Turn on or turn off: Dating a girl in a long and loving open relationship just for fun and casual sex?

[aswha2]

[aceleon]

did you just used ''loving'' and ''open relationship'' together?

wow whats next? happy funerals?

is that going like ''oh honey i love you so much even though tonight i will ben over for another dude'' or '' darling i love you so much especially when you let me suck a group of guys'' or maybe '' my love can you be a dear and bring me a tissue to wipe this creampie off my pussy after getting railed by mr. who cares who''

a guy needs to be a special kind of cuck to be in this kind of mess with such a massive whore.

[aswha2]

You are close minded. Everybody needs thrills and trying new things and new people. And everybody needs safety, love, security and comfort. My partner is the love of my life. But I enjoy casual sex a lot. so I can have both worlds.

[Johnny_162]

Umm, no, they don't... only if they're very immature. And furthermore, no you can't... it will come back around to bite you, you'll see how that pleasure seeking narcissistic mindset treats you in the end. If he truly was the "love of your life" he alone would be enough and you know it. Stop lying to yourself and others in order to justify your behavior to yourself. Deep down, you know the truth, but admitting it would mean giving up something that you've identified your ego with.

[aceleon]

well i rather not have my mind as open as your all holes only with a cuck who doesn't mind his girl getting banged by other guys, in short not a man who has biological male instincts. defend this whore attitude all you want, no real guy and even most girls agree with you, love of your life, were youloving him when you were blowing your 98th guy too? it's like ripping his guts out and saying you love him. but appearantly your boy is a cuck so it is what he deserves, if he had any male hormones in him he would dump your bitch ass the second another male presented itself.

[Dongie]

Define cuck please.

[getwiththepg]

@Dongie Letting your girlfriend get all holes filled like a bowling ball by someone else

[SueShe]

Dating a girl is a turn off. Fornicating casually is also a turn off. Thus, dating a girl for the sole purpose to copulate is a red flag and a huge turn off for any normal person.

I personally don't see of what good it is except for getting STD/STI to fornicate without being in a long term relationship. It just shows how superficial people are and how ruled they are by their sexual hormones.

Is fornicating in a "long and loving" open relationship really that special? It tells a lot about the people that lower themselves to do something like that. It tells that they cannot be trusted.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You are not representative of "any normal person" if your stance is that sex and dating are both turnoffs. You're certainly entitled to your asexuality, but let's not pretend it's normal. If you think it is you have a very poor understanding of statistics.

[SueShe]

@BoopBoopBeep thanks for your feedback

[BoopBoopBeep]

No I take that back, I misread the question "Open relationship" part escaped me in the sense of sex with others. Due to the lack of commas in the original post I didn't realize where those were separate descriptors and I took it as "a relationship that is loving, and open and honest" not "open" in the other sense. In that case, you're not expressing asexuality you're expressing a desire to not have a non-monogamous relationship, but since there's no edit button I'm stuck unable to change it. I don't have a problem with casual sex. Most men wouldn't. I do have a problem with sleeping with someone else's wife/girlfriend/whatever though, so that'd be a pass for me.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@sueshe Sorry my pre-coffee brain can't process, and sorry G@G can invest all this money in an AI but can't seem to manage to figure out how to script an "edit" button ;)

[SueShe]

@BoopBoopBeep @BoopBoopBeep That is all right, no harm done, only an opinion given :-) As a matter of fact, you have my respect for having apologized when there was no need to. I wish more people were like you.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

@BoopBoopBeep Don't ever try to attack our prophet again... our one and only Sueshe, her highness. She is the chosen one who'll show the the way of God to every humanbeing in the world from far East to wild West. May her soul be exalted to the highest level of heaven where she marries Jesus and continues her lineage there.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@sueshe Aw, thank you. I am not above apologizing. I have known so many people who just won't do it. I don't know, seems the world could use more sincere "my bad's" out there

[Kelly6]

@aswha2 im in open relationship and the guys i meet they all say it's turn on.

[aswha2]

Are you sure? People here really lowered my confidence. It is really swimming against current. First, getting your partner to understand and agree was hard enough. Then, communicating it to the the guys you are seeing. and society? very judgmental

[Mr_twoface]

For me having an open relationship for fun and casual sex equals being single and having multiple encounters. It's literally the same but different meaning to it.

For me the wording of relationship means doing more than just sex and that's what I seeked when going on dates, to find someone to get to know deeply so that I would fall for her.

[katiesmuff]

I'd say it is a turn off for me.

[Billlewis]

As long as it's thoroughly satisfying for her, I'm in favor of it. My only concern is to please the woman I'm serving; beyond that, there is no real reason for me to be in a relationship of any kind.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Each to their own, but I cannot love, or even respect a woman I'm expected to share with others!

[boggboss]

Its a open relationship for a reason has noting to do for me with loving but my ability to get sex outside of it no

[firenine909]

I wouldn’t think we’re dating in that sense but as a hookup sure

[SweetDripp]

That’s not dating

[Dargil]

Open relationships are a turn-off.

[laly520]

big turn off

never got point of open relationship

its waste of time

[Drumlin2001]

So she's cheating on partner

[aswha2]

No cheating. it is agreed (after a little work) that she could sleep around.

[Johnny_162]

That's very self-centered on her part. If she did actually love her partner she'd be willing to give up the shallow, meaningless sex which is probably only purely for validation purposes because she's actually that insecure and has no intrinsic self worth because of the validation seeking behavior in the first place. The things in life that are truly worthwhile, always require sacrifice. There must be a compromise to everything. In the long-run, the universe does not allow anyone to "have their cake and eat it too." Additionally, she must know deep down that she is hurting her partner even if he doesn't express it for her benefit, and that is not love by any stretch of the imagination, that is an immature and narcissistic lack of impulse control, which is a terribly low vibrational state for any human being to be in. Not to mention the cognitive dissonance that behavior must be causing within her subconscious which is unrealized and is no doubt festering like an undiagnosed disease just waiting to rear its ugly head in her personality. The ego will do or say anything to justify itself to itself, but the ego is not you. Any desire that arises from the ego is counterfeit, mature and evolved people understand this. Impulse control, or lack thereof, is one of the things that separate a child from an adult, in addition to having intrinsic value that doesn't require external validation. I truly feel sad for you.

[Johnny_162]

Sleeping around is just a form of validation seeking. It is not healthy and by far, most people will see right through it for what it is. Clearly, you're in denial of that simple fact.

[ProbablyClueless]

Massive turn off. I might enjoy connecting with someone like that, if she is an emotionally healthy person, but I have never once met someone involved in a lifestyle like that who was emotionally healthy.

I'm sure someone like that is out there. I personally haven't met them.

[aceistheplace]

Your wording was fine. Don't listen to the social misfits on this site. If your question is going to cause them to rock in the fetal position, then they shouldn't have replied.




I would do it as long as I knew it wouldn’t cause problems, or drama in their primary relationship.

[Nikki1989]

There is nothing better.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Please look up the definitions of words before using them.

[Yannae]

Fun for a time, but I want a soulmate, just me and her.

[DiegoO]

That would only mean for me: I am not interested in having anything serious, let's just chill. Is not like out relationship is gonna have any promising future.

[DiegoO]

our***

[AmeerX]

I want marriage. Period. Open relationship is not for people.
Polyamorous relationships work but just not for most people

[lucas262]

I dont share. And I lose all respect for anyone who does

[Alex-Snow]

I'm in an open friends with benefits relationship (we are in college) and so far it has been working out well. We promised each other if we have sex with someone else we will always use a condom. So far the sex has been fun. How about u?

[Staximus]

Open relationships are bullshit fantasies that usually never work. Sooner or later one of the people has a problem with the other one screwing somebody else. If you actually love somebody, you won't want to have sex with other people.

[DextroShade]

There is no "long and loving open relationship", you are just recreational use only meaning I would have sex with you until I get bored or you get too annoying and then I will ghost you.