tried the whole atheist dating thing and that shit just ain't for me. I need a certain code of morals
I would tell myself that it didn't matter because that was their past and I'm their present and hopeful future. And then I'd proceed to make them forget about anyone else they've ever slept with 😌
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Honestly, it wouldn't really matter to me. My current partner is more "experienced" if you want to put it that way, than me anyways. I really don't care.
As far as I know, they have no history of cheating, so what does that number matter.
They chose to be with me and they are still with me. That number really shouldn't come into play at all.
What my partner did (or did not do) before we met, is frankly none of my business! Obviously I insist on testing, and not that test you got 6mos ago… we’ll go together and get tested, if the results are clear for both, we can begin having sex w/o condoms. So long as we agree that we are in a monogamous, committed relationship! As for who, or how many people you have been with before we even met, it’s frankly none of my business, my ONLY concern is your “body count” while we are together, because if it goes higher than ONE your ass is gone! Infinitely is one thing I will not tolerate… if you wanted NSA sex, you could have just said that instead of begging me to be exclusive and then cheating on the very rules YOU asked for!
Define high, that is relative isn't it?
That depends on you so i won't define it. They just say their amount and whatever that is, is high to you.,
Probably not, mine is always higher.
Now nothing, my only concern would be the std part and you say they are clean. So I have no issues with this information. 🙃
People are people we don’t seize the moment or we make a lot of mistakes or maybe their unapologetic about it. People who feel they’re going to be judged even if they say they won’t be judged may not want to talk about it. I suggest don’t ever ask a question you aren’t prepared to handle
I picked G as I don't care
I genuinely do not care. I would not ask. If they volunteer it I would not judge. I might even lead with saying I don’t care their number just to get it out of the way, small or large.
This whole body count thing is something I was unaware of until I joined this site. I've probably had sex with 100 women, but it was spread out over 44 years. That's two, or at most, three different women per year. How is that number relevant?
I have to agree. And I have had sex with 1 man spread out over 21 years. 🤷🏻♀️ Is what it is. Does not affect relationships I may or may not have in the future since no one has a crystal ball.
Voted D, except the slut part. I don't agree with that. However, I would question how serious they were being with me. It would make me wonder if he was ready for a relationship and if he wanted a relationship at all.
I wouldn’t have asked in the first place.
His past made him who he is in present. The number is irrelevant.
I'll just agree here 🙃
@NathanDavis lol
100%
Nothing, and I wouldn't even ask the question.
Also, being a Bodhisattva, that wouldn't even be an issue, since I can purify other people's auras and wipe their spirit clean. JK, that's what the propaganda about me claims to the point of ridicolousness - in reality I just don't care and can't do anything about it anyway.
I would never ask such a retarded thing
Knowing myself, I'd probably break off the relationship. If I was dumb enough to ask that question, I know I would have a hard time avoiding the thought of how much mileage that crotch has gotten and that I'm like #76th in line for the sloppies.
I simply would not ask.
More interested in knowing if she has any STDs ongoing that how many guys she fucked. I couldn't care less about that. If she's successful in love, that's a good thing, unless she plans to have multiple sex stories at once. That'd not sit well with me.
Not even gonna lie I was real bothered when the dude I lost my virginity to told me his body count. Shit was insanely high.
I'm not interested in the number so much as the details so I can get off on the sworded details of her past encounters 😉
“Sworded” *snort* like sword fights? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I think you may have intended to say *sordid 😇 Laughing with you, not at you. 😊
@loves2learn oh god yes, never noticed that 🤣🤣🤣
I'm guessing this question is inspired by DizzyDesii's question. I don't care about body count and I wouldn't ask. The only thing I care about is that he doesn't have any std's.
I’m fine with that. By the time he’s already my partner body count is not a deal breaker.
Do you ever ask though?
Eventually it comes up. I’ve never had anyone refuse to give me a number.
Why ask though?
The only time I cared about a partner's former lover is when they told me they hadn't been lovers because they'd forgotten they'd already told me about him. It wasn't the ex, it was the lie.
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