That's definitely an odd situation.
On the one hand, a dildo is a dildo. Sex toys aren't cheap, and I can understand not wanting to get rid of one just because of its origin.
On the other hand, there's no way that that is just a dildo. She made it specifically to have a connection to him while they were apart, otherwise she could have just gotten a generic toy. So it is, in a way, like she's having you fuck her with another guy's dick, which is just weird.
I don't think you're wrong to be freaked out about it, but I don't think any of the options you put forward are good ones. An ultimatum is just going to make her feel defensive and lead to a combative situation rather than one where you can come to a mutual solution. It would be much better if first, with a cool head, you could explain to her why it freaks you out. Explain that the connection to her ex makes it feel like she prefers having sex with him and that it is really uncomfortable for you. Then, buy her a new dildo. A really good one.
If she still refuses, then ditch her. If she's either not over her ex, or is so inconsiderate of your feelings that she's unwilling to part with a creepy sex toy, then she's not worth hanging on to.0 0 0 0You're in the right. It's rude, classless, and psychologically nasty to try to sexually involve an ex-lover in one's current love life, regardless of the nature of that involvement, whether it be dildos, panties, bras, or anything else. Exes are referred to as an X because they are supposed to be X'ed out. You need to make an ultimatum: either it goes or you go.
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You're not acting like a jealous child. That's weird. She should have gotten rid of it. How would she feel if she were in your place? Maybe try asking her that question and getting her to see some logic from your side.
If she doesn't respect you and get rid of it because it bothers you (and if she cares she should get rid of something that bothers you that much) get rid of it.
If you kept some token of a girl like her bra or panties or soemthing I guarantee she wouldn't be ok with it. Because that's weird!!0 2 0 0Instead of get rid of it at the end of the last paragraph I meant break up with her
***in the last sentence of the second paragraph. Lol
haha.. thanks. Great advice. He has since taken said advice, burned the dildo and broken up with her.
They have kits for that? Are they expensive? I agree with the comment below me, dramaqueen1. It's is like have her wear a mask of you ex girlfriend and yea it's a bit odd. Can't she make one of yours now.It's replacement.
0 1 0 0I'm not reading all that. But I'll just answer the title question. No! You're not overreacting! She should have either gotten rid of it or never have you find out.
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11 13Thats actually weird. So talk to her about it.
0 1 0 0That's so fucked up, like, please give her an ultimatum. She has you to please her. Talk to her about how you can please her without a mold of a guy she once fucked.
0 1 1 0What about making a mold of your own penis? Then burn his. If she gets mad, she's not worth it.
2 3 1 0Tell her it would be like you asking her to wear a mask with your exes face on it while you had sex. What she's doing is weird and you should be bothered.
1 0 0 0Oh my god your answer choices were worded in a way that was hysterically funny.
But you should talk to her about it!0 1 0 0That is disrespectful to you. I would give her an ultimatum. How would she feel if you had a mold of your last gfs tits? Ill bet that would go over well. You're in the right.
2 0 0 0Apparently, your dick size is not good enough. You should confront her about it.
0 3 0 1I think you write erotica for a living. Hahaha
1 0 0 0That is serious issues, like sick, twisted. Break up with her.
0 1 1 0I would keep using it on her and my cock give her a double stuff might be great
0 0 0 0Is tom's dildo dick bigger than u? Does she have to have tom's dildo dick to get off? If so next instead of lube dip it in Mexican hot sauce and see if she likes dem apples. Or just dump the dildo snd dump her lifes to short to be disrespected.
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break up.2 1 1 0tell her to get back with tom asap
1 0 0 0I call bulshit the woman would have told you that it was his she's not that dumb
0 0 0 0Go get yourself a Clone-A-Willy kit. It's only $52 plus shipping. Clone your own willy then destroy her old dildo.
2 1 0 0Wtf dude break it off with her if she doesn't get rid of it wtf that is all kinds of fucked up
0 0 0 0That's fucked up and my guess is that Tom's much bigger than you. Break up with her NOW but not before you shove that meat shank up her ass to the hilt.
0 1 1 0She's crazy. Run. I would never in a million years do that unless I wasn't over my ex boyfriend. She is being so unfair to you!
1 1 0 0If you're not trolling, that is messed up. She's hugely disrespected and humiliated you. Dump her
1 0 0 0That's a deal breaker for me, I'd have walked.
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